Weight and Paranoia

[fatty2slim]

Hii guys!

It's been a very long time since I've posted here... my weight loss journey continues..

There is something I've been meaning to ask and perhaps just let out?

Recently, I have gained weight (more so BUT am on the weight loss journey again) and you could say I'm not your conventional girl as in, I don't dress or look like most girls - I'm not comfortable with my body image, I have no self esteem at all and always tend to look away when someone speaks to me...

Where I work is very male dominated with a few women.. I have at times caught my self looking across the room and *thinking* a group of lads are and MUST be speaking about me, poking fun about my weight, the way I look and dress.. and this has driven me kind of mad!

I could have sworn today they were laughing very loud, and I am insistent it was about me... I really wish I knew how to get this out of my head, I mean the logical me says, they could have just been having a laugh like usual lads, and the emotional side of me says.. they were laughing at you...

*sigh*

Help.. please?


I don't know what to do anymore! I know I've become a little crazy with all this but

 

[Itoy & Suerti]

Hi sweets- I COMPLETELY understand!! i always think they are talking about me/laughing... but you know what - they proabably aren't. if you have been around your co - workers long?? After a time i think they stop noticing "the fat" and just think of you as who you are - a person and your personality. I dont look people in the eye - and i avoid mirrors if I can. I think i am unworthy and ugly - but I also think I am lucky. I can fix my weight - I can help my self confidence. At least I am alive and breathing - I dont have cancer, I'm not in a wheelchair. My body is amazing - it can do so much... we just have to look after it better

Maybe consider councilling? or just taking time to fill your mind with positive thoughts. Write on your mirror -"I am beautiful - I am worth it" sounds naff I klnow - but little things like that will help. Feel free to PM me if you want some private chat. xx

 

[fatty2slim]

Hi sweets- I COMPLETELY understand!! i always think they are talking about me/laughing... but you know what - they proabably aren't. if you have been around your co - workers long?? After a time i think they stop noticing "the fat" and just think of you as who you are - a person and your personality. I dont look people in the eye - and i avoid mirrors if I can. I think i am unworthy and ugly - but I also think I am lucky. I can fix my weight - I can help my self confidence. At least I am alive and breathing - I dont have cancer, I'm not in a wheelchair. My body is amazing - it can do so much... we just have to look after it better

Maybe consider councilling? or just taking time to fill your mind with positive thoughts. Write on your mirror -"I am beautiful - I am worth it" sounds naff I klnow - but little things like that will help. Feel free to PM me if you want some private chat. xx

Hi hun! Thank you soo much for your kind words.. I was so optimistic today till my friend's boyfriend called me fat and said I had a weight issue. I feel like crying my heart out... shes obviously a small little thing and compared to her the skinniest of people are fat, and I was speaking to her texting, and suddenly he starts on me saying im fat.. i just.. im so depressed... *Sigh*

 

[Itoy & Suerti]

Aww Im so sorry about your friends b/f - some guys are really just so shallow. Seriously he needs to get a life. :flamingmad:
Please dont feel down because of what one low life has said - why did your friend let him text you those kinds of words? You're doing so well in your journey - You need to focus on you - just you. Hold your head up high babe - you are beautiful. :hug99:

 

[winterbeauty]

I am the exact same, I feel like that just walking down the street even tho Im pushing a pushchair. I feel people are staring :/

Ive ended up needing counselling about it, and my weight just seems to be going on not coming off.

Here is to a new start and a fresh new me!

 

[VerdePurdy]

I really struggle with this. I used to be a party girl but that stopped when I was 17, and met my boyfriend... I now walk into a room and feel like all eyes are on me. It's tough.

I went to a friend's 21st birthday at a pub just before new year and had to keep stepping outside because I was sweating, burning up. Not because I was hot but because I was anxious and felt like everyone was staring at the fat sweaty bird in the corner! I felt so silly because I quit smoking in November and didn't even have that as an excuse to nip out.

My goal is to get slim and go clubbing for the first time ever in about 18 months... I'm terrified!

 

[Blessings]

I think one way to manage this is to force yourself to think about someone else. Try and get your mind off yourself . This is easier when you are helping someone with something. This also makes you feel better about yourself. You can't do this when you are walking down the street or walking into a room, but if you practice this at other times, you will gradually become less self-conscious. XXX

 

[FunnyFarm]

I think your friend is just as out of order as her boyfriend there! Apart from anything else, what can she see in someone like that?

Don't let it affect you though, a bully's issues are far more severe and less easy to fix!

 

[Starski]

My best friend whacked this out of me a couple of months ago, so easily.

We were in a holiday park amidst a bunch of other people. I told her, "Wonder what that lot think about us."

She said, "Have you spared them a second thought?"

"Err... No."

"Well. There you go."