Thread: Whats the most hurtful thing anyone has said regarding your weight?

Mandy, I'm so sorry to hear your grandmother can get to you so much pet. Looking at your weight loss, it seems like you are having the last laugh. My story is pretty similar. As offensive as my dad can be to me, he is constantly telling me my boys are too thin. I have a 5 year old and he is very slightly underweight, but he eats good, healthy, nourishing food (similar to your kids) and eats to his own appetite. He is extremely active too, and quite tall, so looks thinner than he is. My parents are constantly asking if he is eating enough, should I take him to the doctor, is it normal. And then in the same breath telling me i'm enormous!!!

Originally Posted by The Caretaker

There is a middle ranking member of my works who is close to the boss and therefore thinks she's actually a high ranking member of staff, She can be totally viscous.
about a year ago I developed Poluarticulal Gout (i get all over my body not just feet) i had an appointment to get a scan from the hospital, and as I told her i would be off site and the reason was i was having a scan, she said........"Well looking at the size of you your probably pregnant"...........By the way i'm a bloke! I'm going to walk back in there when i'm at goal weight and give hea verbal roasting!
Anyone else?

Originally Posted by The Caretaker

Oh if I wanted to stoop to her level, she has the most enoumous hook nose, but being someone who has never been that rude on purpose I just couldn't bring myself to say it! but boy if i did! I would probably be brought up in front of the Governors! funny how things work.

There wasanother time with a friend of mine actually, and i had been dieting for about 3 months and had lost a stone and a half, and I have to say I was feeling pretty gopod about myself, and I bumped into someone I hadn't seen for about 6 months, and he said Whoooa! youve put on a bit of timber!!! I went straight out and bought a bag of chip and had a half pound bar of fruit and nut for afters but that was a very long time ago.

i think a lot of the time, people seem to think men don't get offended by comments about their weight. It's wrong I know, but true. The best thing you could have done is to tell her you found that comment very offensive and if she hasn't anything nice to say then don't speak to you at all.

I wouldn't mind but when you finally do well and start losing weight you get the ' ooh careful you don't go too far it. Can get obsessive you've lost enough now' haha. This usually comes from twig like size 8-10 girls. And I just think... You prefer me when I'm fat then eh?! DON'T LISTEN TO ANYONE. People always want to bring you down with their negative attitudes. Listen to those that have encouraging words for you not the ones that you will NEVER win with. Some people just want to keep you down xxx

God people can be so ignorant! My parents always used to poke me in the stomach and make comments about me having put weight on when I lived there. And it was always remarks about how I am too short to put weight on as it goes straight to my tummy.

Insensitive b*******!! I tend to just look at them and say hmmmm yes so have you now if they comment but don't really care any more. Who are they to judge me?!

What happened to the old... If you haven't got anything nice to say don't say anything at all!!?? Xx

At my grandmother funeral, a family member walked in the room and shouted "Oh my god you've let yourself go, the last time I seen you you looked pretty" the entire room fell silent and looks at me. I just wanted to die myself. x

Originally Posted by S-L-W

What happened to the old... If you haven't got anything nice to say don't say anything at all!!?? Xx

I agree, people can be so hurtful x

Originally Posted by Choccyfan72

At my grandmother funeral, a family member walked in the room and shouted "Oh my god you've let yourself go, the last time I seen you you looked pretty" the entire room fell silent and looks at me. I just wanted to die myself. x

Oh mate thats terrible, well you have shown them! well done God I really can't believe that so many people have had moments like this!

I think it can be worse when it is someone you know or are close to and I havent had any that thank goodness. My most embarrassing moment though was getting on a bus and there was this elderly lady sitting at the front who it soon became obvious was not 100%. As soon as she saw me walking past to get a seat and for the entire duration of the 30 minute trip I had to put up with her saying " fat, fat, fatty, fat, fatty" on and on and on. You would stop every now and then only to start up again when she looked at me and again when I walked past to get off the bus

Then I have had the complete strangers who think its okay to moo at you, call you a fat cow while you are standing at the bus stop minding your own business, or people walking behind me down the street saying "wobble, wobble, wobble"!

Ignorant b****es sigh

Yes, I too have had many rude comments over the years. One of the most hurtful was when I was at work one of the men asked me if I was married. When I replied,'Yes', he retorted, 'That's just as well, because nobody would marry you now, you're too fat!'

I have found that when you are overweight complete strangers seem to think they can just say whatever they like to you! It's like they see you as 'sub-human' in some way.

Worst experience I have had was when the father of the French exchange family i went to stay with was trying to describe the fact that I was bigger than my sister to some other guests at the dinner table (i forget why). Not having any English to hand he raised his arms and puffed out his cheeks. Cheers.

You know why we get treated that way? Because we put up with it. If we were to turn around and smack those rude strangers in the face...well, they would be in too much shock to say anything futher, wouldn't they? Not that I'm advocating violence or anything hahaha
If my kids say anything even remotely rude to somebody they are made to apologise and are then grounded. Discipline. It's sadly lacking in the human race.

Originally Posted by xMandyDx

You know why we get treated that way? Because we put up with it. If we were to turn around and smack those rude strangers in the face...well, they would be in too much shock to say anything futher, wouldn't they? Not that I'm advocating violence or anything hahaha
If my kids say anything even remotely rude to somebody they are made to apologise and are then grounded. Discipline. It's sadly lacking in the human race.

This is so true. The point I realised I should lose weight was when a total stranger started screaming at me on a packed commuter train that I should be forced I pay for 1st class as my arse was too big for the seat. The fact that all I did was try not to cry instead of knocking the rude fecker out made me realise how much being overweight had dented my self confidence. The fact that the rest of the train carriage looked at me like I was the problem instead of telling him he was out of order was almost worse than him tbh.

I hope one day I see him on a train. I will knock him out quite happily & then sit on him for my whole journey with my newly bony arse making him uncomfortable.

Well the worst thing I think is when random strangers shout at me in the street, once I was waiting for a bus with my friend, these boys stopped the car opened windows and shouted abuse at me, I felt upset/angry and ashamed, also embarrassed in front of my friend. Also when I was getting petrol once I got asked why I am so fat.

Also working in a nursery, just before Christmas I got asked by a 4 year old, ''Why is your belly so round??' At first I laughed as it shocked me, then I thought how innocent it was, Then I just said its because I eat to many cakes lol.

I must say how much it knocks my confidence, like this morning when I pulled up at the shop, there was a group of about 4 lads in the shop, I actually waited for them to leave the area before I left my car, Just the fear they would say something.

cant say it was mean but last week i needed to move a patient using a pat slide and id got quite friendly with this family, her mum just put her arm around me and said please go and get another nurse hun i dont want you moving her in your condition, you should be resting not moving heavy patients.

ps im not pregnant