Thread: Bingeing... Why?!!?

Originally Posted by temmytango

i am in the bingeing shoes and i keep starting every morning. am so confused ans sad as i work my butts off almost everyday in the gym only to stuff my face later in the day. surely their must be a slotion to this?????

I think before you look at the solution you look at the problem. The question is why you binge. I have been through this problem too so I empathise. Ultimately you are sabotaging yourself. Your subconcious is reminding you of all the negativity you have experienced and you have become so used to it that you create your own negativity therefore binging and feeling even worse about yourself. Next time you reach for the biscuits (I found that this helped) talk out loud to yourself. Tell yourself that you are not willing to sabotage yourself, you are wonderful and you deserve an amazing weight loss. Try it, it really can work. Best of luck!

It happened again to me. Last weekend we went out to eat and I had far too much and fell back into old habits. I wanted to make up for the weekend by fasting and limiting myself to fruit and veggies alone for all of this week and of course it didn't work. I dropped right back into my old ways of binging on Monday as I'd be fasting the next day.

I really set myself up to fail. I just gave up when I knew I couldn't do the fast and pigged. Oh dear.

So I set myself new goals today. Eat lots of green veggies with every meal and only snack on fruit, drink lots and keep away from the old mindset of thinking that 'tomorrow I fast' as it DOESN'T WORK.

Thinking of every one else here battling binging, we can do this

Hey everyone, I hope you don't mind me joining in here? I have always had a problem with bingeing! My cravings always come after dinner for some reason, and the fact that I'm not working at the moment makes it even worse.

On thinking about things, I think my bingeing stems from the fact that I'm lonely a lot of the time. I live with my parents, have only a couple of good friends, and am single. I would love nothing more than to meet someone and settle down and have a family of my own, so I think I eat to fill that void in my life.

I'm back on here after deciding enough is enough and I need to get back on track! I did so well before when I was here-losing 18lbs, but then it all went out of control

xx

Hi Stacy

I'm sure you'll lose the weight again. I hate the evenings, it makes me feel panicky wondering if I'm going to binge again. This sounds daft but ironing upstairs stops me! (well, you can't leave the iron unattended while you look for and eat, a packet of flakes...)

It's boredom and also a habit which you can break if you find something else to do (hopefully not as sad as ironing!).

I'm sure you'll find someone special when you least expect it and you'll always have loads of friends on here.

Pomooky XX

Originally Posted by Pomooky125

Hi Stacy

I'm sure you'll lose the weight again. I hate the evenings, it makes me feel panicky wondering if I'm going to binge again. This sounds daft but ironing upstairs stops me! (well, you can't leave the iron unattended while you look for and eat, a packet of flakes...)

It's boredom and also a habit which you can break if you find something else to do (hopefully not as sad as ironing!).

I'm sure you'll find someone special when you least expect it and you'll always have loads of friends on here.

Pomooky XX

Thanks Pomooky hun

I agree that it is complete boredom, and I'm sure once I find something to do with all this time off I have, I will find the cravings/binges dying down. I may actually try out salsa classes soon-as a friend of a friend of mine runs them!

xx

Hi guys hope you dont mind me butting in but so much on here has made me think
I am a binger can go for days and wks without doing it then bam i will shop for it i will know im going to do it i will plan it when my kids are out
And heres something i have never told anyone then i will make myself sick the feeling of my poor full stomach feeling empty again is like nothing i can describe
I know i have a problem with food but not classic bulmia because i dont do it that often
Im not unhappy with life as such i am in a good relationship so why i really dont know
Any help appreciated x

((((((((Lesley))))))))

You are brave to post what you have just written and my heart goes out to you. I've binged - heavily for days on end and wanted to be sick but couldn't do it, so I've been googling on bulimia for you and for me.

I have discovered that what I do (fingers crossed, DID) - binge to the point of feeling sick and trying to fast afterwards counts as bulimia and definitely so does what you do, even if you are not doing it every week.

I would really encourage you to get help for this. Your doctor would be the usual first step, or maybe a phone helpline, I found one and put it at the end of this message.

I'm sure there is a reason for your doing this, I've been seeing a counsellor for a couple of months and I feel a lot better about myself. We all do things for different reasons and sometimes those reasons can have many levels and get revealed bit by bit as we reach a better understanding of ourselves

I have found some useful webpages for you and the helpline number, please keep posting here to let us know how you are.

http://www.supportline.org.uk/problems/bulimia.php

http://www.helpguide.org/mental/bulimia_signs_symptoms_causes_treatment.htm



BEAT (beat eating disorders) Helpline 0845 634 1414

Hello again Lesley,

I looked - sorry if this is too nosy - at some of your other posts and think you are doind a VLC diet?

