I know exactly what to do... So why can't I do it?

Hi,

I've found myself here as almost a last resort. I feel really really out of control and helpless.

I have 4 stones to lose, I've been flipping from Atkins to Dukan to calorie counting to fasting with no results. I was really sticking to Atkins for a week, but I didnt lose so much as a pound!
I'm a member of Curves but I barely go twice a week.
I've lost nearly 4 stones before in 4 months. I've even paid out £6000 on a gastric band that has done absolutely nothing for me, I've even put weight on since I've had it.

I just really don't know what to do. I hate the way I look now. I'm disgusted by what I see in the mirror. SO WHY CAN'T I CHANGE? I just don't understand.

I know exactly how many calories to eat to lose weight, I know that exercise is important. But I can't stop myself from eating.
I drink too much alcohol - about 2 bottles of wine over the week. I'm not addicted to it, but I feel like I often drink because I'm bored and it gives me some pleasure - the same reason I over eat.

I started the Shrink yourself program and it identified a few issues to me - feeling unloved and rejection from my parents. But I just don't know how to tackle this. I have a good relationship and I am successful, but this just seems to be one thing I can't beat. Food is an every day struggle for me. I wish I could just push reset and have a normal relationship with food.

Sorry for the over-emotional ramblings, I'm just having a particularly low and desperate moment. I just don't know what to do. I'm really looking for some guidance or some friendly words.

Melissa - 4.5 stone to lose - starting 28/05/2013

I could have written that myself! I'm in a similar situation, I haven't had surgery but I have yo-yoed in the past to my heaviest point now. I want to loose weight, have done for months, but I can't stop eating! I guess I just need to refine what I eat to mainly fruit, veg and protein!

Hi, have you tried Hypnotherapy. I haven't myself personally but would have definately done it had my current vlcd not made a difference.

Hiya Melissa, I'm no expert on losing weight or anything but it sounds to me like you are more of an emotional eater.
I also think that when you flit from one diet program to another none of them will ever work. If I was you Id choose one and try to stick with it. I'm doing slimming world and have been doing it for a month - Iv lost 2lbs!! Not much I know, and I know why, I keep cheating and making the wrong choices. My friend has been doing the same plan for 6 weeks and has nearly lost a stone in weight! It just shows if your not in the right frame of mind no diet will work.

Can your doctor put you in touch with a counsellor to talk through the issues you have about your parents and your weight. The good thing is, is that
you have come on here to talk about it, thats a step in the right direction and hopefully you will feel the weight on your shoulders has been lifted slightly
by just sharing how you feel.

Stay in touch and let us know how you get on