Can you visualise youself as a slim person? - MiniMins.com

Mrs Pink · 8th August, 2007

I have a problem with this - it's been 20 years since I was a healthy BMI (and even then I thought I was fat, compared to my size 8 pals!

) And I was often told (before I got undeniably fat!) "You carry it well, you're not meant to be skinny, you wouldn't look right if you were thin" etc - and half of me thinks thats right.... because I simply can't imagine myself as a slim person. Does anyone else feel like that? And how can we change it? (presuming it is a good idea to change it?!?!)

KD · 8th August, 2007

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Originally Posted by Mrs Pink

because I simply can't imagine myself as a slim person.

Nor can I, and I'm told I'm slim.

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(presuming it is a good idea to change it?!?!)

Good bit there

For me, and I realise that I'm in the minority here, it doesn't matter. If I want to look slim, then I'm just saying that I want others to see me as slim.

I couldn't really care less what they think as long as I feel well and can see a long life ahead of me.

Now...I'll rephrase the question just for me

Can I visualise myself being healthy? Yep,

That's better

minilady · 8th August, 2007

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Originally Posted by Mrs Pink

I have a problem with this - it's been 20 years since I was a healthy BMI (and even then I thought I was fat, compared to my size 8 pals!

) And I was often told (before I got undeniably fat!) "You carry it well, you're not meant to be skinny, you wouldn't look right if you were thin" etc - and half of me thinks thats right.... because I simply can't imagine myself as a slim person. Does anyone else feel like that? And how can we change it? (presuming it is a good idea to change it?!?!)

I am now 'slim' but I look in the mirror and although part of me accepts I look better, the other still sees Tracey, and like you it's the dumpy one who's friends are all thin! My best friend is my rock! (she is also a stick insect) We've been best friends since we were 6, so 34 years

She has only ever known the fat Tracey, she now says to me that she still can't take her eyes off me as the difference is so strange, and if she thinks about me the image in her mind is still the fat me too!

So I guess if it's difficult for those around us to imagine us thin, and they can see us without our own distorted self image goggles, then maybe it'll always be hard for us.

Tracey
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Sweetpea · 26th September, 2007

Does anyone ever have days when they look in the mirror and they do think they're slim?

I recently put on some jogging bottoms that I hadn't been able to wear in ages. They are hipsters and I thought I looked great in them. I'm about 11 stone 11 and 5 feet 4.5 inches tall so not grossly overweight but not slim either. I told my husband I thought I looked really good and said to him that I bet others would still see me as a bit of a fatty though and he replied that I looked good but he supposed others would regard me as fat still.

He wasn't being horrid - just truthful and he knows I have insisted I don't want platitudes and that I want the truth (wish he'd been more honest ages ago and told me about my weight rather than telling me he loves me anyway).

I just feel sometimes that I have a bit of a distorted image about what I do look like so how will I ever know when I am seeing the real image? (IFSWIM).

Curvy_Chicken · 27th September, 2007

Hey Sweetpea

Since last year I've lost 2 and half stone and I am only now just starting to really see it in myself.

It shocks me when I see myself in the mirror now, I think to myself "s**t I am so F**king skinny now!

However as good as I feel it is just not enough. I still hate my belly and I'm still obese according the bmi. So I have to stick with the diet and carry on to my target, which is still 3 stone away... I'll get there, one day...

But I worry I'll still see myself as this fat person. I worry that by not addressing this sooner I may have screwed my head forever.

I guess though whatever we have to put that to one side and just on with our diets regardless...

Luv CC xx xx xx

Russiandoll · 27th September, 2007

I don't think I could ever visualise myself as a slim person. I've been obese for so long and before that, I had a distorted image of myself and THOUGHT I was obese (left school 5' 2" and 9.5st - obese??).

Being fat has not only become what I am - but who I am. For decades it has defined me.This will be the toughest nut to crack. Its one thing to lose the physical fat - quite another to lose the 'mental' fat. I just know that if I EVER get to bloody goal (a seemingly impossible task) I won't be able to see myself as a slim person but as a fat one who is slim 'until she gets fat again'.

ponypony · 6th October, 2007

Russiandoll - I am with you on this one.....

Throughout my childhood I was picked on by my (skinny) siblings for being 'chubby' - something which infuriates me now, as looking a photos I was actually very normal. I think this is where my 'fat' mindset set in.

Since leaving school I have pretty much been a size 14, and have felt fat and thin within that size.

Even at my slimmest (as an adult) at about 11st11lbs I felt great in myself, but was far from being 'slim'. Still a curvy (but less bulging!) size 14. And my bmi was still then way too much.

Anyway, can't wait to feel what it's like. To be able to eat in public & not worry that people are looking at me thinking, "Cor, look at that big fat woman filling her face!".

Delli · 6th October, 2007

aww pony its like ur in my head!! i cud have written that post!! i cant imagine myself as being slim either although i was kindly informed by a cousin of mine a few weeks ago that i wasnt fat any more, just plump. she meant well i suppose!!

rowanx2 · 31st January, 2008

visit prevention.com and make one of those virtual models. They are pretty acurate.
make a before/during/after and then you'll see how you can look.

blue_grapefruit · 31st January, 2008

Easy answer: Nope!

