Please help me...

I feel really stupid posting this but I feel so down about my weight. I have ballooned over the last few years and now have 7 stone to lose. Everyday I wAke up and think that today is the day I begin my new eating plan and every day by mid morning I start to think that it's never going to work, I start to eat rubbish and promise myself l'll start again tomorrow. The starting again tomorrow binges have meant I have piled on the weight. I feel terrible and feel As though I am never going to regain control of my eating. I love the idea of slimming world and love the plan but I find it really hard to fill my plate with the allowed foods as I feel so guilty eating pasta and rice etc. I then feel restricted and binge. It's stupid I know! I need to change my mindset.

I have joined about 5 slimming world groups so far this year but never go back as I don't stick with it long enough to feel as though I have lost any weight. I have even begun thinking about diets like Lighter Life and Cambridge but i really don't want to go there.

I'm not really sure what can help me and I'm sorry for being so negative. I just feel so so depressed over my weight and what I've become. I don't even know where to start with it as 7 stone is so much! I have 3 small children and want to be a healthy role model for them.....I just don't know where to start.

Sorry you feel so down about it all :-( it can be very daunting to start sw and it is difficult to stick to as you break habits you've probably had for a long time- I think this is true regardless of how much weight you have to lose.
There's lots of people on here that have a similar amount to lose as you- I'm sure one of them will be along soon!- to show you that it can be done.
Try and take it one day at a time rather than thinking about it as a whole ie. I just need to do today rather than I need to stick to sw every day for the rest of my life.
Give yourself a head start by clearing your house of naughties. Keep the kids treats out of view, but make sure you use up your syns so you don't feel deprived..
Have a good sw shop and stock up on the super free you like, plan a couple of days meals and give it the benefit of the doubt.
A food diary on here is ace for keeping you on track. Ill sub if you start one!
If you fill your plate with a third super free then try not to worry about the pasta/rice. When you start seeing the losses hopefully the guilt will lessen
If you can't face going back to group, try and stick to the principles at home for a while and see how you get on. You can always join in part way through your journey like I did..
Good luck with it. Keep us posted xx

nataby said:

I feel really stupid posting this but I feel so down about my weight. I have ballooned over the last few years and now have 7 stone to lose. Everyday I wAke up and think that today is the day I begin my new eating plan and every day by mid morning I start to think that it's never going to work, I start to eat rubbish and promise myself l'll start again tomorrow. The starting again tomorrow binges have meant I have piled on the weight. I feel terrible and feel As though I am never going to regain control of my eating. I love the idea of slimming world and love the plan but I find it really hard to fill my plate with the allowed foods as I feel so guilty eating pasta and rice etc. I then feel restricted and binge. It's stupid I know! I need to change my mindset.


I have joined about 5 slimming world groups so far this year but never go back as I don't stick with it long enough to feel as though I have lost any weight. I have even begun thinking about diets like Lighter Life and Cambridge but i really don't want to go there.

I'm not really sure what can help me and I'm sorry for being so negative. I just feel so so depressed over my weight and what I've become. I don't even know where to start with it as 7 stone is so much! I have 3 small children and want to be a healthy role model for them.....I just don't know where to start.

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Hi, Sorry to hear you are feeling so down.
Would making your goal smaller help you to get going? How about not thinking in terms of 7st but maybe 7lbs? When you have reached that then aim for the next 7 lbs and so on or make it even smaller if that works best?
There really is no need to feel guilty about pasta, potato, etc because the plan will work.
SW rules fly in the face of many other plans which makes it difficult to get your head round at first as we've been conditioned in recent years to think of carbs as 'bad' foods when in reality no food is 'bad' it's just food but food eaten in excess can make us feel bad. SW helps you make better choices for health. By filling your plate with 1/3 superfree you are automatically making a calorie reduction in your meal overall.
Try it for a week and see how you get on. As you get into it you will reduce your portion size so that you are not piling up free food but eating enough to feel satisfied.
And remember, your weight is not your worth. Focus on the positive things about you and your life/family, friends etc. If you find that hard or think that there is nothing good how about asking a friend to tell you what they like/admire/envy about you I'm sure they will reel off a list of things. Be kind to yourself and say nice things to yourself. Sorry, I don't mean to sound preachy. I used to have very low self esteem but before I could change the way I looked I had to change the way I thought.
Good luck xx

