Thread: Is the engagement too quick?

And I appreciate your honesty Kingleds. In many peoples eyes it is too soon, hence why I started the thread. If you had asked me a year ago about someone in a similar situation, then by jove, it is way too soon. But it feels right

I got engaged to my husband after two weeks, we got married a year to the day we met and four years later we are still incredibly happy and in love, I was 21 and he was 22 when we got engaged.

I think when you know that person is the one then time doesn't matter.

I now know that if we had waited for another year before getting married my nanna would have died 3 days before our wedding, and if I had postponed for another year my dad died Feb 12th last year. So we got married when we were meant to.

My husbands dad was a very bad man who beat his wife and children and is now in jail and on the sexual offenders list after sexualy abusing my husbands 8 year old cousin (my hubby was only 9 at the time) - my husband hasn't seen him in 17 years. But my husband is nothing like his dad and peoples pasts and upbringings don't define who they are.

I think people often forget that our grandparents and their parents would meet and marry within months and divorce was practically unheard of. My nanna met and married my grandads after 3 months and they were made for each other Love isn't defined by the length of time you know someone

Massive congratulations

X x x

Originally Posted by MissSlinky2011

I got engaged to my husband after two weeks, we got married a year to the day we met and four years later we are still incredibly happy and in love, I was 21 and he was 22 when we got engaged.

I think when you know that person is the one then time doesn't matter.

I now know that if we had waited for another year before getting married my nanna would have died 3 days before our wedding, and if I had postponed for another year my dad died Feb 12th last year. So we got married when we were meant to.

My husbands dad was a very bad man who beat his wife and children and is now in jail and on the sexual offenders list after sexualy abusing my husbands 8 year old cousin (my hubby was only 9 at the time) - my husband hasn't seen him in 17 years. But my husband is nothing like his dad and peoples pasts and upbringings don't define who they are.

I think people often forget that our grandparents and their parents would meet and marry within months and divorce was practically unheard of. My nanna met and married my grandads after 3 months and they were made for each other Love isn't defined by the length of time you know someone

Massive congratulations

X x x

That's sweet!!! now I don't feel so bad about thinking what I do! Pm you about that though x

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I haven't read all the replies yet (I will do later but am about to go and pick the kids up). I don't think it's too quick at all, but that said, me and my other half seemed to have fast-tracked our relationship. We met in June 06, I found out I was pregnant in december 06. He moved in with me in April 2007, we got engaged in june07, our daughter was born that august and we then married in feb 09 and are coming up to our 3rd anniversary. I was 26 when we met and had never had a serious relationship before him but when I got pregnant we talked about our future as I knew I was serious about him and wanted to find out if he felt the same before we decided whether to continue with the pregnancy.

I think that at your age you are quite capable of making decisions and despite your mum's concerns your relationship isn't exactly quick. It's not like you met and got married in a matter of weeks! Ultimately, you know what feels right for you and it is up to your mum to come round to the idea by herself, not for you to persuade her.

Congratulations on your engagement!

I would offer her the alternative to getting married, which will still be you two living together, perhaps having children and the only difference is that you aren't married.

Congratualtions!

I met my OH in November 1996 and we were married in August 1998. My family were worried about me, because I was widowed very young in 1993 (I was 25 when my first husband died.) and they were concerned that it was too quick the second time round. 14 years later, we're still happy and very much together. My cousin, on the other hand, was engaged for 11 years and the marriage lasted less than 12 months! If it feels right, then it is right.

I just found this. I don't think it's too soon. I met my husband in July 2001 when I was 22.. I moved in pretty much instantly and he proposed less than 3 months later. we married in June 2003 - a month before my 24th birthday. We had been together 23 months and 1 day. Just because you got engaged doesn't mean you have to rush a wedding. 10 and a half years later we are as happy and as in love as ever. I think when you know you know. Mums are just doing their job and that's looking out for you but if you are happy then it's never too soon xxx

Well, it is booked now for June next year, and the mother has been around for most of the process so far. I thought she was 100% cool with it, till I got in tonight! She picked OH up from work tonight as she was passing, and pretty much grilled him the way home - "why do you want to marry my daughter?" "I am so shocked over it all" "I never thought she wanted to get married". Now, she didn't do this in a nasty way, but she is short and Scottish (not that its an excuse!) but she can be quite intimidating to someone, especially someone who is trying to make a good impression!

So I called her when I got in, asked her about it (after she told me to watch Gok teens, as some of those girls are going through what I went through.......I pointed out I am long past being a teen, but it fell on deaf ears. She was also telling me about Jo Brand putting on 3 stone on the pill or something, as she is convinced that is where I went wrong, despite the fact I wasn't on the pill, and despite the fact she knows this, but I digress.....), and pretty much told her she is going to have to stop. She says she is fine with it, but then keeps asking these questions. I don't think she realises she is doing it half the time!

But yes, next June is D-day. I am still consulting her over things as I think its wrong to push her out totally, but I am aware that most of it may be done alone

My dad had a formal chat with my hubby asking why he wanted to marry me and stuff, I thought it was quite sweet that he was looking after his little girl. I really miss him

X x x

My Nan and Grandad met and married within 6 months, they were married very nearly 65 years!!! (My grandad died on 3rd December last yr and their anniversary was on christmas day, so he just missed it!!!)
I think when you know, you know xxx

I met and got married in twelve months,we met in oct and he asked me to marry him on new years eve! 26 yrs married this year<3