Hey becca, if I was you I would say to your boss that you want to take another 3 months off, your allowed up to year for maternity so you could have a bit time to think and see how you would manage financially as you wouldn't get paid for the extra time. What your boss as done is out of order as your entitle to flexible working hours and if you've agreed on those days and times she can't go and change them without speaking to you about it. But if you don't go back to work maybe you could do more mobile hairdressing just to bring extra cash in and take Amelia to loads of playgroup, play centres etc so you can meet more mums and you might get more work that way cos for most mums its so much hassle to go hairdressers and more costly. I got a friend from my daughters school who gets loads of work just from other mums at the school. I definitely agree with you with not putting Amelia in a nursery if you don't feel comfortable with the idea.
For us I worked part- time when I just had my eldest and when I was pregnant with my second I ended up taking redundancy as my boss screwed me over on days as well.
I couldn't go back to work at moment I would pay out to much in child care, if I did have family to help out I wouldn't mind working 1 or 2 mornings but I think they grow so fast, so would never want to work full time while their young, I know some people don't have a choice so it must be hard leaving your lo's but we seem to manage my oh brings in a decent wage and when the girls are at nursery and school then I'll be the same and go back to work part time x
Becki- your boys are lovely and Jesse looks so sweet and tiny compared to Maisie, ill post some recent pics later x