250lb to lose - NEED help and friends for support

Hi all

Ok so my start weight is around 400lbs. It's horrid bla bla bla I'm used to it. But I don't want to be

I'm getting married in October so I have 3 months to try to do what I can so I can look a teeny bit better in the photos.

My goal is 4 stone, realistically I think I can do 3 but I have so much to lose I think I can pull it off.

I will bore you all to death with food diaries and planning and diet speak and I hope I can get some support and in return I will offer support too.

I will add my tickers when I'm allowed a signature and I will update my bio tomorrow.

I'm going away this weekend so officially starting the diet on Monday with my first weigh in on Friday then every Friday from then on.

Welcome to the site Hershey - its a great place for support and getting advice! Best of luck with your loss for the wedding. Just take it one step at a time and even if you have a bad day remember to put that aside and get back on track

ciarsdub said:

Welcome to the site Hershey - its a great place for support and getting advice! Best of luck with your loss for the wedding. Just take it one step at a time and even if you have a bad day remember to put that aside and get back on track

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Thank you that's good advice x

hi hershey
welcome to the form you come to the right place love everyone is lovely and will give you the support you need and we are all in the same boat good look on your journey love x x x x

chezz said:

hi hershey welcome to the form you come to the right place love everyone is lovely and will give you the support you need and we are all in the same boat good look on your journey love x x x x

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Thanks chezz it's just what I need! X

Hiya Hershey and welcome :wavey:

Really looking forward to hearing your great progress and helping as/when I can - be warned, I want to hear all about the wedding - dress, flowers, reception, the lot

ladyfelsham said:

Hiya Hershey and welcome :wavey: Really looking forward to hearing your great progress and helping as/when I can - be warned, I want to hear all about the wedding - dress, flowers, reception, the lot

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Haha! This is my second marriage and I don't like attention at the best of times so it's going to be as minimal as possible.
We have 8 guests and are getting married on Halloween we aren't goths lol, it just worked out best as that's when people could attend. It's a talking point too!

As for the dress I haven't even thought about it I'm too fat now anyway, I'm not one for fancy stuff so it'll be something simple and uncomplicated!
All I want it to run away and get married but my other half wants at lest few people there. I'm dreading it to be honest but I adore him so I'm putting up with the fear for one day!! I have awful social anxiety :/ xx

Oh sweetie sorry - didn't mean to make you worried!

Simple and uncomplicated sounds perfect, especially on Halloween! xxx

ladyfelsham said:

Oh sweetie sorry - didn't mean to make you worried! Simple and uncomplicated sounds perfect, especially on Halloween! xxx

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you didn't make me worry! I've been worried since the proposal!!

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Hi and welcome. You will definitely get loads of support from everyone here. I can understand where you are with the social anxiety as I suffer from it to and panic attacks.

You can do this and you will look great. On the big day just think of your hubby and you, don't look at anyone else. You will be fine. Xx

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Welcome to the lovely group and good luck :welcome:

Hello and welcome, hon. All the very best for your weight loss journey and the wedding! xx

Thank you all for a fab welcome

I'm looking forward to our weekend getaway and then starting fresh on Monday. Is anyone starting an august challenge? Would love to get in on that from next Friday

Xx

Welcome although I'm fairly new myself. I wish you good look on your weight lost journey. I have a similar amount of weight to loose but I've already lost a stone. It would have been more but I've had a lot of personal issues so emotional eating came into play but I lost 11lbs last week so it can be done. We'll take it one day at a time. I have no idea about challenges, but sounds like fun.

You could always set up a challenge yourself and ask people to join in.

Hope you have a lovely weekend and are raring to go Monday morning. We will be here to make sure you do xx

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Welcome sweetheart

Please don't worry, you've made the first step to helping yourself get healthier and feel happier - that's often the hardest thing in the world, especially with social anxiety. (I'm with you too! I hate meeting people, even family and those I know well) and struggle with conversation purely down to my own confidence issues, yet on a place like this I'm well away!)

You're amongst friends who are all going through the same thing and have experienced everything you're going through too, we're all in the same boat and we can help you through it There's people who started out heavier than you (I was 28st 9lb when I first started. Lost 5 stone and put it all back on aside from 1stone through convinience food when the poo hit the fan family wise again for a bit) and people like Tracy who are living proof that people our size CAN get down to a healthy weight through hard work.

Please keep coming back and posting lovely

Hi Hun

Good luck with your goal. me and my hubby actually got together on Halloween I suffer from social anxiety too and know how debilitating it can be.

Take care xxx

thank you for the welcome. its great to chat with other same sized people, coz skinny people know not whats its like to be so enormous :|

we've just got back from a weekend away in north wales, im from south west wales so it wasnt too far, just nice to getaway for a bit.
had an ok time, was really hot so got super hot and bothered and had to bare my upper arms as much as i hate it, but what the hell, no one knew me.
we stopped off at a place called coed y brenin which is like woodland lovers/cyclist/adventure seekers paradise. my other half is a tree surgeon so he wanted to check it out. we went in and were going to have a cup of tea while overlooking hundreds of trees for him to feast his beady eyes on, but they a load of cyclists walked past and one saw me then said something along the lines of '***** have you seen the size of that?' while nodding towards me, which obviously then prompted them all to have a glare and a snigger at my expense and it made me feel so uncomfortable that i got up and stormed out to the car and sat with the air con on and cried
its so awful that people think its ok to make comments or stare at me like im a circus freak. it makes me so down and i hate myself when it happens whats so bloody amazing about a fat person? im not abnormal, i dont have anything wrong with me, and even if i did, it still wouldnt be ok to look at me! im just a human being, a girl/woman (im 31, im toying with the idea of allowing myself to be an adult but its difficult!), whats there to whisper about? i dont nudge people and go.. ***** have you seen how bald that bloke is, or omg his feet are huge and then laugh about it!
these people who make these comments dont seem to realise just how it affects me! its been so bad that ive been suicidal at times. really i just thought why should i be alive? i have no right to be outside forcing others to look at me. its so sad
i pull myself out of it and i feel ok a few hours later but still, its horrid. i just want to feel normal. go outside and not be gawped at. im sure most of you know what im talking about.

anyway, i felt better today and we stopped at a gorgeous place called Tywyn, i had a paddle in the sea for 15 mins and peace was restored.

tomorrow i am going to fire up MFP and get logging. i may or may not do a food diary. so here goes, 3 months to my wedding day, starts tomorrow. xxx

Hi hon! I'm so sorry you had that nasty experience - people can be awful, can't they? But it's their problem, not yours, they're just pathetic, so please don't let it get to you! xx

I'm sorry you had some nasty people whilst your away. I'm going away next weekend and fully prepared for it. To make matters worse its to the seaside so I need to wear a bathing suit! Just don't worry about it to much. Your trying to change yourself and they'll still be the narrow minded idiots who can't see how beautiful and intelligent you are. Besides are any of us ready to be grown up? I'm almost 29 with two kids and I'm just as bad as them!