Thread: Who are you dieting for?

Hi
just looking through the replies on this page, oh bless Andys74, you are obviously to subtle about it! I got chatting to a "lovely lady" recently, who during the day goes to work suited and booted, and I thougt what a shame "she" can't be herself. She looks better than me as a women as well, slim....
Back to the discussion, I am losing weight for so many reasons.
First for myself but also for my husband so I can look good when we go out. I was slim when we met and he says I look fine but I know I am not. I do have confidence but when it comes to my weight I need to stop lying, because it does bother me!
I also want to lose weight for my kids as I don't want the other kids to bully them. My mum never had an issue with weight so that wasn't a problem for me at school but I do know kids can be cruel so before mine are old enough to have bullying classmates I want to be slim!
Regards

Please ignore as I found it above!!!!!! Doh!

I have done it again..... lost my post that I have just typed!!!
I am doing it firstly for myself, but also for my hubby so that I look good when we go out and also for my kids.
Regards

I am losing weight for myself and my OH. Various reasons that are private to us but basically it involves health and fertility. x

I love this site - im doing this for my family and for me - Im much happier when im lighter and im a bloody grump when im heavy, so it does affect the people around me.

I want to be the confident person I used to be and I want to wear clothes I like instead of ones that cover up the fat.

Edd2712,

I soo agree with you, not just about this site, which I see you joined just before me but about the clothes. Baggy jumpers are getting very boring now!

Regards

I am losing my weight to make all my so called "work collegues" GREEN with envy. LOL
Not the most mature attitude but works magic to me.
xx

Wow, that's a good question. I almost feel guilty for saying I want to lose weight for my husband and my children. My husband is fantastic and has never put any pressure on me to lose weight but I feel like I've cheated him out of the wife he married. I'm about 5 stone heavier than when we met and he always tells me "I married you, not a shape" which is wonderful but I know I would be happier slimmer as I get irritated with myself when I've eaten a load of choc. Also who wants to be the fat mum at school? Okay I dress nicely and look smart but I'm still the chubby one . Can you still be called chubby at 47? I know I want to lose weight fo me but I think my family would love me to do it too. So why can't I???????????

i want to lose weight,

firstly for my daughter, i want to be fit enough to play all the games and keep up with her as she grows, to take her to school and her friends not think shes the girl with the fat mom and so ill be healthy to watch her grow up, have children of her own maybe, get married etc

secondly for me, i want to look like the girl/woman i have always wanted/felt like inside, to wear the clothes i love but at the moment just look horrible and not to fear looking in the mirror

thirdly for others, i want people to think nothing of it when i walk past, instead of seeing a fat young mom!

i REALLY cant wait till after xmas till i start getting rid of it all

I am desperate to lose weight for my brother who took his life a few weeks ago.
He always encouraged me with my weight loss and I feel I owe it to him to get it off and keep it off!

I am losing weight for me. I want to be healthy and I want to be able to look good and feel comfortable with myself. I want to be able to shop in 'normal' clothes shops and be able to wear sexy bras! I dont want to dread going out with friends because I know I will always be the biggest person in the group and the biggest person wherever we go. I want to be able to live my life without being paranoid that people are talking about my size no matter where I am. When my little cousins ask me to take them to the park I would like to be able to take them and be able to run about with them all afternoon! I want to be healthy and not so overweight that having my own children would be a problem right now. I want to be confident enough to go get a job I want. And most importantly of all I just want to be able to look in the mirror and not hate what I see.

wow what a fantastic thread and such interesting responses!

I started the weight loss journey primarily for me. To get back in control. It wasn't so much about losing the weight but facing my demons head on, which then led to the weight loss. Why was I overeating? Why did I reach for food as soon as I got stressed/unhappy/angry? I couldn't reach for the cigarettes any more as I had quit (best thing ever!) A very painful but necessary journey which I am still on.

Also losing weight for my fiance, because the weight gain was due to destructive behaviour that was really having a negative impact on our relationship. So for him too.

And I want to get healthy to improve chances of having a baby when we finally decide to try. So for my health and future babies (hopefully!).

Oh and finally I LOVE shopping! I hate seeing flab everywhere! Clothes just do not look as good on me now as they did when I was a size 10 many moons ago! I do want a Diane von Furstenberg dress aka Carrie when I get to goal (I have seen it in Selfridges, it will be mine!).

