Thread: What misperception do people have about you before they get to know you bet

At school today I heard that one parent told another parent she was frightened to approach me as I looked 'teachery'

Another forum reckoned I was 'posh'

I've also been told by a few people that they thought I was scary

Of course, none of this is true and they realise as soon as they get to know me. Okay...many still find me scary

So, what misperceptions do people have about you before they get to know you better?

A common misconception is that I'm a confident person. It's all an act ... although I'm genuinly getting more confident as I getting thinner

People are scared of me usually ( i am what can be described as a rocker) i have my whole arm tattooed, both shoulder blades covered and all along the bottom of my back,as well as 19 piercings. The boots i wear weight 7 lb!! ( me and my cdc weighed them beacause she was amazed how many metal plates could be on a pair of boots) So out of work i can look kinda intimidating, but when people get to know me they are always really shocked! They expect me to have a massive attitude problem and be very cold blah!

But then at least i know the people around me are the ones who can see past all of my metal!! hehe

I also think it was a shock to the people i work with ( im a sales manager and im very professional at work, suited and booted and all that) but when we have dress down days/christmas party thats when the real rocker comes out!!
hehe

Ziggy x

OOh this is a goody!!

I've been told all my life that I'm aggressive and scary (!) - which worked to my advantage when I was a teacher lol but my allegedly defensive shell hides a real softy! My feeling is that if people can't be bothered to see below the surface, then I'd rather they thought I was strong and fearless than saw how pathetic I really am! lol

I've been viewed as common because of my tattoos and piercings.

I've been viewed as posh because of my accent.

I can't win! lol

My personal favourite came from a woman I met in a bar, who said she'd seen me in my local tesco and thought that I was a prostitute as I always wear make-up! WTF! Good thing I was a little tiddly and took it quite calmly! lol

Originally Posted by Russiandoll

A common misconception is that I'm a confident person. It's all an act ... although I'm genuinly getting more confident as I getting thinner

It's strange that, as I think that more overweight people are often perceived as being confident.

I suppose you could say that being overweight does call for a certain level of confidence. I always find it odd how people say deep down they want to stay overweight to remain invisible.

I think it's much easier to be invisible when you're slimmer, if you want to be, that is.

I'm sure others will disagree.

Originally Posted by ziggy

i have my whole arm tattooed, both shoulder blades covered and all along the bottom of my back,as well as 19 piercings. The boots i wear weight 7 lb!!

OMG Ziggy!! Reminds me of a guy I used to teach piano. He's about 20 yrs old now, but in his late teens, he looked fiercesome. He's about 6'6", weighs about 20 stone I suppose. Was a Goth.

He's putty really. As soft as they come I saw him/her the other day, now post Goth period, complete with wig, high heels, handbag and a rather fetching skirt. It did occur to me that he might have been to a fancy dress party, but no...the rest of the family assure me he's 'come out'.

Originally Posted by Isobel1965

My personal favourite came from a woman I met in a bar, who said she'd seen me in my local tesco and thought that I was a prostitute as I always wear make-up!

You little scrubber you

Issy's a scrubber,
Issy's a scubber
Nyah, nyah, na na naaaaaa

People say I am very confident - inside I am often not as confident as I look.

Friends always say I give an honest opinion - even if its not what they want to hear. One friend always reminds me of the first time I met her (OH's know each other), she was sending a friend out to get some wine & named a horrid fizzy cheap brand (anyone guess what?) - I could not help it I just said "can't we get something nicer". Another friend always says she only asks things if she wants to hear the truth - if she wants a specific answer she goes to other people!!!

Nicky

People say I'm a snob and posh - because of my accent and my nose turns up a bit.I can't help that?!?! Ever since I was a kid people have said that. I suppose now, at my ripe old age, my nose is the only bit of me that doesn't sag, so I should be grateful!!
SM

confident and self assured...
NO WAY
self concious and a worrier


also i think i come across a bit snobish, ( yes i know i do) im im not at all really...im the carboot/charity shop queen (but i like to act a bit posh...makes people wonder....)

i remember when i was in my early 20s. i was the only one at work, who was single, own house, car, holidays etc..and always seemed to have spare cash. they thought i was a rich daddys girl...far from it..i scrimp and save every penny half of my clothes are 2nd hand but i try to look expensive.

also my clients, and collegues are quite wealthy so i have to assume the part too..amazing what a 2nd hand suit, a briefcase and a BMW (paid for by the company ) can do for you. considering my collegue has a pilot for a son. a diamond broker for a husband. a country house, a city pad and a gite in france... i have a bungalow, a ford mondeo and 3 cats! one client was asking my advice on where her pool should be located in the garden and did i think 250K to build a pool was reasonable!! haha..if only they knew

Scary is a common one for me as well as confident, "got it together", "knows what's going on", etc, etc....

Whilst all that may well be true I think the biggest shock they get is that I actually have a sense of humour! Another forum thought that I was "too serious"...those that really know me know that humour is a big thing to me! Without it, I would've gone mad by now because I really haven't got a clue what I'm doing at all!!!