Just tell yourself that you are going to try to stick to the SW plan for one day. Make sure you allow yourself the full 15 syns and use them on something that you really enjoy, so you have a treat to look forward to which might help you get through that mid morning danger zone. Then when you have completed one good day, try to complete a second. Take small steps to begin with and don't think in terms of having to lose 7 stone. Good luck!

It seems like you desperately want to loose weight but fail aound lunchtime.

take a look,around here for lunches which will fill you up and then have yourself a nice low syn treat.

SW does work, there is lots of support on here and I agree with the poster above start a diary that will help keep you on track. I also take pics of my foods.

Breaking it down will definitely help as others have said. Just take it one day at a time. So today you will stick to the plan 100%. If your downfall is mid morning then you need to prevent that by having an enormous breakfast with lots of protein. I'm always hungrier on a day where I have porridge or cereal for breakfast - less hungry on an egg and bacon day for example.

If you're following Extra Easy you could have:

2 x eggs fried in fry light. Grilled bacon (all fat removed), grilled tomatoes, frylight mushrooms, a couple of Linda McCartney Red onion and rosemary sausages (or a couple of WW sausages for 1 x syn) , baked beans. 2 x slices brown toast (for a healthy extra). AND a fruit salad and a vanilla muller light. Pint of water, cup of tea or coffee with milk from your allowance and Bob's your uncle! I bet you won't be hungry until lunch time...and if you are, you can have some more fruit as a snack (banana's are good and filling) or one of the free mugshots. Or you can make some free soup and have a bowl of that.

You're not meant to feel hungry on SW, you've just got to change WHAT you eat...and you can do that for one day right?

SallyVater said:

Breaking it down will definitely help as others have said. Just take it one day at a time. So today you will stick to the plan 100%. If your downfall is mid morning then you need to prevent that by having an enormous breakfast with lots of protein. I'm always hungrier on a day where I have porridge or cereal for breakfast - less hungry on an egg and bacon day for example.

If you're following Extra Easy you could have:

2 x eggs fried in fry light. Grilled bacon (all fat removed), grilled tomatoes, frylight mushrooms, a couple of Linda McCartney Red onion and rosemary sausages (or a couple of WW sausages for 1 x syn) , baked beans. 2 x slices brown toast (for a healthy extra). AND a fruit salad and a vanilla muller light. Pint of water, cup of tea or coffee with milk from your allowance and Bob's your uncle! I bet you won't be hungry until lunch time...and if you are, you can have some more fruit as a snack (banana's are good and filling) or one of the free mugshots. Or you can make some free soup and have a bowl of that.

You're not meant to feel hungry on SW, you've just got to change WHAT you eat...and you can do that for one day right?

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Brilliant post by Sally there

I've been in a similar position to you, nataby - except I had 10 stones to lose. That was in January this year. I sat at my computer desk, troughing down the cold remains of a Chinese takeaway from the previous night (for breakfast!!) and something inside me snapped. I knew I didn't want to live like that any more. I can still remember how awful I felt and I've used that to fuel my willpower ever since.

SW gives you the chance to eat fabulous food, lots and LOTS of fabulous food. You just have to make some changes to how you cook / prepare it. I'm not saying I haven't had a few slip ups because I have. But I'm 5st 4lbs lighter than I was in January and the end (that seemed so stupidly far away it was an impossible dream) is actually something I can see happening now. Alright, it make take me a long time, but I am going to do it because I can easily see me eating SW-style for the rest of my life. It doesn't feel like a diet. I do not feel deprived. When I have given in to a craving and eaten something junk-y or drunk too much alcohol along the way I can honestly say I haven't enjoyed it and haven't enjoyed the physical reactions afterwards. Your body wants good stuff, and it will adapt to actually craving good stuff. (That comes as a bit of a shock to the system, let me tell you!).

