To those who say it is hard to say no to alcohol and then come and whinge about the big kebab they had because they lost control I say stop whining. Don't ask for help if you are not going to take the advice. You already know the advice you will get because the advice is always the same...
- decide before hand how much you will allow yourself
- offer to be the designated driver
- alternate your alcoholic drinks with non-alcoholic drinks.
Do you think that by saying it is hard or your friends pressured you into it will make me think 'oh, poor you' or justify YOU making the decision to ignore the advice? Do you think that asking for advice is simply enough to make the advice work? Why ask when you know what the answer will be? Does asking show some kind of remorse or intention and lead me to feel sorry for you? Does asking for advice make it okay if you don't take it? Sorry, not in my case. Only acting on the advice will earn you my respect and support.
Sorry if this is preachy, but I am angry. I was made angry by a post doing exactly what I describe above. I was going to reply in the post but it was off topic and would have been unfair to the OP, but I felt I still had to say something so I came here to do it.
I have more experience of alcoholics than I wish to detail right now. Alcohol does NOT make you funner / wittier / better / improved / more charming / more likeable / a better friend / a better dancer. It only makes YOU think so. Alcoholics HURT those around them, and I am not referring to the violent physical hurt that sadly many people experience, there are other ways to hurt (I know).
Rant over, anger still simmering but writing this has reduced it loads. Mods, delete this post if it offends.
(And in case you are wondering - I am not teetotal, and yes I have been drunk)