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    Don't know where to start

    A the title suggests, I'm at such a loss! I'm 3st heavier than I was this time last year partly due to the anti depressants I was prescribed after a very dark time in my life (I was suicidal)

    Since then, I have tried almost every diet but just can't stick to anything. I've tried slimming world, weight watchers, calorie counting, VLCD, slim fast etc but I crave is comforting junk food. I know that this food is not helping me feel good but I feel like I need instant gratification.

    My GP has recently diagnosed Fibromyalgia which explains some of the tiredness, aches and pains but some of it is due to being 7st overweight. I have a 2 year old who I adore and a loving husband. I'm lucky that I work and can sustain a fairly nice lifestyle but my main unhappiness comes from being so fat and feeling worthless.

    Does anyone know where I can start? My head knows I can lose weight and how to do it but the autopilot in me still reaches for the chocolate and biscuits without thinking!

    Any wise words great fully received!
    Andrea x

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    Hi Andrea,
    First of all, please stop feeling bad because of your weight. It looks like you have a good life with caring people around you. Please see how valuable you are for them. We do not try to alter our body weights because it is some sort of guilt to have more than the ideal bodyweight. We do it for health and for feeling great. So, please, don't blame yourself for it.
    I don't know about the medication you took but what I know ia antidepressants cause weight gain many a times. But you can lose it back.
    I would suggest you to start a full-fledged diet but even without that it is possible to make some changes that will be a step towards a better life. Reducing suggar is one thing. Eating fibre-rich, protein-rich food that fill you is another. I am no expert but in my humble opinion, a great way to resist junk food to fill yourself with healthy food instead of starving yourself. And avoid crash diets and yo-yos please.
    Good luck...

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    Hi Andrea. I can relate to a lot of what you say. I suffer from ME/Fybromyalgia, as well as osteoarthritis, and take a whole host of medication including antidepressants. I was 10 stone overweight when I started on here. I've found calorie counting is what works for me, as I can eat whatever I want as long as it's within my calories. I was wondering if you'd checked out the WEMITTS part of the forum for ideas - it's the part that's for people with a lot to lose, regardless of what plan they're doing. It's under Slimming Clubs, and I've found it really helpful. Good luck with whatever you decide. xx

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    Thank you for your responses. I'll check out the board you have suggested Tracy. Well done for your weight loss!! That's amazing!

    I've tried calorie counting in the past but never got into the swing of it. Got disheartened when I thought I was eating something healthy and it was so high in calories!

    I know that forward planning is key and I might just sit down on Sunday night and have a think of what I can eat. I don't have horribly unhealthy food in the house at the mo - no chocolate or biscuits etc but we do like a pudding after our Sunday roast.

    I was trying to stick to 1200 cals a day the last time I tried, maybe that was too little? I struggle at lunchtimes at work as I don't get a lunch break and can only have a sandwich at my desk as we have rules about eating at work. I do make my own bread at home so at least I know what's going into it.

    Am still feeling rather lost but hopefully I can check in here with people who can help and point me in the right direction!

    Andrea x

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    Thank you hon!

    On the calorie front, yes 1,200 would be too low fair you. I started at 2,000 myself, and gradually reduced it as I got lighter but still eat 1,400 now. xx

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    Oh my goodness! Some people can be so unkind. Not here as everyone is so lovely. Let me explain...!

    My hubby, daughter and I went to my best friends BBQ this afternoon. I've been friends with her since I was 12 and I'm nearly 28 so we feel more like sisters. Anyway, her nan was there. Normally this old lady is kinda batty but all in all a fairly nice lady.

    Today she has angered me in a way I never thought possible. I feel disgusted and ashamed by one single sentence. I do have a habit of blowing things out of proportion but this has really got to me!

    She said she was "people watching" in town and I'm a lot smaller than most (I carry fat very well!). When I said I want to do something about my weight, she says, dead serious "well you've never been skinny anyway"

    While this is probably accurate it had annoyed me so much. Does everybody see me as the "fat friend" that they can stand next to to make themselves feel better?! My friend, bless her, did stand up for me and I just smiled and shrugged it off.

    I feel I have a steely resolve to prove this batty lady so wrong! I need to hand on to this determination and feeling when the going gets tough!

    Sorry for the rant. I needed to get this out and remind myself of the feeling I have now in a week time when the going gets tough! X

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    Sometimes an off the cuff comment or remark (however batty the person is) is enough to push you into doing what you want to do. Keep the old girls comment in your head and remember how you felt when she said it.

    Go prove her wrong girl - you know you can

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    Thank Lou, I just couldn't believe that this lady has known me for the past 16 yrs and knows my struggles would say something like that.

    I'm so fed up of being the fat friend so I need to do something about it. I have a gym membership and exercise DVD so now I just have to think of what diet to follow. I struggle to stick to things and I hate having to think or cook to much so will be putting my research hat on.

    Can't say I'm feeling positive but I am feeling angry and fed up! X

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    I think you've got to be realistic with yourself and choose a plan which will benefit you, not deprive you and make you feel miserable.
    I've been tried calorie counting quite a few times over the last year but it has never lasted more than two weeks, but I set myself unrealistic goals like eating 1200 calories a day and cutting all junk food out - I found that I was really hungry and miserable and wasn't even losing much weight, so I decided it wasn't worth it and just quit. I'm now back on a calorie counting diet and am eating around 1500 calories a day - I'm never hungry, I allow myself to have treats and even eat out as long as I choose the healthier option, I'm now much happier and am finally losing weight.

    I think it's important to be realistic and understand that you can't deprive yourself of everything you enjoy eating if you want the diet to last. Make sure you do treat yourself now and again - I've started buying low calorie treats like 100 calorie chocolate bars or frozen yoghurt instead of ice cream. Then I can have a healthy treat if I'm really craving unhealthy food - it also makes you feel less like you're on a diet. I've also found that eating more fruit and veg makes me have less cravings, so maybe have meals with lots of veg. The first few weeks are hard but if you believe in yourself then I'm sure that you can do it, good luck with whatever plan you choose.

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    Thank you Toujours. I don't really know what plan I'm going to follow. I've pretty much tried them all!! I think calorie counting might be the way to go for me but I will need to plan ahead. Something I am terrible at doing.

    I need to exercise for fitness purposes as I am ridiculously unfit. I get breathless walking up the stairs and I will take the car pretty much everywhere. I can't play with my 2 year old unless sat down. This is not the mum I want her to remember!

    Tomorrow seems a good day to start. I'll have a go at working out my BMR and see what calorie deficit will work for me.

    Andrea x

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    How are you doing honey?
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    Hi Lou. Not great. Bit manic here to be honest! Hubby went away Sunday night and my 2 year old was distraught. I'm not feeling well, so achy and am trying to sleep it off.

    Just got my daughter back to bed as she was sick no less than 5 times tonight!

    Not having a lot of me time to think about diets but then again, I don't have much time to eat either!

    Hoping it'll calm down in a few days but this is normal living as a navy wife!

    Hope all is well with you! X





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