Thread: Weight and Paranoia

Hii guys!

It's been a very long time since I've posted here... my weight loss journey continues..

There is something I've been meaning to ask and perhaps just let out?

Recently, I have gained weight (more so BUT am on the weight loss journey again) and you could say I'm not your conventional girl as in, I don't dress or look like most girls - I'm not comfortable with my body image, I have no self esteem at all and always tend to look away when someone speaks to me...

Where I work is very male dominated with a few women.. I have at times caught my self looking across the room and *thinking* a group of lads are and MUST be speaking about me, poking fun about my weight, the way I look and dress.. and this has driven me kind of mad!

I could have sworn today they were laughing very loud, and I am insistent it was about me... I really wish I knew how to get this out of my head, I mean the logical me says, they could have just been having a laugh like usual lads, and the emotional side of me says.. they were laughing at you...

*sigh*

Help.. please?


I don't know what to do anymore! I know I've become a little crazy with all this but

Hi sweets- I COMPLETELY understand!! i always think they are talking about me/laughing... but you know what - they proabably aren't. if you have been around your co - workers long?? After a time i think they stop noticing "the fat" and just think of you as who you are - a person and your personality. I dont look people in the eye - and i avoid mirrors if I can. I think i am unworthy and ugly - but I also think I am lucky. I can fix my weight - I can help my self confidence. At least I am alive and breathing - I dont have cancer, I'm not in a wheelchair. My body is amazing - it can do so much... we just have to look after it better

Maybe consider councilling? or just taking time to fill your mind with positive thoughts. Write on your mirror -"I am beautiful - I am worth it" sounds naff I klnow - but little things like that will help. Feel free to PM me if you want some private chat. xx

Originally Posted by Itoy & Suerti

Hi sweets- I COMPLETELY understand!! i always think they are talking about me/laughing... but you know what - they proabably aren't. if you have been around your co - workers long?? After a time i think they stop noticing "the fat" and just think of you as who you are - a person and your personality. I dont look people in the eye - and i avoid mirrors if I can. I think i am unworthy and ugly - but I also think I am lucky. I can fix my weight - I can help my self confidence. At least I am alive and breathing - I dont have cancer, I'm not in a wheelchair. My body is amazing - it can do so much... we just have to look after it better

Maybe consider councilling? or just taking time to fill your mind with positive thoughts. Write on your mirror -"I am beautiful - I am worth it" sounds naff I klnow - but little things like that will help. Feel free to PM me if you want some private chat. xx

Hi hun! Thank you soo much for your kind words.. I was so optimistic today till my friend's boyfriend called me fat and said I had a weight issue. I feel like crying my heart out... shes obviously a small little thing and compared to her the skinniest of people are fat, and I was speaking to her texting, and suddenly he starts on me saying im fat.. i just.. im so depressed... *Sigh*

Aww Im so sorry about your friends b/f - some guys are really just so shallow. Seriously he needs to get a life.
Please dont feel down because of what one low life has said - why did your friend let him text you those kinds of words? You're doing so well in your journey - You need to focus on you - just you. Hold your head up high babe - you are beautiful.

I am the exact same, I feel like that just walking down the street even tho Im pushing a pushchair. I feel people are staring :/

Ive ended up needing counselling about it, and my weight just seems to be going on not coming off.

Here is to a new start and a fresh new me!