Thread: Self Esteem vs Body Image

And I agree with Janey, being bigger is uncomfy in so many ways... There are more things to concider than just wanting to look like women in magazines. Health, comfort, confidence.

whats the difference between self esteem and confidence?

ive been told that im a little too confident, in normal life and in school/college. i know what im good at, and i also know what im really bad at.

about my body image, i had a decent body most of my life. now ive gained some fat, i still feel almost as confident as before. but maybe im thinking that i can return back to my good body in a quick amount of time so im not too bothered. if i was 10 stone bigger for example, i might be having a different frame of thought.

Well, like many of the people here I have a very low body image. I know I am an intelligent successful woman but I hate the way I look and it effects most of the other aspects of my life. For me it goes back to a mum who obsessed about my size when I was a child and once, at a party, walked up, prodded me in the stomach and said "you look fat". I was 19 yrs old and for the 1st time ever I felt good (that didn't last).

I hate mirrors. I am not pretty, not even close but I think i have a nice open face and a good smile (not that I smile a lot). Now I am on anti depressants and am seeing a nutritionist who seems to think tiis all so easy but my life (and professional success) reqires me to spend 3/4 of my time in India in hotels where the only food is curry and rice and he says "can you find something else to eat at lunch", yeah, I'll eat the salad and spend the next week vomiting - lovely!

I have done this before - lost 9 stn about 8 yrs ago. They are back with friends. Last time my mind just clicked one day and I became practically obsessive SW. This time I just can't get my head in gear. Don't know if the anti-d's or the depression are hindering it.

Sorry, I'm rambling. I tend to. Spend most of my time alone or with men so I never really get female interaction.

Lelly xx