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    Smile My life is good because...

    As I'm finally dealing with a lifelong weight issue, it's motivating me to work on my mental health too. I've made an appointment to talk to my doctor next week about getting help with my non-existent self-worth and, after more than three years of living reclusively, I'm taking little steps (both metaphorically and physically!) to put myself out into the world. It's hard though, because I feel very inferior to just about everyone I meet. They're happier than I, or more successful, more stable, richer, thinner, prettier, smarter... the list goes on and on, and I never acknowledge or reward the positive aspects of myself and my situation because I'm constantly fretting over achievements, experiences, possessions and attributes I lack. It's shameful. So I'm starting a thread, in the hope that other people will join in, whether they suffer from low self-esteem or not, to remind myself about the things that are either good in my life (perhaps even the kind of things another person may envy me for, the way I envy other people, although at the moment that's hard to imagine!) or the things that are unique to me. I'm just going to post one thing for now, to give me something to think about, and please feel free to take part. The more, the merrier.

    My life is good because I have started to care about myself enough to want to change.

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    My life is good because today I was only upset for a few minutes that no one replied to my new threads.

    Shameful as it is to admit, that's progress. Normally I'd spend an up to hour wondering why everyone hates me, even though I know somewhere in the back that's completely illogical, but it's still the first thing that springs to mind when I feel "rejected".

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    My life is good because yesterday I had the courage to go swimming for the first time in 5 years.

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    My life is good because after 10 years and two abusive relationships I'm finally with an amazing man who I'm marrying in March and am 14 weeks pregnant after two years of trying
    After 21 months of TTC finally got our BFP on 11th May 2013 - Cole William Jones born 31/12/2013 @ 18:33hrs






    Worrying is like a rocking chair....it gives you something to do but gets you nowhere!!!

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    Sarah, congratulations! That's fantastic news, and gives a lot of hope to other people who are struggling in that aspect of their life. <3

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    Quote Originally Posted by CountryBumpkin View Post
    Sarah, congratulations! That's fantastic news, and gives a lot of hope to other people who are struggling in that aspect of their life. <3
    Thank you it took me to get to nearly 30 before I got it (I'm 32 now) but its so worth it.
    After 21 months of TTC finally got our BFP on 11th May 2013 - Cole William Jones born 31/12/2013 @ 18:33hrs






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    I'm not very good at calculating pregnancy weeks, but does this mean your baby is due around Christmas?

    I'm nearly 30 and a complete mess in the relationships department so it's definitely encouraging to me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CountryBumpkin View Post
    I'm not very good at calculating pregnancy weeks, but does this mean your baby is due around Christmas?

    I'm nearly 30 and a complete mess in the relationships department so it's definitely encouraging to me.
    Due 6th January. So two months before the wedding. I'm glad it's encouraging. When I met him I weighed 18 stone and he has always made me feel loved and beautiful. I lost weight for myself and to get pregnant.
    After 21 months of TTC finally got our BFP on 11th May 2013 - Cole William Jones born 31/12/2013 @ 18:33hrs






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    That's such a nice story. I'm inclined to say "happy ending", but that implies the closure of something when in fact you've got your whole happy married life and the life of your child ahead of you.

    My life is good today because I went to the hygienist, which I hadn't done in over a year due to feeling unworthy of care.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CountryBumpkin View Post
    That's such a nice story. I'm inclined to say "happy ending", but that implies the closure of something when in fact you've got your whole happy married life and the life of your child ahead of you.

    My life is good today because I went to the hygienist, which I hadn't done in over a year due to feeling unworthy of care.
    It's my happy ever after

    Well done for doing something you haven't done in a long time x
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    Good thread. I am struggling with my self esteem hugely at the moment. I feel as if i am losing two of the very few close friends that I have, they seem to have been distancing themselves from me bit by bit over the last few months and i automatically assume its because i am not a nice person, I am boring and dont have a lot going on in my life.

