Thread: The Mental Part Of Weight Loss

I have promised myself a really nice, relaxing trip to the hair dressers for my 5% goal! (my hair really needs a cut but I never find the time or money!).

Compliments are really important to me on my journey - something I learnt doing another diet in another lifetime.

Compliment people and learn to accept compliments. When someone says 'your hair looks nice' learn not to think 'is that the only thing that looks nice' or 'you are just saying that'. Learn to say 'thanks' and accept the compliment or comment.

For most of us we just rebuke compliments like 'you have lost weight' with 'still a long way to go' instead of 'thank you it feels really good'.

Love the idea of nails being painted... I might set up a scale of colours for weekly loss.

STS - no polish
1 lb - pale pink/nude
2lb - deep pink/purple/red
3lb - silver? sparkly?
4lb - trip to the nail salon?

Wow, looks like I might have started something! I've got a fab colour called Victoria - might have to do that when i get below 16st.

sort of plum coloured?

I think that was the idea but it's sort of a really dark red rather than a purple.

Hey,
I'm only just starting to understand the 'mind' issue too, and Hypnotherapy has helped me to do this. In the past a small amount of weight loss has never been enough, as soon as i've told myself I cant have something I want it more than ever, and I have focused on excersise and most of that I don't like - so therefore I have always failed! Now, I am 'trying to eat healthier' i'm not on a diet...I eat whatever I want, but I have swapped snacks in between meals with fruit or oatcakes/oatbars, (just doing this I have lost 6lb in 3 weeks) I am now going to reduce my meal sizes slightly and see how that goes, and i'm also making a concious effort to walk more instead of jumping in the car, but these are only small changes that make a difference. But I definately agree it's about life change, and to be totally honest I find it impossible to imagine my life without certain foods, but you don't have to give up on these completely, as long as you incorporate them in your meal plan. eg If I really want a chocolate bar, I'll have one for my pudding, but I wont have anything like that between my meals.(I've had 3 choc bars in 3 weeks) Also asking yourself questions like do I really want this creme cake more than I want to lose weight helps me, as the answer is always no, and i'll make better choices. I was thinking to myself, even if I lose 2lb a month - thats almost 2 stone a year...and if it stays off because I can stick to it, then thats good enough for me!!

All the best everyone!

Well done on your weightloss so far. You've done brilliantly, and if you're ever struggling, we'll help. I love this site and the people on it, who make it what it is.

Originally Posted by Jim

sort of plum coloured?

Jim how on earth would you know something like that?!?!

LOL Claire, hey I'm 60 and I know all sorts of things.

Hello all...
Just wanted you all to know that Im still going strong...
With a lot of thanks to the support of you all.

Im eating good things and exercising daily...
Feeling wonderful...and I have lost 45 pounds so far.

I was telling a (thin) friend the other day about changes that happen when you start losing weight...about all the little things you notice. Cause when you are very overweight every movement runs through your mind. Something so simple as bending over and picking something up. To wondering if you are going to fit in the seats at a movie theatre. And I have been noticing some of these little changes...and Im tickled to death. I think to full understand you must live it.
But I dont have that small little breathing grunt when picking something off the floor. Or even getting off the floor is not a chore as it use to be. Doing dishes my back would kill me...now, its much less. And I can actually bend over tie my shoes with out feeling like I cant breath.

Makes me wonder what it would be like to be thin and just move with no thought at all...like...can I? should I? will I look stupid? maybe I should not do it.
I have never been thin my whole life...and its like a big mystery...how I would look...how I would feel...to have the whole world open to me to do whatever I want.

This will be an exciting year as the door starts to slowly open to me.

But again...Thanks for all your support.

that's lovely to hear Cyena - am glad you feel better in yourself, keep up the good work! X

I can understand very well how you feel about it.
I have also a very long way to go.
And it is hard to imagine where this road will take me.
And, as you wrote, the main question is "what is the difference to all the other diets and tries, why should it work this time"?
For myself, I do not have any answer yet...


sorry for my English...

Hi, Mellow, you're English is very good. Best of luck with your weight loss. XX

Mellow, I think there is a diet out that to suit everyone, it's just finding the right one for you really. I tried all sorts of diets until I found Atkins, and that was the one for me.

Same here. It took me 18 months to lose half a stone on weight watchers, and 8 weeks to lose a stone with atkins. I'm quite impatient so this really works for me. Am starting to think about maintenance even though i have about 2 stone to go. I want to be really prepared.

I think Jim's right though, sometimes you have to try a lot of diets to find whats right.