Acceptance

It is now 10 months since my Type 2 diagnosis and I continue to feel a lot of resentment and denial. I still have not told any friends and only very close family.

Does any one else feel the same? I swing between being controlled and sensible, watching my carbs etc. Then the next thing i know I have eaten something completely unsuitable.

My BGs seem in reasonable control. Rarely over 8 even 1 hour after a meal and usually under 7.5 2 hours after, but even so I wonder if I am doing myself damage by not being controlled all the time. I tend to be in the 5's before meals. Is that 'good enough'?

I guess I still want to stamp my feet and NOT be diabetic. Won't work though, will it?

Lets try it and see if it works hun

I've been type 1 for 3 years and I get periods like this, have tried to convince myself that the doctors were wrong but always have to face it the end that they're not.

Your BG levels sound really good, I'm a bit envious x

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Thanks OddSock, tbh, when I think of people with type 1 I feel really ashamed, as that is an even steeper learning curve and not something cutting the carbs can ever solve.

I'm glad you thing my bg's are good, I worry a lot about them so feel encouraged by your thoughts.

Awww Barb why would you feel ashamed? Both type 1 and 2 are a steep learning curve.

Since diagnosis I've felt type 2 diabetics get a raw deal. From talking to others on diabetic forums type 2 seem to be treated as inferior to type 1s by the medical profession, if I had a penny for the amount of times I've heard of people being diagnosed type 2 and told to go away and bring BGs down with diet and exercise and then get "told off" when BGs aren't perfect I'd be rich.

I'd be proud to have BGs like yours, since the weekend mine have been anywhere between 2.7 and 17 eeek x

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Hi,
I'm type 2 diabetes. I inject insulin twice daily before meals. I have started a low carb diet as my blood sugar levels have been terrible. I'm a chocoholic diabetic, lol. I'm feeling a bit rubbish at the moment as I'm getting used to this diet, craving carbs!! The food is lovely though so not too much of a hardship : )

i was diagnosed type 1 in october 2011 and although i felt i accepted it, other people kept telling me i hadn't, i didn't know why really...i guess people expect you to not cope? then I went through it all big time, what they were saying was coming true, it was a kind of late reactions i guess. I have poor control at the moment, low high low high low high etc... its nice to find this forum - sometimes it can be real lonley and when I speak to others with diabetes, its as though ive known them for ages.. like we have some sort of link lol

My doctor scared the life out of me, she said I was a walking stroke!! I had 2 chidren aged 37 and 40, and it really upsets me that they are too young to lose me yet. I want to see them grow up. I had gestational diabete's with my daughter and 2 tears after was told I had type 2 diabete's. Must admit I just shrugged it off and carried on living a life of eating whatever I wanted.But now my kidney's are starting to deteriorate. Big slap in the face!! Got to do this for my children! Pam x

So how long have you been type2 Crowther64? How long did you shrug it off for? Are you on meds or just diet and exercise.
I am really trying to get my head around it and have just booked my first review and blood test, as I have been trying to pretend it isn't true fir nearly a year. I have lost weight but still have a fair way to go!

My husband was diagnosed Type2 20 years ago now. Like you he was completely in denial about it, but not just for a few months but for years!
He has been extremely luckyreally as despite that the only real probelsm was Retinopathy which needed treatment and latterly some protein leakage.
It didnt matterhow much I tried he would take his medication but refused to adjust his diet, his attitude being, its going to kill me whatever Being a retired nurse you can imagine I tried everything to make sure that it didnt!
Then 18months ago we were due to go to Canada for a holiday and about 4 weeks before on a routine visit to check his bloods,he was told he was going to have to go on insulin.
That was the catalyst, the one thing that he really was not going to do. We managed go on holiday without starting on the insulin and when we came back he got an appointment with his consultant.
It was like a revelation, he was told if he could lose weight, substantial amounts of weight, he didnt need to go on insulin, in fact he could actually come off some of his meds provided that the weight loss was great enough.
He went home with a new purpose, changed the way he ate, started to exersize on the Wii, within 3months he had lost a stone, to date he has lost 4st 5lbs. He hasnt gone on insulin, his medication had reduced, he has been put on Byetta which really suits him and he is healthier than I have seen him since he was in the army all those years ago.
He loves the SW way of life, I have only been doing it for 7 weeks now but he has been eating the same as me and lost another 4.1/2lbs, his BP has reduced, his cholestrol is in normal limits.
Dontbe disheartened, at such an early stage of diagnosis, you can change things, you will always be a diabetic, but a controlled diabetic, with hopefully none of the damage that uncontrolled diabetes can do. Good Luck!!

