Thread: Why is it soooo different 2nd time around?

I'm still struggling. I haven't fallen off the wagon but have put my tough times down to being told for the last 3-4 weeks that I can't have much longer to go and that the countdown on my blog is to the 100 days and I am on day 99.

I know I have another 1-1/2 stone to go as can be seen easily in my prgress shots so that isn't an issue. I think that once I get my time counter on my blog to the 50 days I conservatively estimate it will take me to get to target then I will have something tangiable and predicable to aim for which will help. Weighloss each week was never the best motivator for me because I never knew when I would retain water and you couldn't say for definate what would happen.

Time on the other hand is regular and predictable so I like using that because I like love feeling in control

It must be difficult I imagine with the whole magic 100 days thing. You can do it mate - love the idea of resetting your countdown

Thanks DQ, I have just been writing a bit in todays blog about that. I do think it will help to give me the extended focus I need.

I did orginally think to set it at 43 days but then thought I don't want to be in the same predicament I am in now if I have another week to go. I see it as the same as when you are expecting a baby and go over your due date and get really fed up as a consequence

Lol what a perfect analogy!

Thought I'd bump this up for those that are struggling but may not have seen this thread....

Dear Diva

That was wonderful, I think you helped a lot of people here, I am struggling too, and my last month was a disaster, I lost about 5 stone, but I have another stone to lose to get my target weight. I will use (towards too) strategy as well,

I have been full of negative feelings the whole month, I started to think I am failing again, and reverting back to my old fat self, because I just cannot stop EATING!!!!!!

I feel a lot better now, after reading your post, Thank you so much.

Thanks for finding and bumping this up again - rereading it has been very helpful

Originally Posted by Shazza

So agree with this

Every time I tried to SS I would try to do it a different way - just to get back to that newness again.

How I wish I could get back that feeling of when I started Lighterlife and had bloody stuck to it.

How I envy all the first timers and their enthusiasm and determination. You guys are so lucky - dont ever let it go once you have it.

Am loving my new approach though - Every week I set targets for myself that I want to achieve and they are no longer to lose x amount by x, they are more geared towards - i want to walk this amount of steps or i want to have this amount of packs.

I also find it much easier to set low targets cause then i tend to always surpass them, and its easier to see that you are actually getting somewhere.

Anyway enough rambling on !!!

Laters

Think I found what worked initially - i remember writing this post - I was in a really good place.

Another lightbulb moment !!!

Thanks Diva

Originally Posted by Shazza

Think I found what worked initially - i remember writing this post - I was in a really good place.

Another lightbulb moment !!!

Thanks Diva

Ahh at last, you see in you what WE see

Gonna try the 'towards' strategy!

thanks for that...x

Yes - it takes time but I get there in the end !!!

I need to read this thread again...

Love Mini xxx

I've just shown your penguin clip to the kids and we've all had a laugh. The more we watched the funnier it was.

There is such alot of wisdom on this site. It seems a shame that we continually beat ourselves up about our 'failings' when the fact is we are mostly succeeding against the odds.

We also get into the mindset that if we fail at dieting we are a failure at everything else too.

One of the members (I forget who) mentioned an article she'd read on National Centre For Eating Disorders - effective treatment for all forms of eating disorders about the Psychology of Dieting. I also recommend the one about Compulsive Overeating. They will illuminate for you the whole vicious circle that dieting produces. We think we are in control ... but we are not aware of the powerful forces that dieting produces in us that can set us up to fail.

Bumping for January!

Thanks for bumping it up DQ..I really need it!