Thread: I need to be whipped into shape :(

Can't believe I keep doing this to myself. I lose weight, gain it back, lose again etc. I have just over 3 months until my wedding, my wedding dress won't fit until I've lost about 3st. I know it's possible on this diet, but I'm really weak willed
I also have mental health problems, which do impact and make this even harder. I just hate myself right now for falling of the wagon when I was doing so well and gaining back the weight I lost
If I don't do something now I won't have a dress to wear on my wedding day, why can't I get myself going with this

I guess part of my trouble is also the nerves I feel with my impending nuptials. I'm not scared of being married, but the thought of going up with aisle and saying our vows is getting really daunting, I'm kind of in denial that it's happening which I think is why I can't motivate myself with the wedding. I'm almost pretending it's not happening...

I'll hate myself forever if I don't lose the 3st for my wedding and I'll disappoint my family and fiance

I'm starting again today and I really have to make it work.

Aww hun, don't beat yourself up about it. We've ALL been there. I can guarantee that pretty much everyone on here has lost, gained and lost again, probably even more than once! That's not what matters, what matters is that you're here now, ready to give it another go.

Maybe it might be a good idea to go and have a chat with your doctor about what's going on in your head at the moment? Explain how you're feeling about everything, see how they can help you.

Is it because of your weight that you find the actual ceremony so daunting? Maybe try and visualise yourself doing it 3st down, how do you feel then? I'm sure that once it actually gets around to the big day you'll have a lovely day but I can understand it being a little daunting.

You did a great job on S&S before, I have no doubts that you'll fit into that dress! Keep going lovely.

It's tough, it really is. When you've got through your life by eating your emotions it can sometimes feel nigh on impossible to do anything different no matter how hard you try. And when something triggers such strong emotions, it feels the most natural thing in the world to eat your way through it. Re-educating how you think about food can help but it's not a quick fix to do, and in some respects it can make it a little tougher to do when you know the reasons why you have a need to overeat but still can't stop yourself from doing it. I guess anything worth having is worth the struggle to get it though

How important is it to get into that dress? Will it ruin the day if you can't get in it? It is not negotiable - you must get in it? What is the most important aspect of that day? Do you have alternatives (the dress, not the wedding!)? Do you want alternatives? Perhaps if you can decide how important the goal is to you, then work backwards and get a plan together of small steps to reach that goal, that may assist. Have a list of things to acheive to set you on your way - get through day one, have an extra pack on day 2, drink a litre of water extra on day 3 etc etc...

The best tiny piece of advice I was ever given was "time passes anyway" - it's just 3 months, that's all, just 3 months of following this plan to have the wedding day of your dreams in the wedding dress of your dreams.

Now, I need to apply some of that advice to myself! You can do it, you'll be the most beautiful bride

Thank you , both of you

@caz, I don't think it's the weight making me nervous, just the general idea of all the attention

@noodles, My parents bought me the dress about 6 months ago, it's hanging up in their house at this very moment. I don't want to let them down when they've paid for it and don't want to let myself down by being a big fat bride. So really, for everyone to be happy (including myself) I HAVE to fit that dress!

You'll do it And then we need pics...

I have created a count down chart recently - short term targets, 14 days without cheats etc. it's really dumb, but just putting a strike through the number after a successful day is really motivating (it helps that it's stuck to the fridge!).

you can do it! Maybe just look at it in smaller chunks instead of a great big, scary, must achieve, three month target. Aim for 7lbs in the next fortnight instead.

good luck. X

Originally Posted by noodles1609

You'll do it And then we need pics...

I'll happily put pics up when I manage it give me something to be proud of

Originally Posted by kjs1628

I have created a count down chart recently - short term targets, 14 days without cheats etc. it's really dumb, but just putting a strike through the number after a successful day is really motivating (it helps that it's stuck to the fridge!).

you can do it! Maybe just look at it in smaller chunks instead of a great big, scary, must achieve, three month target. Aim for 7lbs in the next fortnight instead.

good luck. X

The chart idea is a really good one! I think I'll do myself one tonight

To all of you, thanks so much, you've all helped me feel a whole lot better and confident I can do this! xxx

Girllll you can defo do it

I'd give you my number to call when you felt like cheating so you can ring me instead or something if I could

You said you have the same thing as me.
We can get in the right frame of mind together

What size is the dress? What size are you now?

You know what, weddings are daunting, but also remember everyone going is friends and family, they are people you don't know who will talk behind your back . It's full of everyone that knows you both and loves you and they're all wishing you well. Nobody will be disappointed in you if your dress doesn't fit quite right you can always have it let out a little bit if you don't quite hit your goal but saying that, you will hit your goal we all believe in you, give yourself that faith you know you're gonna look fab.
Do go to your doctor though, I can't remember if you said if you're on any meds
But I know a lot cause hunger, fill your slim an save cup up with cold water when you wanna cheat and drink the whole thing and see if you still wanna cheat then. It alway works for me makes me feel full and bloated
And it will just flush out, no weight gained
xoxo

