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Karen Humphrey

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I lost 6 stone. 4 by myself and 2 after joining SW. I left and have gone through a bit of a roller coaster last few years and I'm ashamed to say I've put 5 of those stones back on. I'm going back to SW this week as I'm now ashamed of how I look when I did so well. I'm also going back to Zumba which is another worry because people there haven't seen me since I was thinner. I'm hoping these feelings will improve once I get back on the wagon as they say but hoping talking through things with people who understand will help.
 
Hiya :)
I feel ashamed of myself and how much weight i have put on all of the time.... but shall i tell you how i see it...

If people are judging you at least they can see you are doing something about it... it would be worse if you bumped into them shoving a burger in your mouth or something right?
And also if people are in slimming world they are there to lose weight so most likely in the same boat... hold your head high and know you will get back there again:)
good luck xxx
 
Good luck, its hard once you have fallen off the wagon, i couldn't get to group in december and gained 18.5lbs and was mortified, luckily i went back to group and have lost most of that now xxx
 
It is hard to face people when that happens, but you have to decide whether you want to not go back - and potentially put more weight on, or just grit your teeth, accept that someone might think you've put a bit of weight on for 30 seconds then forget all about it. People who go to slimming world will know exactly how you feel as we've all been there, and the people are at zumba, are you really so bothered to hinder yourself based on an opinion someone may or may not have? A few minute of being uncomfortable is worth all the weightloss and feeling great again! You can do it!!
 
I feel the same way at times especially when I bump into those from the past but as others have said, you are making the right choices and remember no ones judgement of you is more important than your own x
 
I know I shouldn't care what others think. My husband tells me people will respect the fact I'm out there doing something about my weight gain but right now that's not how I feel. I feel sick with nerves about my first class but I will do it and find some inner strength. Thanks for your comments. I appreciate any advice you have.
 
Karen Humphrey said:
I know I shouldn't care what others think. My husband tells me people will respect the fact I'm out there doing something about my weight gain but right now that's not how I feel. I feel sick with nerves about my first class but I will do it and find some inner strength. Thanks for your comments. I appreciate any advice you have.
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I went through a similar thing recently, about a year ago I too did slimming world, went to the gym, went to zumba, lost about 35lbs (i still had a long way to go) but i'd made a good start, and yano how it is, life gets in the way, I gave up, put it all back on and more - same old! I went back last week, just had my first weigh in again, everyone was so welcoming back to me, no negativity at all, and I lost 9lbs in my first week! I did my first zumba class last sunday, have been getting back into the gym, and although it was a facing, I care more about me and my health and weight loss than what some nobody who means nothing to me might think of me. They simply don't matter. Plus I totally think we have a classic 'over thinking' mode with weight, we think everyones looking, everyones judging - and 9 times out of 10, no ones bothered or noticed!

Try writing down a list of reasons you want to lose weight. All the amazing things you'll get out of losing weight, then write down the reasons not to go back. Compare them. Keep reading it when you feel sick with nerves - you'll soon realise any reason to not go will pale in insignificance! Good luck!! x
 
Wow, Littlepink, you've done amazingly well! What a fantastic example! Hope I can do as well as you have.
 
I know the feeling - I lost over 4stone and after around 6 months off plan I regained 2st of the weight. I wasn't even at target and still had a little while to go, so I've just set myself further back. I'm embarassed about it too, but I lost the weight before so I can (and will!) lose it again. And keep it off for good this time!

You can do it xx
 
Don't be embarrassed, there are lots of us here in the same boat. But we know we've done it once, we know we can do it again, and we're brave enough to give it another go :)
 
Good luck, Karen and think what an achievement it will be, once you've faced your demons. I'm really glad you decided to voice how you feel on Minis. That in itself was a big step forward and everyone on here is so lovely and supportive. I really do wish you loads of luck with starting at class and also with the Zumba. Good for you!

Kathy xx
 
Let us know how you get on!! x
 
im the exact same lost 4.6 stone and I have managed to put on 4.5stone:|
its a horrible feeling and I am sooooo angry with myself, looking back on pics and seeing a skinner me makes me gutted at times but I know that I am back on it and I am sticking to it too target and it will be staying off this time ! good luck and your at the right place for support as we have all been there :) xx
 
All went OK. Sam (my consultant) was great. She remembered me from last time and so did a lot of people there. As the class went on a learnt a few people I knew were back after falling off the wagon so didn't feel so bad. Glad I went thoug. Pleased I found this place and I'm sure I will be here a lot. Lol. I need all the motivation I can get. Thanks everyone
 
so glad it went well, knew you could do it! next stop ZUMBA!!! xx
 
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