I hate me!

I cannot bear myself tonight. Really can't bear the sight. Make myself sick, such a big fat mess. I'm so angry at myself letting myself get like this!!!
Hate being over 14st, hate everything about me, I feel awful. Going on a real strict diet as from the morning.
Really low evening this evening. Got to work really hard to lose this, or at least a chunk of it before summer. I hate me and I'm annoyed at myself, feel like crying.
Sorry I just had to get that out, I really need some help and support to do this, I'm fit to drop with lots of different personal issues, I could do with some help in my weight loss journey.

Oh dear, sounds like you are having a bad time.

Here are a few things to think about which I hope will help

Firstly, try and remember how you feel now and turn those negative feelings into positive action. We are the ones who have got ourselves in this mess and we are the only ones who can get ourselves out and we have to take accountability for everything that goes in our mouths. Recently I heard someone say "Don't hope, but plan. Don't dream, but act" and I think about that when I'm struggling.

Secondly, start now. The sooner you start the sooner you will feel better about yourself. You can easily be two stone lighter by spring if you average a 2lb a week loss. You just have to stay focused and stick with it and before you know it the weight will be coming off in chunks . Yesterday is gone - forget it, tomorrow is yet to come, but it's the decisions and actions we take today that will determine our tomorrow.

finally, , take control! When things around you are going wrong and making life tough the one thing you can control is your health. If you eat healthily, get plenty of sleep and increase your exercise you will feel so much better and more energetic... So get your 5 a day in , cut out sugary foods, go for a walk at lunch time and get an early night.

I've struggled with my weight most of my adult life. Nearly 12 months ago I left a job that was making me Ill and miserable and I had piled on the weight through reaching for pastries, cakes, chocolate etc when things got tough. I started on July 1st 2014 and have managed to shift 2stone so far and still going. I fall off the wagon sometimes but overall it's going in the right direction. We are all on this journey together. Good luck x

Hi ponytales and thank you so much for your positive words. I'm feeling a lot better after a good nights sleep, think last night was a particularly low and negative night for me.

I've read everything you've said and you're so right, I usually do turn the negatives in to a positive, but you're right, to stop feeling that way I MUST take action right now and get myself sorted.
People tell me, "You don't look that fat" but it's nothing to do with that, it's how it makes me feel to know I'm overweight and too big to fit in certain clothes any more.

I', getting strong this morning and going to have a real push at myself. Onwards and upwards I guess,
thank you for your kind words, I have saved them on a screen capture so I can always get motivated again! And sorry for being such a down in the dumps in here last night.

Well done on your losses too, you've done absolutely great!

No problem. We are all here to help each other. I'm so glad you are feeling brighter today.

If you click on my profile you will find a thread on my recent posts called something about losing a stone for christmas. There are a small group of us on there that help and support each other. Feel free to come over and join us on that thread if you would like to

Hi Jules, Ah thanks I will do that, that will be great
I've done well today, have controlled all my food and portions, done an hour of exercise, I'm feeling much better!

I'm in the same situation LittleHistorian - similar height and weight, and I started my healthy eating and exercise regime on New Year's Day.
The best advice I can give for now is that making even a small amount of progress is a massive psychological boost, and will push you on to continue as soon as the number on the scales starts dropping. I feel so much better for being "on the wagon", even though I haven't lost enough weight yet to look any different on the outside or buy any smaller clothes. It's just the knowledge that I'm eating properly, exercising and finally doing something about it when it comes to weight. I hope you feel the same way after your first week or so.

Also, I find it useful not to think too much in terms of "Oh no, four stone to go, it seems impossible...", try to set yourself smaller targets. I have set a personal target of 12st by Easter because it will get me out of the obese BMI category. After that, start dealing with the other 2 stones, one week at a time

PS. Nice avatar, I love a bit of Ronnie! Will be watching him (hopefully) smash Marco Fu tomorrow after my swim!

Instant_Karma said:

I'm in the same situation LittleHistorian - similar height and weight, and I started my healthy eating and exercise regime on New Year's Day.
The best advice I can give for now is that making even a small amount of progress is a massive psychological boost, and will push you on to continue as soon as the number on the scales starts dropping. I feel so much better for being "on the wagon", even though I haven't lost enough weight yet to look any different on the outside or buy any smaller clothes. It's just the knowledge that I'm eating properly, exercising and finally doing something about it when it comes to weight. I hope you feel the same way after your first week or so.

Also, I find it useful not to think too much in terms of "Oh no, four stone to go, it seems impossible...", try to set yourself smaller targets. I have set a personal target of 12st by Easter because it will get me out of the obese BMI category. After that, start dealing with the other 2 stones, one week at a time

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Hi Instant_Karma, you're so right, I haven't even lost anything but just sticking to my new diet regime today has made me feel heaps better as well as knowing that I'm determined to get myself in gear.
I think the whole idea of getting something done about it really does change your frame of mind. Glad I've met someone on here who is similar to me, we can keep each other motivated and maybe buddy up!

Funnily enough, that's just what I've done. I'm setting myself mini-goals of losing one stone at a time. So I have 4 lots of a stone to lose which I've put in my signature. Then that way its less daunting. I would like to have lost a stone by the end of March/2nd week of April if possible, I'm trying to be as realistic as I can.

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PS. Nice avatar, I love a bit of Ronnie! Will be watching him (hopefully) smash Marco Fu tomorrow after my swim!

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Ha, I have to admit I'm a bit in love with Ronnie, if anyone's had a weird crush it's me! Just love watching him play snooker, he is brilliant, I'll be tuned in tomorrow afternoon as well, supporting him, hope he wins. His fluke on the yellow on Tuesday was amazing!

How's it going, LittleHistorian?

Ronnie lost :cry:I couldn't bear to watch it in the end.
I've had a "bad" day as well, think I'm on about 1900 cals, couldn't keep away from the chocolate biscuits and crumpets. I'll have to swim it off before my next weigh-in. x

Hi Karma, I'm good thanks and I couldn't watch yesterday either, hated to see Ronnie lose like that, was tough for a fan to take!
I've been quite good this week and have lost 2lbs, been doing my exercise every day and sticking to my diet. Had a bag of crisps yesterday though, oops!
I'm sure you will swim off those crumpets and biscuits in not time, you need a treat now and then...it will be fine. I hate having to drink my tea without a choccy biscuit, it's not the same!
What's your name by the way? I'm Lisa x

My name is Amy and I'm 23.

Hi Amy! Like I said I'm Lisa, I'm 29. It's so nice to "meet" such kind people in this forum