Interesting question. However I can honestly say that I want to lose weight for me. That statement is of course made up of little individual goals, like choice of clothes, health, not worrying how I am going to negotiate my way through crowded rooms, not having to ask for an extender belt when I go on an airplane, not feeling like everyone is looking at/judging me. I also have some things I would like to achieve of course; a bungee jump, zorbing, white water rafting, more travel all of which will become possible and/or easier when I am slimmer.

Years and years ago I lost 10 stone and my motivation at the time was that I wanted to feel accepted by society as a "normal" person. Unfortunately, once the weight was off, people started to treat me differently, to them I had become a whole new person and to be frank I couldn't deal with it. That's why I am doing this for me this time. I'm not really bothered if my decision to lose weight makes other people happy or not.

I'm losing weight for myself as I'm one to do just about anything for others, but hardly anything for myself. I'm also a high achiever with my goals in life, and I'm scared my weight's going to get in the way of doing what I really want. I already let my weight come in the way of all sorts of things from getting my picture taken to holidays to meeting people and I've just had enough. I also love clothes so much and it kills me that I can't wear what I want.

I also settle for less in relationships because of my weight. I just went through a seriously awful breakup and realised afterwards that although the guy was a jerk, it was also my fault, that my standards were low, because mainly of what I thought of myself. I find that I'm not happy unless I have someone to look after, take care of and spend time with which sounds terrible and co-dependent but it's not. I'm just really motherly and that's when I'm happiest, I like thinking of others, I can't help myself. So I just think losing weight would enable me to have normal standards for relationships and I might be able to have a healthy one this time around. If that's not the answer, then I can go deeper into my issues. I use my weight as an excuse a lot and I don't want that to be an option anymore. Enough faffing about already.

I'm also doing it for my dad. He values money, status and looks, and that's about it. I value intelligence, humour, knowledge, etc. I know my dad loves me but he's always tried to get me to lose weight, as of 6 he got a dietician to come around the house and I was always in swimming classes. As of high school he put me in sports teams. I made myself believe I liked it, but was miserable so ate anyway. Until lately, I didn't want to lose weight to spite him, but now I've gotten over it and don't think about it anymore. I've stopped lying to myself and telling myself that I actually like my "curves", and so on. It's not that I want my dad to love me more by doing so, but he's a shallow person and it's all he really cares about, and I could really do without the arguments my weight causes. Some days he's dead proud of me for my achievements, then others he makes sniddy remarks about my weight, while his wife is the same size as me... I'd rather he was just proud of me all the time like a normal parent. (I know, serious daddy issues, which probably explains my issues with men too).


I don't want to feel ashamed about myself, my looks, or eating even. I just want to stop constantly worrying about something so trivial that I can change. That's why and who I'm doing it for

For the first time, I can honestly say that I'm losing weight for me and my happiness rather than to please other people.

I wasted years with a man who was forever telling me about the "gorgeous" women he came into contact with at work and who were always chatting him up. I was by no means big, but he managed to chip away at my self esteem and make me feel huge, so I kept my weight at an unhealthily level to keep him happy. I realise now that he had esteem issues and was projecting them onto me.

When we split, I ate exactly what I wanted - my version of a great big two fingered salute to him I guess Then my gorgeous OH came along, and the cosy coupledom started. He's one of those lucky people who can eat anything and not gain a pound... unfortunately I'm not He's never commented on my weight, and always says he loves and fancies me exactly as I am.

The problem is I don't love me as I am. My weight is controlling my life - I'm avoiding social situations because I feel such a fat blob, and my self confidence is suffering. A longstanding back problem has also flared up again and I'm in constant discomfort, which is affecting everything I do - work, leisure and (probably tmi) lovelife are all suffering because of it

I want my life and my happiness back and, although I know that losing weight won't solve everything, it's the biggest and most immediate step I can take towards being the person I want to be.

good thread,love reading your reasons,my reasons (got a few)my health is the main one,its a right mess basically on 6 different pills plus extra when i get pain.
to wear lovely clothes not tents,
have a bit of energy to play with my 2 grandchildren while they are still young.
to be happy with myself.
to have a descent figure for when my son gets married in august this year 2010.
to have more energy to stick a week out at centre parcs with my son,wife,grandson.hubby as well.
AND BECAUSE IM JUST BLOODY FED UP WITH THE WAY I AM.sorry didnt mean to swear.