Right, before I start ranting about all the confusion and frustration going through my head - PLEASE do not give me a hard time, I don't need that & just need everybody's solid advice and help!
MFP sets me at 1330 calories per day to lose 2lbs a week, that to me sounds fine, I ate 1300 before and lost weight at a steady and good pace..
I tried eating higher, at 20% below my TDEE, and even with 6 stone to lose & having not dieted for ages, guess what? I GAINED 2lbs. I thought any shock to body in the form of decreased calories would lead to weight loss, but obviously not.. so the 20% cut from TDEE just doesn't work for me. And I've read a few other people who say it doesn't work for them either & they gain on it too so at least it's not just me!
Then there's my old way of eating, where I'd eat low six days of the week & then have one high calorie day per week where I'd have treats. I promised myself I wouldn't go back to that way of life, only because last time I ended up having everyday as a high calorie day & couldn't get back into the routine of the six strict days!.. but then I was watching Jodie Marsh's bodybuilder and brawn in the USA documentaries on DMAX the other day, and half way through it shows her having an absolutely massive cheat meal one night of the week.. and the personal trainer on it says 'Jodie's extreme training regime and low calorie intake throughout the week means she must have a cheat meal with a high influx of calories once a week, this shocks the body and kick starts the metabolism, preventing her body from adjusting to the restricted amounts of food.'
So I spoke to a few people I know who train at the gym & they all said they do the same thing with success! They eat very little during the week, mainly protein rich foods such as eggs, egg whites, chicken, fish and veggies.. Then have one cheat meal per week consisting of whatever the hell they fancy. So really what I was doing before was absolutely fine! & if I'd had the willpower at the time to get back into the strict regime after each cheat day then I wouldn't be 6 stone heavier now...
So I was set on doing that again. Until I spoke to my personal trainer at the local gym, who said that its okay to have cheat days but to burn them off, and that he has every Sunday off but ensures he burns off whatever he eats. He uses a fitbit tracker to check how many calories he burns daily & while sleeping, then how many he burns through workouts and how many he eats.
So now I'm confused? He's saying to burn off the cheat day but everyone else doesn't seem too. BUT, he eats extremely high calories everyday of the week, so maybe that's why he needs to burn his cheat day off to prevent having a high calorie surplus? Whereas I'd be eating low the rest of the week, so if I ate 1300 daily and then consumed 3000 on a cheat day, that'd total 10800 over the course of a week & average out to 1542 a day.. so really I wouldn't need to burn that much off, maybe just 200 a day.
Can everyone please give me their advice?!
I know I could follow MFP's 1330 a day and lose weight, but I don't think it'd be long before I give up through feeling deprived of treats!! Or do I just eat 1330 a day & only have treats now and again if I've burned calories or saved calories to allow for it?
God I'm so bloody confused!!!