- 2 Post By bigmuthabluffa
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- 1 Post By Nic1559
Deep thoughts but might interest :}
hi guys self sabotage has been an enemy to fight with over the years, I have been there a few times and I have done alot of thinking about it, so here are my theories
Compliments although are nice to receive just cement the fact that while I was fat I wasn't good enough for people to notice.
Compliments are about my weight loss and not about me, meaning again I am not being complimented just the lack of fat.
Compliments sometimes come with a how did you do it, and that means the person only wants to know my secrets not me.
Compliments are also sometimes from healthy and thin people who try to compare themselves with my war against fat, and this is just annoying because they haven't got a *&%$^%$ clue.
More personally, Compliments are not something I am used to and I still don't feel worthy of them, that then makes me feel very uncomfortable.
I then thing the self sabotage comes in because I want to be accepted as a 'fattie' in the same way as a 'thinnie', also because I am not comfortable getting the compliments one sure fire way of not getting any is being fat again, so it is my hidey place.
Bit deep maybe for a morning but this is how it effects me,
This time however I am ready for all the psycological warfare as well as the physical warfare,
I am not healthy when I am Fat, that is the bottom line, people will always have opinions, good or bad about how I lose the weight or how I look,
I am fed up with hiding behind my fat suit, so from now on people can have their opinions, I am going to accept the compliments as opinions and keep on my journey to healthiness
Start Weight 17st 1lb Wk 1 Wk 2 Wk 3 Wk 4 Wk 5 Wk 6 Wk 7 Wk 8 Wk 9 Wk 10 Wk 11 Wk 12
Goal 1 get through week one Goal 2 Lose 1 stone Goal 3 stay at 100% for 1 month Goal 4 get my Mojo back (if ya no what I mean) Goal 5 Fit in to 14's comfortably Goal 6 Get in to my knee length boots Goal 7 Believe in my self confidence Goal 8 Excercise 3 times a week
Goal 9 Get to goal
Goal 10 Stay at goal for 1 month Goal 11 Stay at goal for 6 months
- Rep Power
Start Weight: 16st10lb
Current Weight: 16st3lb
Total Weight Loss: 0st7lb
% Lost 2.99%
some real thoughts there; thanks for sharing x
my sister inlaw has just lost 5 stone on ww and I did ask her how she did it, I was really happy for her but jealous and it brought about feelings of not being good enough, how couls she do it and not me (im not good enough) but I was also really happy for her ( I do love her!! )
ive realised that when we've not felt good enough, especially as children, the thoughts are what WE put on any situation. When my parents made more of a fuss over my brothers achievements at school, rather than mine, I thought I wasn't good enough. In reality, they were trying to boost my brothers confidence and not damage mine. So the "IM NOT GOOD ENOUGH" didn't ever exist. It was something I projected.
This is something we take with us to every other life situation therein without ever realising.
I feel much freer of this damaging thought process I hope you can too xx
good luck! I'm on day two and IM MORE THAN GOOD ENOUGH" and so are you !!
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- Rep Power
Start Date: 5th January 2013
Start Weight: 22st10lb
Current Weight: 19st12lb
Start BMI: 54.6
Current BMI: 47.7
Total Weight Loss: 2st12lb
% Lost 12.58%
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