Thread: does this sound silly? what's it like to be thin

When I lost weight before, about 3 stone (have about 2 to lose at the moment) I found I used to pick clothes up in the shops and look at them and think 'I'll never get into that size'. So I'd take the next size up into the changing room and low and behold they were too big and I would need the next size down...or two.

I guess what I am trying to say is that although I lost the weight and was a size 12/14 (I'm 5' 9) I never really saw myself as being the slim person that I was. Have to say though, that its only now when I see pics of me then that I can see I was slim but I suppose thats because I can compare myself to how I am now having gained weight yet again (when will I learn, eh?)

Sam
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I know what you mean Ruthy - I went to a party on Saturday night in some new clothes (bought some jeans that are a size 18, thats THREE sizes smaller than the size 24s I was wearing only nine weeks ago!) and thought I looked good (not great - but was pleased with what I saw) then I looked at the photos and didn't really see any difference to the old me. A bit disheartening I know - but we just gotta keep going xxx

I was going to reply to this thread - but then I thought "What's the definition of 'thin'?"

When I was a size 22/24 I might have answered "size 14 or 16", but now I'm a size 12 (sometimes even a size 10) I don't actually think of myself as 'thin'. Slim, maybe .. curvy, possibly ... but not actually 'thin'

I'm a Cambridge Diet counsellor and saw a client earlier tonight who weighs exactly the same as I do (10 st 11 lbs) and takes the same dress size as me - yet she sees herself as 'fat' compared to her size 8 best friend and is desperate to lose a stone to get into a standard size 10 (she's 5'5" tall by the way).

Maybe it IS all relative - and thinness (as with beauty) is just in the eye of the beholder?

Not a silly question at all hon! People have all sorts of reasons for not dieting or sabotaging their diets, they use their extra weight to hide away from all sorts of things. Some build up in their heads that when they are slim they will have this entirely different life, but all you will be is slimmer and healthier, they have to make the rest of the changes themselves. Oh dear, not trying to sound like a psychiatrist or anything! LOL

I have never been thin and don't want to be thin, but I have been a healthy weight before and it felt fab. Clothes fit well, I could easily walk into the shops and grab something and it looked decent, and most importantly I was in better shape so I felt better in myself, slept better and generally had a more positive attitude as being healthier makes you handle stress better.

So that's what I am aiming for, healthy weight and feeling good!

xx

Originally Posted by Summerskye

I was going to reply to this thread - but then I thought "What's the definition of 'thin'?"

When I was a size 22/24 I might have answered "size 14 or 16", but now I'm a size 12 (sometimes even a size 10) I don't actually think of myself as 'thin'. Slim, maybe .. curvy, possibly ... but not actually 'thin'

I'm a Cambridge Diet counsellor and saw a client earlier tonight who weighs exactly the same as I do (10 st 11 lbs) and takes the same dress size as me - yet she sees herself as 'fat' compared to her size 8 best friend and is desperate to lose a stone to get into a standard size 10 (she's 5'5" tall by the way).

Maybe it IS all relative - and thinness (as with beauty) is just in the eye of the beholder?

I totally agree with you. xxx It is all relative x

its weird isnt it? i have read before when people have lost a lot of weight it takes a while for their 'self perception' to catch up so you still think you are fat when u are not. my weight definately affects my personality, I got into a 12/14 wedding dress last summer and felt fantastic. i was not skinny by any means and some photos i censored due to my back/arms chin looking a bit too flabby but the spray tan and corset worked a treat and the majority of the pics im proud of!! and have felt pretty good about my weight since however decided to go back on the w8 plan this month after a few pounds gain since christmas. When i weighed in i was 4lbs lighter than on my wedding day but i still wanted to get a bit off. i got my friend to take a pic in my swimsuit (very brave i thought - and will be posted if i get to goal!!) and god i looked hideous all my positive feeling about my weight fell away and again i feel huge. I hope that If i get this last 23 lb off too get to goal i will eventually feel slim but I dont know if its possible after all these years of negative thoughts. On the positive now I am a w8 consultant i get a great satisfaction when my clients lose wight and get a kick out of their success!!

thanks for the replies everyone,
i do see what you're saying about what is 'thin' rainbow and i have got down to a size 12/14 before and still thought i was fat. i would just like to be happy with my curves (or lack of them) and not have to hide from having my photo taken, or only dressing in frumpy clothes. i want to feel i can get undressed in front of my boyfriend and feel sexy rather than always wanting the lights out. why should he think i'm sexy when i can't! don't get me wrong there are bits of me that i like, but the tummy has to go!

i'm just a little nervous that if the weight has gone and i feel down that i won't have a reason anymore. i'm usually a fairly happy person but everyone has their down days and whenever i have mine i tend to fall back to the fact i'm overweight. part of me really wants to be thin but there's a small bit of me that just doesn't want to let go. anyway, food for thought - now off to make my healthy red dinner and be happy :>)