Relationship Changes

[nadhak]

I found as my confidence grew - I could let go of the friends who were takers and used me!
It is for the best even though it still hurts that these so called friends were never that [friends ]
As a fat person I had to buy friendship - stems from a core belief that no-one wants to genuinely be my friend [ childhood teasing and rejection for being an overweight child]. I am learning that an inner nucleus is all that is important and I cannot make everyone love me [thanks to my wonderful LL counsellor]
My relationship changed initially as both me and hubby re-adjusted to the new me - he was very insecure and I was less tolerant of his habits , especially when he was bingeing food.
One year on, still slim, things are settling down - the friends I have are not jealous or *****y or users - they are genuine people whom I have chosen carefully so as never to feel the need to abuse myself with comfort food.
It hurts to let go initially but it makes your life more fulfilled in the long run!
We all deserve to be treated as we treat others.xx

[bunnycd]

That is a shame. I think you do go through "cranky" times with your partner on this diet so review it again once you have finished SS. I have lost friends due to this diet and I have gained friends. It really shows how different people treat you when you are loosing weight. Some people are so shallow and it is quite sad that people judge you on your weight. Your hubby may feel scared of the future maybe talk to him about it?

[xxluckyxx]

We certainly do go thruogh some major changes while ss'ing . lucky for me i had no other half while i was ssing only my kids to keep me comfort ,one guy that i was seeing said to me b4 i started lipotrim ...sam if you want to lose weight you know you can you just have to believe in yourself . i told him on the same night that i couldnt make myself happy with a man and lose weight at the same time i could only do one thing at a time , well ive now lost 2.5 stone and feeling ok , have to admit i dont see the difference ! but others do .

when this guy came back into my life a few weeks ago he was gobsmaked !!!! woohoo result lol

as for friends .... just have a look at my diary on the lipotrim forum ! some friend we can do without , you certainly find your real friends when doing the whole vlcd's !!!

good luck for the rest of your journey's guys your doing FAB xxx