SkinnyMalink · 5th February, 2008

I just can't imagine myself as slim partly because I never have been slim! If I look at pictures of my mum (who has always been 8/10 and was a 6 when she got married

) who was the spit of me when she was younger then I can kind of imagine what it would be like.

Thinking about it now I think this may be why I am struggling, I just can't see a light at the end of the tunnel, I don't know what I am slimming for. Thought provoking.

SkinnyMalink · 5th February, 2008

I've just been on prevention.com and I just can't believe how accurate it is. I've just seen myself slim and I have a bit of a funny feeling in my stomach and I feel emotional. This is so strange- I'm never emotional!

rowanx2 · 6th February, 2008

just had another member send me this link (thanks flower)

Photographic Height

it shows different weights for different heights of real people. interesting to see.

rowanx2 · 6th February, 2008

ahh skinnymalink, it's good to be emotional, its an emotional thing!
at the end of the day we have our own bodies if we have nothing else in life.
to visualise what can be , what we are working towards, well.... you know! youre feeling it yourself.

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8th August, 2007	#1 (permalink)
Mrs Pink Banned Mrs Pink's Profile Albums Mrs Pink's Photo Gallery Join Date: 9th May, 2007 Location: near Glasgow Posts: 616 My Mood: Rep Power: 0 Diet: Cambridge	Can you visualise youself as a slim person? I have a problem with this - it's been 20 years since I was a healthy BMI (and even then I thought I was fat, compared to my size 8 pals!) And I was often told (before I got undeniably fat!) "You carry it well, you're not meant to be skinny, you wouldn't look right if you were thin" etc - and half of me thinks thats right.... because I simply can't imagine myself as a slim person. Does anyone else feel like that? And how can we change it? (presuming it is a good idea to change it?!?!)

26th September, 2007	#4 (permalink)
Sweetpea Likes to post Sweetpea's Profile Albums Sweetpea's Photo Gallery Join Date: 11th September, 2007 Location: Birmingham, UK Posts: 289 My Mood: Rep Power: 7 Diet: Cambridge Diet	Does anyone ever have days when they look in the mirror and they do think they're slim? I recently put on some jogging bottoms that I hadn't been able to wear in ages. They are hipsters and I thought I looked great in them. I'm about 11 stone 11 and 5 feet 4.5 inches tall so not grossly overweight but not slim either. I told my husband I thought I looked really good and said to him that I bet others would still see me as a bit of a fatty though and he replied that I looked good but he supposed others would regard me as fat still. He wasn't being horrid - just truthful and he knows I have insisted I don't want platitudes and that I want the truth (wish he'd been more honest ages ago and told me about my weight rather than telling me he loves me anyway). I just feel sometimes that I have a bit of a distorted image about what I do look like so how will I ever know when I am seeing the real image? (IFSWIM). __________________

27th September, 2007	#5 (permalink)
Curvy_Chicken Likes to post Curvy_Chicken's Profile Albums Curvy_Chicken's Photo Gallery Join Date: 8th August, 2006 Location: Brighton Posts: 310 My Mood: Rep Power: 9	Hey Sweetpea Since last year I've lost 2 and half stone and I am only now just starting to really see it in myself. It shocks me when I see myself in the mirror now, I think to myself "st I am so Fking skinny now! However as good as I feel it is just not enough. I still hate my belly and I'm still obese according the bmi. So I have to stick with the diet and carry on to my target, which is still 3 stone away... I'll get there, one day... But I worry I'll still see myself as this fat person. I worry that by not addressing this sooner I may have screwed my head forever. I guess though whatever we have to put that to one side and just on with our diets regardless... Luv CC xx xx xx __________________ http://curvygoddess.typepad.co.uk/

27th September, 2007	#6 (permalink)
Russiandoll Carpe diem Russiandoll's Profile Albums Russiandoll's Photo Gallery Join Date: 22nd July, 2006 Location: Gosport, Hampshire: South Coast Posts: 4,273 My Mood: Blog Entries: 3 Rep Power: 91	I don't think I could ever visualise myself as a slim person. I've been obese for so long and before that, I had a distorted image of myself and THOUGHT I was obese (left school 5' 2" and 9.5st - obese??). Being fat has not only become what I am - but who I am. For decades it has defined me.This will be the toughest nut to crack. Its one thing to lose the physical fat - quite another to lose the 'mental' fat. I just know that if I EVER get to bloody goal (a seemingly impossible task) I won't be able to see myself as a slim person but as a fat one who is slim 'until she gets fat again'. __________________ My beautiful new grandson Evan born 25/2/08

