Having doubts!!

So Ive woken up in a really strange mood,lost a pound this week which is great but when looking at my goal ive got 2st11 to go & that seems so much.The last few days ive been really focused yet it seems like a struggle & that all ive thought about is weightloss/food etc.. & im starting to get on my own nerves! My husband keeps telling me to stop now as I look fine.The kids are on half term so im out of routine but I wish I could just be normal & take them out & eat wherever whenever & not count syns or calories or hex just not think about it at all! Im going on holiday next fri so need to stay in control else I will be really annoyed with myself.Aaarghh whats going on is it just a wobble or do I need to relax a bit? x

Congrats on your weight loss so far I think everyone at one point or another on their weight loss journey (regardless of what plan they're doing) gets bored/annoyed and wishes they didn't have to count syns or points or calories for just a few days!

Maybe you could give yourself a 'cheat' day, a day off from counting, and see how you feel. It might work really well for you, or it might make you feel as if you've gained weight and wasn't worth it at all!

Maybe remind yourself of where you started and where you are now, and that you don't want to throw all of that money and effort away by ditching the plan and eating what you want because that was what made you gain weight in the first place!

I hope you feel better soon.

Thankyou for your reply I feel like I haven't got a day of dieting left in me let alone 8 months maybe ill have a day off & push weightloss out of my mind today (is that even possible lol) I have been doing really well for 14 weeks & im proud of that but I am worried about the future I dont want to battle like this forever but cant ever just let it go as like you said that's why im overweight in the first place! x

Hi Tamkat,

I was feeling exactly the same as you this weekend, and you know what - I went completely off plan, ate whatever I wanted and my God it was good...but you know what, now my body feels utterly cr*p, I feel down, bloated, ill and if I'm honest, ashamed at how much food I ate. I totally think sometimes we need a meal off, a treat with the kids, a romantic meal out with your husband or even just a glass of wine and a bar of chocolate with a film - because life is pointless if you don't enjoy yourself.

But as someone who's just done what you're thinking of, I can 100% say it wasn't worth it, I feel awful now, I've lost 2.1 stone and instead of proud, I feel like giving up, all I can see is how far I've got to go, instead of how far I've come - it's really not a nice place to be.

My best advice would be, compromise, don't go off plan but have fun! Maybe take the kids out for a picnic or dinner, have some naughties, but within your Syns, enjoy your food but don't make it your main focus, your focus will be the time you're enjoying with food, but not because of the food. Maybe take a night off, order a pizza, but get back on track - don't let a few treat nights (which are fine, enjoy yourself, you can't go your whole life without a few treats!) ruin your whole plan.

X

Its horrible isn't it,Im glad im not 16 stone anymore but the highs are very far & few between this time round.The last time I lost weight Im sure I felt better/looked better at this stage? I dont go to a group & im wondering whether this is starting to affect me? People on here are great dont get me wrong but maybe I need the certificates the clapping & well done you lol.You are right about not feeling better after a blow out though,mothers day I did & although I got straight back on plan the next day I felt sick with myself for not just going a little bit overboard but eating like there was no tomorrow! I cant be trusted around food & will always have to watch what I eat forever & its depressing me today! I will snap out of it though I hope x

tamkat said:

Its horrible isn't it,Im glad im not 16 stone anymore but the highs are very far & few between this time round.The last time I lost weight Im sure I felt better/looked better at this stage? I dont go to a group & im wondering whether this is starting to affect me? People on here are great dont get me wrong but maybe I need the certificates the clapping & well done you lol.You are right about not feeling better after a blow out though,mothers day I did & although I got straight back on plan the next day I felt sick with myself for not just going a little bit overboard but eating like there was no tomorrow! I cant be trusted around food & will always have to watch what I eat forever & its depressing me today! I will snap out of it though I hope x

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Why is it you're losing weight Hun if you don't mind me asking? I know this is weight loss support, but maybe you're happy as you are and that's what's stopping you? I know my Aunt lost weight and realized she was much happier when she were bigger, not just because she missed food she liked but she was happier with how she looked and felt. Maybe take a few days off to re-evaluate, not going completely overboard but just to stop and think?. Though I know how hard it is to stick to a little treat rather than pig out, I was supposed to be going out for a nice simple lunch Sunday, I ate pancakes, bacon, eggs, pudding and had half a bloomin' cheesecake for dinner! Something oddly I'd never have done BEFORE I started dieting, I think dieting makes you crave some odd things!

X

I used to feel like this about my weight. Some times it would bother me, other times it wouldn't. When it did bother me I would become obsessed, focused on the end target and would like my life was on hold until I lost weight. Then I would feel resentful and despise dieting and then just go through this whole cycle.

To be honest I'm not bothered about what I look like or my size right now. I am happy as I am in my own skin for once. My MIL had a stroke a week ago and it was a direct result of her being obese and living an unhealthy lifestyle. While I'm ok with what I look like, I'm not ok with the thought of my OH and I potentially being in the same position as his mum in 30 years time and my little boy having to see us a shadow of our former selves. This has well and truely been a wake up call to us.

Only you can decide what you want to do and what's best for you. It's not nice thinking that I will have to watch what I eat for the rest of my life, but I am really seriously considering the alternatives now. Yes, I could eat what I want whenever I want, but do I want to end up with constant high blood pressure, two knackered hips that the doctors won't operate on cos of my blood pressure, failing eyesight and then an eventual stroke? I know I sound a bit over dramatic, but all of this has happened to my MIL in the last 3 years and it is all as a direct result of her weight.