I was diagnosed 6 years ago and was on pills. 18 months ago I was put on insulin and I inject twice a day.I'm ashamed to say that I go on a diet and it may last a month, then I go back to bad sugar control again. So really apart from a few weeks a year I have ignored it for 6 years!! But already since I have been on this diet (which I have never done before) my blood sugar has come down a lot and I'm not craving sugar at all. Its very hard to come to terms with diabete's, I have always been a sweetie/chocs lover!! Speak to your diabetic nurse Barb, diabete's cant be cured, but it can be controlled!! Losing weight and less carb is very beneficial to people like us. I'm so determined that I am going to get my life back and I hope you can too Barb!! Love Pam x

Thanks Pam. It sounds like you really have got your head around it now an dare on a winning streak. I feel like I am being more accepting and less negative about it now and that should help me do what i need to do, which is lose weight and do more exercise! Love Barb xx

I still haven't accepted it after nearly 4 years. I have days when i think "Why me?", but then most days i feel normal, and my sugars stay below 10.
I think i've finally found a diet that has it under control. I resent me fiance when he's sitting there with a tub of Ben and Jerrys, and i'm there with a Muller light instead though!
Maybe one day someone will find a cure....or invent sugar free ben and jerrys! x

Claire, always there with the common sense, thank you!

I have had a pretty stern talk to myself today. I have been sliding down a slippery slope for too long. Well, no more. I have to get serious with myself and I'm going to. Out with the bad habits and in with the good.
I have to get past this mental; block that says type 2 is a disaster; it doesn't have to be if i deal with it now. I need to keep coming back to these threads for advice and support and I will.

Barb said:

Claire, always there with the common sense, thank you!

I have had a pretty stern talk to myself today. I have been sliding down a slippery slope for too long. Well, no more. I have to get serious with myself and I'm going to. Out with the bad habits and in with the good.
I have to get past this mental; block that says type 2 is a disaster; it doesn't have to be if i deal with it now. I need to keep coming back to these threads for advice and support and I will.

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Thats the spirit !! When im feeling blue, i sit n think ... bloody el Claire theirs ppl out there sooo much worse off than yerself .. get yer ass into gear and stop thinking the worst .. (it usually works afters a days sulking )

The problem I find it's that there's so much stigma attached to being type 2 in the media and broader society that you feel embarrassed and ashamed to suffer from it. Then of course you see people a LOT bigger than yourself who don't have diabetes and resent that too. Like everything in life there are good days and bad days, but we just have to keep plugging away, it's our only option.

I agree with you Ross, it is a feeling of 'oh well, it's your fault, you ate too much, now you are a drain on the NHS' - an attitude we see on an almost daily basis via the media. My understanding is that it is gene influenced first and foremost and that lots of other things can cause type 2 such as medicines (steroids), stress, low birth weight and yes, for some excessive weight gain. However, there are plenty of thin type 2's out there, so it cannot possibly be entirely weight related. However, I think the media loves a bit of 'fat bashing' and us cuddly type 2's are a very easy target.

There's a lot of great advice in here, so maybe I can give you a little story that will help you feel better. My grandmother has diabetes, and she's always told me that she doesn't worry about a small candy bar here, or a bite of cake there. Her motto is that as long as you're taking care of yourself 90% of the time it's okay to lapse the other 10%. "Sometimes," she says, "It's just not worth living if you can't have that chocolate." So be careful, be healthy, and be forgiving of yourself if you have to bend the rules in a rare instance.