6th October, 2007	#7 (permalink)
ponypony Likes to post ponypony's Profile Albums ponypony's Photo Gallery Join Date: 14th April, 2007 Posts: 260 My Mood: Rep Power: 6 Diet: cambridge	Russiandoll - I am with you on this one..... Throughout my childhood I was picked on by my (skinny) siblings for being 'chubby' - something which infuriates me now, as looking a photos I was actually very normal. I think this is where my 'fat' mindset set in. Since leaving school I have pretty much been a size 14, and have felt fat and thin within that size. Even at my slimmest (as an adult) at about 11st11lbs I felt great in myself, but was far from being 'slim'. Still a curvy (but less bulging!) size 14. And my bmi was still then way too much. Anyway, can't wait to feel what it's like. To be able to eat in public & not worry that people are looking at me thinking, "Cor, look at that big fat woman filling her face!". __________________ Goals... Get BMI under 30 Get below 12stone Get into size 12s Order a size 10 wedding dress - end of January??? Get below 10stone Get into size 10 Topshop jeans Started CD 1st November

6th October, 2007	#8 (permalink)
Delli Poor Student Delli's Profile Albums Delli's Photo Gallery Join Date: 19th August, 2007 Location: Northern Ireland Posts: 2,389 My Mood: Blog Entries: 12 Rep Power: 69	aww pony its like ur in my head!! i cud have written that post!! i cant imagine myself as being slim either although i was kindly informed by a cousin of mine a few weeks ago that i wasnt fat any more, just plump. she meant well i suppose!! __________________ Week one: -6lbs

31st January, 2008	#9 (permalink)
rowanx2 Likes to post rowanx2's Profile Albums rowanx2's Photo Gallery Join Date: 27th January, 2008 Location: uk Posts: 765 My Mood: Rep Power: 14 Diet: Calorie counting, weigh in at weight watchers and started paul mcKennas 'I will make you thin cd	visit prevention.com and make one of those virtual models. They are pretty acurate. make a before/during/after and then you'll see how you can look. __________________ 36yrs / 5ft 7" / lge build my weight loss site with pics http://rowanrowan.bravehost.com/ my garden site http://rowanrowangarden.bravehost.com/

31st January, 2008	#10 (permalink)
blue_grapefruit Im always here! blue_grapefruit's Profile Albums blue_grapefruit's Photo Gallery Join Date: 19th September, 2007 Location: Cardiff Posts: 5,021 My Mood: Blog Entries: 8 Rep Power: 169 Diet: Cambridge Diet	Easy answer: Nope! __________________ Reality check: you can never, ever, use weight loss to solve problems that are not related to your weight. At your goal weight or not, you still have to live with yourself and deal with your problems. You will still have the same husband, the same job, the same kids, and the same life. Losing weight is not a cure for life. ~Dr Phil ♥ No matter how strong I'm gonna take you down With one little stone I'm gonna break you down And see what you're worth What you're really worth to me - Rufus Wainwright

5th February, 2008	#11 (permalink)
SkinnyMalink Not giving up! SkinnyMalink's Profile Albums SkinnyMalink's Photo Gallery Join Date: 19th June, 2007 Location: London Posts: 384 My Mood: Rep Power: 11 Diet: Slimming World	I just can't imagine myself as slim partly because I never have been slim! If I look at pictures of my mum (who has always been 8/10 and was a 6 when she got married ) who was the spit of me when she was younger then I can kind of imagine what it would be like. Thinking about it now I think this may be why I am struggling, I just can't see a light at the end of the tunnel, I don't know what I am slimming for. Thought provoking. __________________ Lost weight on SW and have now nearly put it all back on again. Well, not any more- new year new me!

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SkinnyMalink Not giving up! SkinnyMalink's Profile Albums SkinnyMalink's Photo Gallery Join Date: 19th June, 2007 Location: London Posts: 384 My Mood: Rep Power: 11 Diet: Slimming World	I've just been on prevention.com and I just can't believe how accurate it is. I've just seen myself slim and I have a bit of a funny feeling in my stomach and I feel emotional. This is so strange- I'm never emotional! __________________ Lost weight on SW and have now nearly put it all back on again. Well, not any more- new year new me!

6th February, 2008	#13 (permalink)
rowanx2 Likes to post rowanx2's Profile Albums rowanx2's Photo Gallery Join Date: 27th January, 2008 Location: uk Posts: 765 My Mood: Rep Power: 14 Diet: Calorie counting, weigh in at weight watchers and started paul mcKennas 'I will make you thin cd	just had another member send me this link (thanks flower) Photographic Height it shows different weights for different heights of real people. interesting to see. __________________ 36yrs / 5ft 7" / lge build my weight loss site with pics http://rowanrowan.bravehost.com/ my garden site http://rowanrowangarden.bravehost.com/

6th February, 2008	#14 (permalink)
rowanx2 Likes to post rowanx2's Profile Albums rowanx2's Photo Gallery Join Date: 27th January, 2008 Location: uk Posts: 765 My Mood: Rep Power: 14 Diet: Calorie counting, weigh in at weight watchers and started paul mcKennas 'I will make you thin cd	ahh skinnymalink, it's good to be emotional, its an emotional thing! at the end of the day we have our own bodies if we have nothing else in life. to visualise what can be , what we are working towards, well.... you know! youre feeling it yourself. ) __________________ 36yrs / 5ft 7" / lge build my weight loss site with pics http://rowanrowan.bravehost.com/ my garden site http://rowanrowangarden.bravehost.com/