Are you aware of an experiment done in WW2 by Ancel Keys? He used conscientious objectors as volunteers to investigate the effects of starving. The subjects went on a regime of 1800 calories with a lot of exercise and experienced terrible effects of losing mental facilities and getting very strange around food, obsessive about it, collecting cookbooks, watching others eat, stealing and hording what they could get hold of.

This shows IMHO that VLC diets can trigger responses in people purely due to the low calories. I think people that promote these say differently and I don't know how they explain how people can manage on them and would be interested to know.

Maybe, if you are VLCing, then maybe your binging is your body's way of saying that this does not suit you and perhaps you should consider another way of losing weight.

Here is an article about the study
American RadioWorks - Battles of Belief

Hi micci thank you for your kind thoughts and for the helpful links
I do not mind you looking at past posts but i am not doing the vlcd anymore
I just coudnt do it
I am very confused about food i know i am the amount i can eat when im bingeing is just not normal i know that
My moods are up and down altho i put on a good show
None of my friends or family would even come close to guessing about the amounts i can eat and yes i do make myself sick
But sometimes i can manage not to for wks so what does that mean?
It was actually fairly easy to admit it their is that certain veil that no one really knows me i guess
I have read all these past posts and im going to really try not to do this
Please keep in touch lesley x

More from me later tonight, but I really think this is something you need help with. Please phone that number tomorrow.

Micci xxx

Hi largelesley

Hope you have a better day tomorrow. I binge too but have never tried to make myself sick - I just keep getting fatter!

You're not alone here, keep posting - maybe you could talk to your Dr if you're not happy about telling friends/family?

I saw mine and she was very understanding. Ultimately it comes down to you in the end but you may need some guidance on the way - Micci is right.

Hope to hear from you soon
Pomooky XX

Thank you i have been thinking a lot on this
And i have never really saw the link before my husband works away 4wks of and 4 home
And when he is home i do not binge that is not to say i dont want to but obviously i guess for everyone its a private thing
But this trip he has been away 8 wks wih 2to go maybe this is why ive turned to food more
I have had a nice day out wirh my daughter nice meal few drinks not a binge but a lot to eat
And i have thot of being sick i can not lie but i havent and i wont
I know i cant keep doing this to myself i must find sometging else to replace this crutch i use food for
Take care everyone lesley

Hi Lesley,

looking for other ways to support yourself sounds like a really good idea.

Pomooky put into words just what I would have liked to say last night while I was rushing about, you do not have to struggle alone.

Keep posting here, and something I find useful is writing/typing my thoughts - somehow it keeps the thoughts coming for me. Why not start a diary or a blog? When the binging/being sick urge comes on you can try writing about the feelings and see if that helps it go away.

Someone else suggested talking out loud what is going on in your head when the urge hits.

Another thing that helps me is to avoid getting tired. When I'm exhausted and there is a plate of biscuits in front of me (last night!) I forget I don't really want them. Not that last night was a binge, I just saw them and ate mindlessly.

What I'm saying is that being tired can be a trigger for me but I don't suppose its something you can avoid - a mum coping on her own when your husband is away.

I suppose though I have it a bit similar, I've a teen and a nearly teen and my husband is ill and not there as he's in bed a lot of the time so I have to cope on my own most of the time.

Hope today goes well for you and everyone else involved in this thread.

Micci xxx

Hi micci thanks for your post more food for thought for me pardon the pun
I was fine last night so that was a bonus
I am sorry to hear about your husband that must be tough for you as well
Pomooky thank you for your advise but i cant realy go to my doctor he woudnt understand at all
Im glad you have an understanding doc tho and you are doing ok
Please keep talking to me it does help to know others suffer too
Lesley

Hi Lesley,

I found a list of Self Help groups organised by the people that do that phone support line. THe one I looked at was free and you don't need a doctor to refer you.

Here you are, sorry I can't do a long post now. There should be a clickable link to find out more about each one but if that doesn't work I can send you more links via a pm. Look after yourself.

• North East Eating Disorder Support (Scotland)
• NEEDS Macrobin Centre, Royal Cornhill Hospital, Cornhill Rd, Aberdeen, AB25 2ZH
• Email: Expose Email
• Type: beat Self Help Network Group
• More Info

• Dundee & Tayside Eating Disorders Network: Support for Change
• University of Dundee Chaplaincy, Cross Row, Main Campus, Dundee, DD1 4HN
• Tel: 01382 384168
• Email: Expose Email
• Type: beat Self Help Network Group
• More Info

• St. Andrews University SRSH Group
• Schiehallion Room, Mansfield Building, (across from the Students' Union), St. Andrews, KY16 9UZ
• Tel: Please email
• Email: Expose Email
• Type: beat Self Help Network Group
• More Info