Seacrest
L'appetit vient en mang't
Just read this. Not sure if it is genuine or not, but nevertheless I found it intResting and thought provoking:
https://medium.com/human-parts/bf5111e68cc1
https://medium.com/human-parts/bf5111e68cc1
Food for thought...
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LauraLooLa
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Definitely thought provoking. My little girl is 4 next month and this sort of thing is already on my mind. I try so hard not to label anything as 'naughty' and to make sure she knows she's beautiful inside and out. I'm proud of the fact I've never heard her use the word 'fat' or 'ugly' but know that, realistically, it's only a matter of time. She already picks out her own clothes and wants to wear my make up. It scares me a lot! I'm scared for her and know the pressure she's going to feel probably far earlier than I felt it 
I want my baby to stay an innocent baby
I want my baby to stay an innocent baby
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lickthelid
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I too found this really interesting (and what a cute pic!). My little girl is three and is a slightly picky eater and unfortunately suffers from an allergy to eggs and nuts. No idea where it came from seeing as both the husband and I are clear and both sides of the family are. Anyway I try to make sure that we eat freely within what she can have and I try to not put too much stress on set dinner times too so she never associates food with expectation or annoyance. If she wants to eat she eats. Slimming world is so great for showing good food habits, lots of fresh foods in plentiful quantities. She sees mummy and daddy eating well with the odd treat here and there. Hopefully that will be passed on!
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What an interesting letter, and really makes you think about how our actions, not just as parents effect others. I don't ever remember my mum saying she was fat or ugly, or food being an issue. We had other 'issues' when I was growing up!!!!
Seacrest
L'appetit vient en mang't
I posted this & promptly went on holiday for 2 weeks, so didn't follow up!
I thought it was interesting - I can remember my mother being pretty depressed about her weight at various stages, but don't remember her saying she was ugly. I always thought she was beautiful. She must have done something right, as I wasn't remotely concerned about weight right up until I was quite adult - I never worried or even thought about weight as a teenager, it simply wasn't an issue to me (I was tall & thin, but even this didn't register to me). I was concerned that I was ugly - but that was because I wore glasses & had frizzy hair - a whole different matter!!
However, I think I may have passed my thoughts now onto my stepdaughters - apparently I am known for eating 'rabbit food', and not eating certain things - evne now as adults they pass cream to me as a joke to see if I will eat it. They seem pretty well adjusted, but who knows?
I thought it was interesting - I can remember my mother being pretty depressed about her weight at various stages, but don't remember her saying she was ugly. I always thought she was beautiful. She must have done something right, as I wasn't remotely concerned about weight right up until I was quite adult - I never worried or even thought about weight as a teenager, it simply wasn't an issue to me (I was tall & thin, but even this didn't register to me). I was concerned that I was ugly - but that was because I wore glasses & had frizzy hair - a whole different matter!!
However, I think I may have passed my thoughts now onto my stepdaughters - apparently I am known for eating 'rabbit food', and not eating certain things - evne now as adults they pass cream to me as a joke to see if I will eat it. They seem pretty well adjusted, but who knows?
Happy Holidays
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I was chatting to this with my sister & as I said we had other issues which were, we never had food, my mum was a single parent & money was extremely tight, what we didn't eat for breakfast/dinner/tea was given to us at the nxt meal, nothing was wasted. As a result my sister now has to have a full fridge & makes sure there is always enough food in, me, I can't stand waste & my fridge will be generally just stocked up & not overly so.
Same up bringing different reactions
Same up bringing different reactions
Llamasoks
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Definitely thought provoking, and so beautiful. I grew up in a household with a Step-dad who loved to cook for us, and a mother who could burn orange juice. My mother constantly complained about her weight (but was never overweight by more than 2 stone at most), and would complain about mine too, saying we needed to be healthier and then buying the worst food in the shop purely because it was on offer. I remember as a child having 3 or 4 bags of popcorn in the cupboard, but no fruit when I wanted a piece because popcorn was on offer - it didn't matter than only 1 person in a 4 person household actually liked popcorn, it was cheap so she brought it, thinking it was a bargain: like buying a new table in a charity shop because it was only £3 but throwing out the old table £50 to make room for it...!
I don't blame my mother for me being overweight, I lost weight when I was 17, so I knew how to do it and why I was doing it, but both eating and not were conscious adult decisions I made, I do however, resent her slightly for my issues with food - I distinctly remember at probably age 10, eating a plate of chips for breakfast before school, because I'd stropped about eating my cereal, so she just fried chips, at 10 it was brilliant (what kid doesn't want junk all day!?), but looking back at it, I'm appalled and ashamed. Now my mother is at the opposite scale, she's tiny, and lives on salad.
I so hope I don't make my children feel fat and miserable, only beautiful and clever and cherished. And if they happen to become slightly overweight adults, I hope we could conquer it together, in a positive way that brought us closer, not made them resent me.
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I don't blame my mother for me being overweight, I lost weight when I was 17, so I knew how to do it and why I was doing it, but both eating and not were conscious adult decisions I made, I do however, resent her slightly for my issues with food - I distinctly remember at probably age 10, eating a plate of chips for breakfast before school, because I'd stropped about eating my cereal, so she just fried chips, at 10 it was brilliant (what kid doesn't want junk all day!?), but looking back at it, I'm appalled and ashamed. Now my mother is at the opposite scale, she's tiny, and lives on salad.
I so hope I don't make my children feel fat and miserable, only beautiful and clever and cherished. And if they happen to become slightly overweight adults, I hope we could conquer it together, in a positive way that brought us closer, not made them resent me.
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This is very thought provoking- I am guilty of talking about my weight in front of my daughter who is 6, I talk about my weight so much that I don't really think before I speak.
This is the one of the main reasons that I want to lose weight... the only time I don't moan about being fat, ugly and horrible is when I am following the plan, so I figured that if I just follow the plan I won't be subjecting my daughter into hearing the complaints.
Thanks for posting the article
This is the one of the main reasons that I want to lose weight... the only time I don't moan about being fat, ugly and horrible is when I am following the plan, so I figured that if I just follow the plan I won't be subjecting my daughter into hearing the complaints.
Thanks for posting the article
Seacrest
L'appetit vient en mang't
How strange, I lost the subscription to my own thread for a while, & forgot all about it! Maybe my brain cells have got thinner too!!
its interesting how we're all influenced differently - which means we are all influencing others also, whether we want to or not. I've been trying consciously not to refer to my weight for a couple of weeks, partially to see also if I change my subconscious thoughts to rewarding loss also as a result. So far the results are inconclusive!!
its interesting how we're all influenced differently - which means we are all influencing others also, whether we want to or not. I've been trying consciously not to refer to my weight for a couple of weeks, partially to see also if I change my subconscious thoughts to rewarding loss also as a result. So far the results are inconclusive!!
