Very unsupportive partner :(

[leighsewingdiva]

this is in no way any easy way its bloody hard work but oh so worth it. Try getting him to watch the video on the liportrim site so he can see its safe and how it works then maybe he'll change his mind? either way sod him you've got us for support anyway!!!!! big hugs xx

[fizzstar]

Ohhhh read my thread 'why is my OH such a d***'

Seriously, F him. Might not be what you wanna hear but honestly, im sat here now, my OH is pigging out (carb overload) and im laughing, ive got 2 more shakes to have today and its midnight - how I dont know but I really just think F off to him. My OH is very unsupportive cause I kept cracking on the diet, and falling off it. But im going to bed soon, to say bye to day6 and hello day7! You can do it for yourself, keep smiling xxxx

[MsJMC]

yes , do it for you xx

[Leluna]

hiya! just thought i would throw in my bit..... yep maybe your partner is worried about you but shame he is displaying his concern in such a negative fashion.... but here's the thing... you have to do this for you and if he's still unsupportive you have to explain to him that this is for you, for your health and state of mind and you would appreciate his support.... it's up to him then what road he chooses..... thing is when you're all skinnyminny and lookin fab and feelin positive and he's reaping the benefits (after dark....!!) well he won't be complainin then??!!!!!!!!!! good luck girl and stay strong!!!

[lisabear x]

hi,
I think he would like you to be fat, he is obviously worried that when you are slim and beautiful other men will show interest and you might run off and leave him for someone a bit more supportive!! he is probably worried xx

[frankiec]

When I first mentioned doing this, my OH was worried that I'd be sick etc. I got the DVD and got him to sit through it and it did alleviate some of his worry. He didn't try to stop me doing it and he was great as I started loosing weight.
My OH is quite a tactless individual and usually engages his tongue way ahead of his brain - its probably the one thing we really argue about. He's gotten much better over the years as I've explained that whether he means it or not, once its said, its said. While he didn't say anything hugely negative about LT, I could just hear him saying half what your did - and actually not really meaning it and he'd be horrified later at how much he'd have hurt me.
He's always been supportive of LT insofar as he doesn't criticise me for doing it. He cooks for himself, always has and at times I do feel like crying at the lovely smells. But I do know he has to live his life too and he can't deprive himself just for me.
He understands I have to do this for myself and that nothing much else seems to work for me.
I think you have to decide how much support your partner is able to give you and find the strength within yourself to live with that and work with that. Best of luck with it.

[mummyof1]

My Oh was the same when i first started he said it didnt seem "normal" and that i would be ill, then the first week i wanted to kill him and hated everything and everyone because of the lack of food and all i got was " you need to eat, your in a bad mood all the time" then after i lost some weight and a size lower i seemed to be more confident, happy and even wore clinging clothes that i didnt do since we first got together and he even admitted that it is the best thing i have done for me! now he supports me all the way even though it gets hard for me sometimes at the weekends and social gatherings. But do it for you..... good luck with it x

[jenhen72]

Just do it for you, you have to be strongminded and take the criticism , unless you can keep it from people, some do!! but like the others have said once you start to notice and feel slimmer, it will get easier, and it happens mighty quick too! Your OH will soon eat his words...

Good luck!

[sigourney]

How is everyone doing ...? X

[Thornhill Cate]

I am always suspicious of a partner's motives when I hear about them belittling and undermining the efforts of the person they're supposed to love to lose weight and feel better about themselves. What are they afraid of? You really MUST do this for yourself. Sod him and his ill informed opinions. Just make sure you keep it off afterwards or you'll have to live with the 'I told you so' comments for ever by the sounds of it. All the best.

[fizzstar]

How is everyone doing ...? X

I'm doing better.

On day 13 (still feels strange saying that) and ive got more energy than he has had in the years ive been with him. My sister is due to go into labour anytime now, so I will have my niece and son to take care of for a few days very soon whilst shes in hospital. So i'm positive because i'm going to be able to take them out with the dog [my son has selective hearing and its terrible to control him somedays but niece is brill at it! Shes only 5 ] and she also keeps an eye on him and entertains him, especially if weather is good so they can play out! So im overall better, but hes still an ass

[Catherine12]

Do what is good for you, ignore the OH. They are probably worried about what they will eat now you wont be cooking. Am i right? Go for it, you'll feel fab.

[sigourney]

Good good ... Well done on completing 2 weeks x

[mimosa]

Hiya
Right, well I'm brand spanking new so I don't want to come into your thread all 'oh what a k***head' about your OH, but flippin'eck!
There is nothing on the planet worse than having no support when you're trying so desperately to lose weight.

Honestly love, just do it, and do it for YOU - no one else, he'll soon be eating his words when you start looking AWESOME and he's the one panicking when you're off out with the girls

Good luck!

Mim x

[Bellerine]

Go easy on your other half. Maybe change scares him. The loss of control. The introduction of a new dynamic. Clearly he was happy with the way things were. You overweight and all. Better than if he was herding you into the chemist with orders to lose weight! Don't make a big thing of the diet. Introduce changes into your habits in a way that reduces the drama. Cut him some slack. When he sees the new you is still beside him he'll come round.

Belle