KD

and thanks DQ

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canireallydothis!!

[quote]Yup, I get that, can see DD going down same route too

Not sure I get the IE bit, havent researched it, I know it means intuitive, but my intuitive is different!

Half and half, sometimes it was the novelty factor, and sometimes it was hard, but mainly I was getting off on being slim I reckon

Didnt really deal with that one!!!

Can you do both, avoid certain things yet allow others??


So do I have to test myself?? Is that what you did, ie go and buy a packet of biscuits and see if I can test myself, or just slowly build up to it??

Arghhh!!!!

Ok, so I have the desire to eat, and the desire in my head means need to eat it now, I can get that, yup, no probs, that makes sense, but Im scared that Ill never be able to do it, Im scared that ill never have just the one, or just a handful, yet I know I can do it, Im scared to test it in case I drop an almighty b*llock and trough the lot!!!

Do I keep on fighting, will I win in the end??

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But you're going up the plans aren't you Vicky You've got to go up the plans. Don't let this throw you off course with Cambridge.

Anyway, will answer the questions if I can

Blast! But she's at a good age to 'train'. Lots of good times without food involved etc.

I think there is a lot to be said for it. I would call myself an IE person, just tweaked. As it happens, people do tweak. Most non-diet methods have a slightly different way of getting to the same point and at the end of the day you have to work it to suit.

In what way? Avoiding large quantities of unhealthy/trigger foods, yet still allowing yourself to have some?
It's easier if there isn't much in the house, but then you don't get to test yourself much. I introduced things gradually, working through various trigger foods.

Relax. Nothing to be scared of You mustn't get upset with the AD, but you do need to understand it.

Just remember that if you give in, you are reinforcing your AD and vice versa. It really is your choice. You can eat whatever you want. There are no limits. The last thing you need when you have finished the dieting journey is to find you are still having to make food illegal.

You have the choice at all times. Have now and feed the desire, or have later. Eat healthily and feel good, or eat rubbish and feel rubbish

Okay...sometimes we feel good eating rubbishbut not in the long term. Just remember that and make informed choices.

There will be times when you give into the AD, and times when you wont. It doesn't matter. Make peace with it all. Just keep working on it. It's when you try to fight it, rather than just accept it that it gets harder.

Don't fight. Hang on..I've just said that

It's fun. Laugh at it. Don't get stressed. Okay...does that sound too difficult at the moment?

Can you relax into the feeling. Just accepting the feeling, acknowledging it, then moving back into what you were doing?

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canireallydothis!!

Last post before bed, I stayed up for your reply!!!

I can, yes, I really can, Im gonna make the odd cock up, I know that, but as long as it is the odd one, then Im normal!

Right, back to 790, then moving up, and facing my demons, facing my AD chatterbox, and knowing that if I conquer it then Ill get there in the end x

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That's one of the hardest things to do...

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Well, I never said it was going to be easy

Attitude is everything. We often find it hard because we fight it. We think we are depriving ourselves and feel sorry for ourselves.

We make it into such a big deal. That's because we are addicts. It's not such a big deal though if you accept it for what it is. There is no deprivation. You can have what you want, just not at that moment if it's an AD.

It's only when you start doing this and realise the benefits of not making the AD = action, that you see how possible it is. And of course, the more you do it, the better you get

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I should add that I didn't invent this way of dealing with it, just tweaked bits.

The first time I had heard of the term AD was when I was trying to give up smoking (once and for all...after millions of attempts). I found quite a few references to it on the net and then an internet friend who had used the same technique to conquer her food addiction. It just seemed to make so much sense.

These are some of the phrases that I copied from the internet some time ago. They were to do with various other addictions, but nevertheless, I could see how to apply it to my own.

The person attempts to rid the AD
The desire returns days or even years later
He resists the returning desire until he can't fight it any longer. Then, since he has no way of coping with the desire, he returns to the addictive behaviour

The person tries to exclude from his consciousness a thought or feeling that is determined to be threatening. It is the most common reason that an individual has difficulty overcoming any addiction

Instead of repression, look for an approach that teaches you 1) how to experience your addictive desires and 2) how to choose whether or not to act on them.

If you learn how to face your addictive desires, you won't have to fear them.

Experiencing the addictive desire rather than repressing it gives you the best chance for the long run because it teaches you how to face your problem rather than bury it.

By learning how to choose whether or not to act on the addictive desire your long term chances of success are improved because you don't have to rely on anyone else but you. You don't need a crutch because you
have something more effective than a crutch. You have the ability to
make your own choices

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It's good to challenge yourself. Sometimes you'll find it really easy to beat the AD, sometimes it will be hard. If you feel it getting too easy, you can challenge it. Bring it to the forefront.

For example, just say you decide you will eat your 'snack' at 9:00. You're not tempted at all before then. You could get to 9:00, get it out, then decide that you will actually eat it at 10:00.

That's hard, but it gives you a chance to work on the AD.

Of course, you can still eat it at 9:00. The choice is yours. If you decide to delay it, know that you made the decision.

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Hi KD

As you know I am now an avid fan, so am really pleased you've decided to start a new thread (hopefully we'll be able to convince you to carry on after the holidays). Only just got to the new thread, have spent time this morning reading more of your old diary.

How interesting to find that it was through your research for giving up smoking that you found out about AD.

As I've said before I am a smoker and at the moment have no real intentions of trying to give up, I feel I need to do one thing at a time.

I'm presuming you have used this technique for quitting, in which case I hope that if I can master it for weight maintenance, I can then apply it for giving up smoking. I live with an ex smoker, who tells me it's simple...just stop! If only I had the simple black and white mind of my man

Tracey
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KD

OMG, you poor sod. I suggest you have a lie down. I've never read it...oh except for as it posted. I dread to think what was going on in my head at that time.

As you might have noticed, I took a few turnings here and there to get to where I am now. Trial and error I really ought to go and read it, but I'm not sure I've got the courage.

Agree there! When I gave up, I was quite comfortable with my weight and way of eating.

They don't understand do they

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