I lost weight in 2012,went form 16.13 to 13.8 then got pregnant & just couldn't control my eating went up to 17.10!! I was really happy at 13.8 was a size 14-16 & was generally in a good place.I think having to start again with weightloss after the pregnancy has taken its toll on me,I was doing so well & was on my way to target.I must move on from this though whats done is done.Maybe I could hover around this weight a bit & see how I feel x Sorry to hear about your mil Mrs cc does put things into perpective,I def want to get out of the obese category atleast x

Something that might help put your weight loss into perspective is an idea I saw on another website and have done myself.

Get two glass jars (I bought fairly cheap ones from the factory shop) and some glass pebbles (or marbles). One jar is the weight you've lost, and the other jar is the weight you have left to lose and each glass pebble represents 1lb.

It's easy to see how much weight you've lost then, and how much to go. If you feel like snacking or cheating just stare at your jars for a while!

Firstly, well done on your loss so far. It might be 'only' a pound this week, but those pounds still add up and I notice that your Mother's Day blow out didn't stop you losing.

I would suggest you set yourself some small goals along the way so that you are not focussing too much on the end result and reward yourself in some small way (preferably with something non-food!) whenever you reach one of your mini goals.

I doubt whether there's anyone following a diet who hasn't thought 'Why?' at some point! It is harder when you're out of your routine and it is very difficult to do something with children which doesn't involve food in some way. Why not have a think about what you'd really like and then go and do it/have it and enjoy it? You can start over again and the worst that's going to happen is that you will delay reaching your next goal by a few days.

If you can combine whatever you choose with a bit of Body Magic then so much the better - go to the park and have a walk and an icecream; walk around town and have a MaccyD; a bike ride with tea and a scone? Sometimes deciding whether you want to have this or that ends up with deciding you don't want anything - simply because you'd given yourself the permission to have it!

Whatever you choose to do - enjoy! Good luck!

Thanks Patty some good advice there Im happy with a pound as just over a pound a week will see me hit target 24th December.Just had a nap actually think im exhausted & everything is getting on top of me a little! x

tamkat said:

Thanks Patty some good advice there Im happy with a pound as just over a pound a week will see me hit target 24th December.Just had a nap actually think im exhausted & everything is getting on top of me a little! x

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OK - everything seems worse when you're tired!

Your stats are similar to mine, but the big difference is you've lost your weight much faster than me. Your losses each week are brilliant, you obviously get your head down and stick to plan. You should be really proud of that.

I wonder though, if you're getting bored as a result?

If I stuck to plan 100% week-in/week-out I'd probably be at target by now. But I very rarely have a full 100% week. Sometimes I annoy myself... thinking if I'd JUST stuck at it I'd be "there" by now... but on the other hand I enjoy some treats most weeks, usually at the weekends. I'd be miserable if I felt left out. Overall, I eat MUCH more healthily than I did. The odd treat isn't throwing me off course altogether, and I'm (usually) quite happy with the slower losses I am having.

So, maybe relax it a bit while the kids are off, if you STS or have a small gain it won't be the end of the world, but it might spur you on again?

I'm not really recommending going off plan, as such, more "suggesting" how I do it.


(wait til later, when I get back from W/I moaning about being up!)

I was 17.10 starting, and looking at you down in the 13s now is incredible! I hope I can do half as well as you have! Everyone has their off days, thats why 'flexi syn' days are in place! Keep at it girl your doing fab x

Thankyou ladies,perhaps I am a little rigid at times & it wouldn't hurt to take some pressure off myself lol I was 17.10 just before I gave birth & luckily lost nearly 2 stone within weeks then I messed around for the rest of the yr losing & then gaining the same 6 pound.My little boy is 10 months old today,I really wanted 3 stone off by his first bday june 9th but prob need to stop obsessing with numbers & just enjoy the journey x

Goodluck at weigh in coughdrops x

Apologies for my grumpiness today you have all been very supportive,my friend has asked me to go for a meal so having a break from the kids & a meal off plan which will prob involve chips cheese & mayo (sorry).Hopefully be back on form & plan tomorrow x

That gives you 2 months to lose 10 lbs or so, which going by your results is totally doable. But if you get totally pee'd off between now and then, there is a chance you'll jack it in. So maybe take a few days off, and come back with a fresh head and outlook.

And I've said on several threads, I think reaching the 2 stone mark is some sort of a mental block that is very hard to get over/past. Hopefully it passes for us all!

Hi tamkat
You do right having a meal off plan!
Most weeks I have a meal (or night!) off plan- I think my losses are slower as a result but it stops me getting so fixated and obsessed with every meal and keeps me on track in the long run. I also find it helps to plan my meals in advance a bit, so I dont have to think too much about everything I can just get on with it day to day.
Hope you're feeling better, enjoy your meal and draw a line afterwards!
Rosie x

SarahButterfly said:

Something that might help put your weight loss into perspective is an idea I saw on another website and have done myself. Get two glass jars (I bought fairly cheap ones from the factory shop) and some glass pebbles (or marbles). One jar is the weight you've lost, and the other jar is the weight you have left to lose and each glass pebble represents 1lb. It's easy to see how much weight you've lost then, and how much to go. If you feel like snacking or cheating just stare at your jars for a while!

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I love this idea! I'm going to do this and keep them where I can see them as soon as I walk into the kitchen lol.

I find focussing on mini goals helps as well. I know my ultimate goal (I set my PAT last week) but I focus on my next mini target rather than the finish line. My first was half a stone, then my first stone, now it's my club 10, then 1.5 stone, 2 stone, getting out of the obese BMI, etc. Those bite sized chunks feel so much more achievable.