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I feel like I must reply to this, I wanna tell you about me and it may give you some help and tips not to give up. I know how you feel, loosing then gaining, it's a horrible cycle. First of I also have mental health problems and I have weak will power. I have suffered with mental health problems since I was 13(I'm now 21) anyway I don't know what kind of mental health issues you have they may not be anything like mine but my problems have become so much better due to this diet. I have depression, insomnia and borderline personality disorder, both are a *****! lol. Anyway There would be days I couldn't even get out of bed, I would argue with everyone, my moods where so high and low, I had tried so many different kinds of meds...Nothing worked. After a week of slim and save I felt instantly better. I actually had a normal 8 hour sleep and have continued to since, my moods are so much more stable and I havent argued with a single person. Plus I am getting out of bed everyday and feeling good. Yes I still have down days(like today for example) but they pass. Nothing feels as good waking up putting your hand on your stomach and thinking 'I did well yesterday, my stomach feels smaller, I am going to be strong today and do it all again' compared to the feeling of not even looking at the mirror in the morning thinking 'Oh god why did I binge so much last night?'
As for the weak willpower, this is really hard to pass, even now I am finding hard. Just an hour ago I had the take out menu ready to order pizza cause I was having a bad day put managed to push out of it, but I have really bizzare things that I do, when I feel like I am going to to cheat, I listen to some of my fav songs(I listen to a lot of rock and metal) some songs that are about power, not giving in and being strong and something in my brain clicks, I will also look at old pictures of my self in my thinner days and think I want this more than the pizza, and/or I will look at other peoples pics, people who are a nice slim size 10/12 and think yes I wanna be like that. And my final thing to get me out of the I don't want the pizza is, my dream in to look good in a pair of leather trousers(Very 80s I know hehe) so I will go online and go to websites selling them and think, soon, soon I will be able to buy a pair and look good in them.

Find more than one thing that will motivate you, Your wedding dress would be perfect for this, I mean what a great motivation tool, you wanna shock people with your weightloss as you walk down the isle with your lovely dress looking amazing! Also when you do feel like giving up remember this diet is not forever, keep thinking 3 months, or 13 weeks or 90 odd days till you will be tasting you delicous wedding cake and having a lovely meal. Each day cross of the day and think yes I have done this. that's what I am doing, I have a gig I'm going to see by my fav band (Nowhere near as exciting as a wedding I know lol) on the 23rd of April and I don't wanna go to it as the 'Fat girl'

Food only comforts you for a few hours and then leaves you feeling worse than before cause you feel like you have 'failed' but when you have those cravings and you managed to beat them, you feel amazing, full of power and it lasts a lot longer. Just find what tricks work for you and then use them everytime you feel like cheating. And lastly if you do cheat one day, there is no reason for you to cheat the next day, you get over the previous day, don't look back, and continue with the diet. I will shut up now cause I am sure I am boring you hehe. GOOD LUCK!!!! xxxx

Hi everyone, thanks for your replies and sorry I dropped off the radar! I've been cc the last few days and haven't lost anything. I start again with sns today! I have 12wks to lose 3st, it's now or never! I not only need to slim for my wedding dress, but also my wedding band (which is about 2 sizes too small) and the outfits I've bought for honeymoon! I know I'm not going to look incredible or be a healthy weight, but a 3st loss will make a huge difference and it will make me feel much better about myself!
I'm planning on starting the c25k program, now the weather is getting nicer, I think this will make for nice exercise and get me fit for the honeymoon!
Plan for today- choc shake
spicy spaghetti
truffa bar
toffee shake
150ml skimmed milk.

I'm going to come on here a lot to try and keep me in the right mindset!

Oooh! I just downloaded the app at the weekend, always fancied running and it's supposed to be really good for shaking off the loose skin and getting things all nicely shaped. I did make an attempted start about a year ago, but gave up after my age old knee injury flared up. I've since discovered that was because I've never stretched my quads properly (like my entire life!) and my right one was so tight it was holding my kneecap too high. Now I know that, and are lighter so putting less strain on it, I'm ready to go. I'm aiming for around another 3 stone to get to target, so lets see what we can both do in that time shall we? My aim on exercise days is 4 packs plus protein, sticking with the 4 packs on rest days

I started C25K last year and loved it but, like noodles, had to stop because of my knee. After a million meetings with my GP and specialists, x rays and MRI scans it turns out I have a maltracking patella, which basically means that my knee cap isn't quite in the right place. I'm hoping that as I lose weight and go through physio, I can strengthen muscles around my knee and then get back to running because I really enjoyed it!

You might not be where you want to be by your wedding but that certainly doesn't mean that you won't look amazing! Where are you going on honeymoon?

Aww, you poor things with your knees playing up! I'm *hopefully* in good enough physical health to take up the running, well apart from the extra weight anyway
We're honeymooning in Cyprus!! our hotel is on the beach, so there'll be lots of swimming and lounging around, don't want to look too horrific in my swim gear! Going to get a swimdress to help cover my thighs, I'm 21 and have awful cellulite I've destroyed my body, covered and I mean COVERED in stretchmarks! they go right up my back even! Perhaps if I'm lucky the jogging/running will tone my thighs and make the cellulite look better...
Anyway, had a good day on plan today, though I am relaxing the milk allowance a bit to make it more bearable and having my sugar free apple squash which has some citric acid. think it's better to cheat a little and stay with the program then be off it all together!

I agree really, I have little tweaks, like sugar free squash, because they help me stay more on plan than if I didn't have them. Cyprus sounds amazing! You've still got 3 months until then, you'll lose loads of weight in that time! Try some bio oil, it's meant to be good for fading stretchmarks.