Thread: Who are you dieting for?

I know I'm doing this for me! I feel like I owe it to myself and my life to be happy with the way I look and be healthy. There are plenty of obesity related illnesses in my family and I know I don't want them, so at 28 years of age I know Im doing the right thing for me. Sure, I've been called names for being fat throughout my life, but Im not doing it for these people to accept me as I know people like that shout out your imperfections before someone announces theirs. Everyone has insecurities about something, the spiteful just plague others with their insecurities to shield the world from seeing their own.

I started dieting to look good and maybe for others as well, I think to myself most people who are 20 are slim! if I didnt care about the way I looked I would be heavier by now..

I'm dieting for me, for my health and for my kids. If I'm not healthy, then that impacts on the whole family.

I'm doing it for me - the approval of others means a lot to me, shallow though it may be, but in a roundabout way that also turns out to be for me.

I've struggled with my weight for a long time now and I've only just turned 24. I miss out on social occasions, my family and boyfriend have no pictures of me as I refuse to allow them to be taken. I hate shopping with a passion and don't even like walking around town for fear that all of the thin girls are staring at me.

Obviously I want to be healthy. That part goes without saying. But I have to admit that vanity plays a big part too. I hate being big. I hate the way I look in my clothes and lets not even think about the way I look without my clothes!

So in part I do crave the approval of others when I'm thinner as it will provide me with a much-needed boost of self-confidence and in turn make me feel better.

~Gem xx

I am doing it mainly for me and to be able to feel good about myself and have the confidence that comes with it.

However I would be lieing if I wasn't looking for approval from others as well. We all want to look good and to think that other people think that we look good so that drives me on as well.

I'm dieting for me. I've put on weight in the last two years and I just don't feel confident and comfortable anymore. I felt so much better when I was smaller. I was confident and happy with myself. Being 5'1 and a half as soon as you put any weight on you see it lol. So I have 23lbs to go and i'll be happy.

I have found everyone's posting in here really interesting - am glad I am able to read them. Personally I am dieting for myself.

I want to fit into nice clothes (what I term nice) and I also want to be healthy. From going to SW and sticking to the IMAGE sessions I have grown in confidence and my self perception has changed. Partly because I have let the people in the group help me and partly because me and my friend find it one big giggle.

I guess being single I don't feel like I have to do it for my partner and I don't feel like I have to slim to get one either. Friends are just that - if they care about my size then their opinion is not really worth worrying about.

I'm happy to be a 'Fat Loser' just for me!

ooh just found this thread...

well I think partly for OH as he is so lovely and its a shame he's never seen a slim attractive me, although i doubt he see's it that way!

and also i feel so darn good when i am slim, i love to see my reflection, and preen myself like a vain cat! shallow i know.

and also i want to look normal and responsible, and i think when you are big people look at you - as less of a person, because you are 'appearing' to present a look of lack of discipline, self worth, and control. they dont look beyond the weight and the appearance. human nature i guess.

the one thing i dont like, is male attention, i get so embarrassed! i guess i would feel different if i was single! lol

I would say for me as I love clothes and fashion but I can't wear the fashionable clothes i'd like to as nothing is made in a size to fit me! I wanna shop in anyshop and pick what i want and have my own style and not just the plus size section. It is also for vain purposes, i have never been slim so i'd like people to look at me and think i looked nice.. and my bf to think wow! lol. Health of course.. but acceptance more if im totally honest.

Just spotted this thread. Suppose mostly for me, but theres a lot of me wanting to show all the people who have bullied me or laughed at me in the past that there is a gorgeous woman underneath all of this and to literally put 2 fingers up to them all. Lol mmmmmmm think I might have a wee bit of bitterness there. But having lost weight before and knowing the feeling of going into any shop I wanted to pick clothes......I want that back!!!! And I want to be fit, being able to walk up a hill again and not feel like I'm gonna have a heart attack at the end of it. (think the cigs will need to go too though!!)
Janey xx

I'm new to this board in general... so am browsing old threads! I'm losing weight mainly for me... I'm a singer and want to feel confident in whatever I wear on stage. I want to wear the clothes other 20year olds wear and enjoy fashion. I'm living what are supposedly the best years of your life and I want to feel good in them! I want to look back on photos and smile. I want to show the school bullies that I am not ugly and worthless. I want the compliments for my hard work. I don't want to feel like a particular slim family member is feeling sorry for me again. I want to inspire my parents to become more healthy. I want to be able to run around and play with my niece/nephew when they are born.

My boyfriend is amazing... he's supportive and thinks I look gorgeous whatever size... and I believe him. it's not from his pressure to lose weight, but I want to be the best I can for him.

I want to lose wight for myself. I want to join the RAF in a few years and I know that I won't be able to do that at my current weight.

For me and me only I want to feel as sexy as I did 10 years ago!

I'm defo doing it for me as my beau says he liked me the way I was when we first met...er...size 12/14 ain't a comfy weight for me I was soooooo flabby!

FOR ME

Coz I'm Worth it!!