Mental Barrier?

[Blonde Logic]

Morning lovey. SOrry you are poorly - I'm there with you. My back went out late monday night and I have been flat out since. Nothing like time like that to get the old mind working, ay?

Journaling can be a very good start - you see things more clearly and that can help you start to get it all out.

I think why we feel it now, or as we go through all of this is like Pete said - there are so many layers underneath that as we shed one, we approach another. I know that each 20, 30 - 50 pounds I gained were for individual events and reasons....as you shed one, you then approach another. It's usually the last one that is the hardest. It was for me anyway.

SB- I would not have been so open in group if were not for people like you and H and J etc that made me feel safe to do so....so I owe you a lot of thanks too.

Its bloody hard work Emma - BLOODY HARD - but it is the BEST thing you can do for yourself.

If it is any help, it is harder THINKING abuot talking about it, then it is to actually talk- once you blurt it out, put it on the table, it then gets easier. So much easier. Painful? Sure. BUt easier? Definately. And you will feel the benefits almost immediately.

ANd it is very freeing - in so many more ways then just shifting weight - it can be life changing. SO don't give up - be strong. When you are ready, get it out - and get rid of it. You don't need to hang on to it anymore. And we're all here for you to help you like your wounds once you do. <<<<<<hugs hugs hugs>>>>>>>

xxx

[lovelynaett]

Hello futureyummymummy.

I've done LL some 18 month ago and gave up because I couldn't deal with lots of emotion I thought were gone.

They came back wih a vengeance as soon as I reach my goal weight. It took me some time and I realised that I had to deal with it now or never. I'm tired of being overweight and tired of using my weight as an excuse for every failure. So to make it work this time around, I'm seeing a therapist. I can talk freely and even thought it is hard, I know I need it. Maybe you should look into finding someone you can talk too.

Hope that helps.

[slendablenda]

Good to see you acknowledging the emotional side. I could have sworn you previously said that was just for the ladies and for guys it was more straight forwrd, or am I remembering wrongly?
We all bleed when we are scratched don't we?
We all have feelings and emotions which affect our lives.

[pete10141748]

(Pete)
Good to see you acknowledging the emotional side. I could have sworn you previously said that was just for the ladies and for guys it was more straight forwrd, or am I remembering wrongly?

I did say that in a way, though I never meant that there is no emotional side to it for guys at all, I think the point I was making at that time was that for most guys, on a day-to-day basis, there isn't so much emotion involved, or at least, we don't acknowledge that it is there and affects us as much as some ladies seem to.


Case in point, one of the female teachers at work is doing the Rosmary Connolly diet, has been for a few weeks. Today she totally lost control and ate a huge bar of galaxy, and for half the bar she was crying while eating. I really, REALLY can't see a guy doing that; much more likely we'd adopt the "f*ck it" approach and just eat it and feel guiltily happy afterwards, like a child with dinner smeared around his chops and grinning ear to ear