You can do it. One day. We're here to support you. Then all you have to do is do it again tomorrow.

You're doing so well Theria. xx

Hi Nataby, I was the same when I started SW 2 months ago. I'd just finished my degree and had put on so much weight over the last 4 years. I looked at the idea of losing 7 or 8 stone and it frightened the life out of me! Lol. But then I decided that I don't have to think of it as 7 stone or 8 stone, I'll start by aiming to lose 1 stone. I managed it (even with eating loads of pasta and rice) and now I'm aiming for my 2nd stone off. It really does work, trust the plan and fill yourself up on free food and you will see results. Don't look at it as 7 stone, I agree, it's completely daunting. Try setting yourself a small target - even if it's just doing the plan 100% for one week and aiming for any loss. When you realise that you have achieved that, then think bout where you'd like to go from there. Good luck x

Thank you so much for the wonderful replies and support. There are some fantastic pieces of advice and some lovely kind words. I have tears in my eyes reading them. Thank you. The one day at a time advice is great. That stops it from being too hard! I also find that I set myself very strict rules on I won't have dairy or sugar or bread as these are 'bad' for me. Eating as I am at the moment is what is 'bad' for me. I feel much more positive about it. I am at the point where I see that I don't have to do it perfectly, it just have to do it and persevere. I will start a diary. That's a great idea!

nataby said:

I also find that I set myself very strict rules on I won't have dairy or sugar or bread as these are 'bad' for me. Eating as I am at the moment is what is 'bad' for me. I feel much more positive about it. I am at the point where I see that I don't have to do it perfectly, it just have to do it and persevere.

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Dairy. Sugar (in moderation). Bread. Pasta. Potatoes. Rice. All allowed, and positively encouraged on SW. there's no such thing as "bad" food (unless you have an allergy / intolerance, of course). It's just that you've probably been bombarded with other diet mantras over the years.

Trust the plan (imagine me saying that in a Yoda voice!) - it really works.

Dont see this as a diet take a day at a time...dont feel deprived just be careful with food choices and think of a happier healthier you every time you feel like a snack..
and grab some grapes instead,of crisps or choc

List out what you enjoy eating and someone can help you make a food plan for a few days to start,you,off? Pm me if it helps...i never ate fruit or veg ever until may this year...im 50.... And was a seasoned chocaholic...if i can lose anyone can

Quick update......I went back to group on Tuesday, was welcomed back warmly without judgement. I felt really inspired and got a countdown to cement my commitment. Since then I've stuck 100% to plan and feel much better, taking it one day at a time.

Thanks again for all the wonderful support

nataby said:

Quick update......I went back to group on Tuesday, was welcomed back warmly without judgement. I felt really inspired and got a countdown to cement my commitment. Since then I've stuck 100% to plan and feel much better, taking it one day at a time.

Thanks again for all the wonderful support

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Well done to you for doing the hardest bit and getting through the door.
Looking forward to sharing your journey with you x

Well done for going back to group. Great advice on this thread and all I can do is echo it all. I had tried every diet under the sun but failed at them all and I just ended up at my biggest ever. I've over 10 stone to lose but I'm over half way there now. Enough was enough for me at my Christmas party last year and I walked through those SW doors and I haven't looked back since. I take it is 7lb blocks I never think oh but I have so much to lose. I don't even feel like I'm on a diet I am still eating all the food I love just cooking it different etc.

Best of luck, you can and will do

Fab to hear you so positive...keep going...you have inspired me as i have had a rough time recently but am determined t get back on track....have put down the chocs as of today

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Another update: I went back to weigh in tonight.....and lost 4lbs!! Am really happy that I have finally achieved something. Once again thanks for the support! I also have a diary over in the weight loss diary section. Not very interesting at the moment but I'm enjoying writing my journey! Hope everyone is having a good week x x

Congratulations!