    So I feel proud of myself today because I went swimming this morning for the first time in 3 weeks.

    i feel happy and good about myself because i am finally tackling the weight problem that has been making me miserable for about a year. I am proud of myself for getting to day 4 on the SS CD and stuck to it 100%

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    Froggylegs, do you want to talk about what's going on with your friends? I can identify. It's really not a good feeling and leaves you questioning all kinds of things about yourself. Last year a break-up forced me to relocate and, as I work from home and have zero money to join hobby clubs etc, I am feeling incredibly lonely. I have nothing going on in my life besides work and dieting and, even though I go to free community events and try to be as friendly as I can, people never seem to want to take it beyond a "hi, nice to meet you" chat. I don't know if that's because I now live in Norfolk, and all the cliches about only liking their own are true but everyone certainly seems friendly enough, which of course brings me back to thinking it's me. It's not that they're unwelcoming, it's that they don't like me specifically. I'm very shy and can struggle a bit conversationally with strangers because I'm constantly worrying about what they think of me. I'm just so desperate to be liked that I'm not very "present" or engaging, which are the two qualities that are most likely to get people to like me! I truly am the kind of person whose death at home would only be discovered months later following a neighbour complaint about smell.

    Well done for keeping to to the diet and going swimming. You're doing brilliantly.

    I feel happy about myself today because I took time to moisturise after showering, which I don't always have time and energy to do. All the pet hair sticks to me while I'm doing it and I feel disgusting for a while, but 15 minutes later I'm busy thinking about all the good it's (hopefully) doing to my skin.

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    Aw it can be so hard to make new friends when you move. Have you moved a long way? Its also very hard to meet new people when you don't have a lot of dosh, so many things cost a fortune.

    Its weird you say you aren't very present or engaging. I have only been on this forum a few days but you jumped out at me as someone lovely, caring and helpful, very easy to talk to. Its easier online though, isn't it? I find it far easier to chat to people online than in the real world.

    I had to take redundancy about 15 months ago due to some serious and ongoing health problems. I only worked 9 hrs a week but they were spread across the week and kept me pretty busy but since i left my world has shrunk and shrunk and my best friend of 16 years has been gradually withdrawing from me since around October last year. I dont feel i can address it with her as i know her very well and she will just get cross and deny it then draw back even more. We used to see each other about 3 or 4 times a week and now its more like once every 2 or 3 weeks. I think she has just grown away from me and is far more friendly now with 3 other women who are all part of couples like she is. I am single.

    My old work mates dropped me when i took redundancy and i just feel i have nothing of interest to say so its no surprise friends dont want to see me. God sorry, i am sounding VERY sorry for myself here!

    Ooh what pets have you got? I have 2 cats, both a bit bonkers!

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    I forgot to say, I started volunteering for a new Carers Service in my area at the beginning of June so that is getting me out and involved a little bit more
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    Hey, my life is similar to yours, yet different at the same time. I have 2 kids and in a 11yr relationship. I dont leave the house unless I really really have to, I manage to go out every day for work, but it seems different in a way. I have loads of ppl in my life who I have brief chats with, during my day to day life, and i'm quite sociable in that respect, but same as yourself, it doesn't go any further than that, I have 1 friend that I see sometimes, but thats once a month or whatever. Dont do much with my partner because he works when i'm at home, and dont do much with the kids due to money & not having a car. So end up always hanging about the house and garden. I've gotten into a spiral of eating for bordom & emotions and now I cant stop, and it stops me from doing things.

    I've never met anyone whos confidence and self-esteem is as low as mine, i'm pretty bad!! I am fully clothed even though its 28 degrees and everyone is loving the sun, I have a cardi on because I dont have the guts to sit in the garden in a t.shirt even though no one will see me. I dont walk about my house without my arms covered, my partner of 11 years has never seen the top of my arms. I cancelled a break away this summer due to me not being able to wear summery clothes, and the embarrasment that causes.

    I am jealous of EVERYONE. People who are "normal" not always being huffy like me, i'm jealous of them, I want to be normal. I used to be jealous of skinny people (still am to an extent) but now my jealousy is people who manage to appear normal, even when other things are going on. If I know someone who is skinny/normal/has money/great life ect ect, I cant bring myself to even talk to them, I worry that the jealousy will reep out of me, so I avoid them.

    Sorry i'm rabbiting on. Anyway - I love the fact that an hour ago I sat outside in only a t.shirt - no cardi. I love the fact that i'm thinking about how I will lose weight, I love the fact that I am planning in my head and getting excited about it. I love the fact that I only have 6 stone to lose and not 16. I love when I think about being skinny & I actually cant imagine myself that way, it makes me excited to see the new me. I love the fact that I KNOW when I start to do something about my weight....I will feel better, like i always do!!

    xxxxxxxxxxxxx
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