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| Member Cyena's Profile Albums Cyena's Photo Gallery Join Date: 3rd July, 2009 Location: Ohio
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Rep Power: 0 ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Diet: Low fat/low carb | The Mental Part Of Weight Loss Hello there...Im new to the site. And I have a question for anyone out there. I have been overweight all my life. Im 43 now. So you know that the habits I have are rooted pretty deep. When I diet/exercise...I seem to be fine when it comes to watching what I eat and putting the time in on exercise. But my problem is the mental part of it all. The long road ahead...it seems to discourage me. I have a lot to lose...and I mean A LOT. And even though I see changes in how I feel and clothes are feeling a bit looser. I still seem to look at that road. My mind tells me...you have tried so many times before... Lost like 80 pounds...and you have failed...over and over and over. What is going to make this time different. And I tell myself...its going to take time. Have patience... You are doing it...and you are doing fine. But there feels like a dark cloud hanging over you... Its a feeling thats hard to explain. But it does get you down even though you are making progress. Im not sure if anyone out there understands what Im talking about. Maybe Im just going a bit (or a lot...lol) off the deep end. Any input on this would be appreciated. Thank you all...have a wonderful day. |
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| Bouncing back Silence's Profile Albums Silence's Photo Gallery Join Date: 15th July, 2008 Location: Yorkshire
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Rep Power: 421 ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Diet: WW Discover Plan Start Date: 26/04/2010 | If it's any consolation I know exactly how you feel and I think you'll find a lot of people on here do. There are a lot of us for whom weight loss is a long and arduous journey (you might benefit from looking in the forums WeMitts, Century Club and Bring Your Head Inside, Your Body Will Follow) You really need to accept, deep down, that it is a journey, a progression and not a short term thing. You need to look at what you're doing as a lifestyle choice, not as a short term solution. It is so very easy to become overwhelmed by the amount of weight one has to lose. It helps to set yourself smaller targets, take a stone at a time, even half a stone and focus on just getting to there. What also helps is getting involved in discussions on here. This place is wonderful for support and encouragement, to talk to people who share your feelings and experiences, people who are going through what you are, people who have done so and have succeeded. Wishing you the best of luck in your journey. ~Silence~
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| Every ounce is bounce Bad Jar's Profile Albums Bad Jar's Photo Gallery Join Date: 3rd July, 2009 Location: Chelmsford, Essex, UK
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Rep Power: 33 ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Diet: Neris & India's Idiot-Proof Diet Height: 5' 6" Start Date: 15/03/2010 Start Weight: 228lb Current Weight: 226lb Goal Weight: 172lb Goal Date: 06/07/10 BMI Information: Start BMI: 36.8 Current BMI: 36.5 Goal BMI: 27.8 Statistics: Total Weight Loss: 2lb Weight to Lose: 54lb % Lost 0.88% | I totally get where you're coming from. I think a lot of people will on this site. I know it feels like a never ending journey, but see how many other people can do it, and the support they get on this site...You can do it. You have to believe in yourself, and I know that is SO much easier said than done! I'm going to break out the cliche's: take each day, or even each meal, one step at a time. tell yourself you can do it, you only have to get through this meal. Each day is a blessing, not a torture and each day is a further step down that long road. Ok, sometimes you might go back a few steps or stand still to enjoy the scenery but you dont have to stay there. Start each day with a deep breath and a big smile. The past is history. You dont have to re-live it if you choose not to. Good luck and best wishes. X
__________________ Good Jam, Bad Jar ![]() ![]() Mini goals: Get to 16st Get to 15st 7lb Get to 15st Get to 14st 7lb Get to 14st Get to 13st 7lb Get to 13st Should I be aiming for 10st 3lb? I want to be curvy, not skeletal! Start weight: 16.4/228.2 1st WI = 16.3/227 2nd WI = 16.2/226.6 3rd WI = 4th WI = 5th WI = 6th WI = 7th WI = 8th WI = 9th WI = 10th WI = |
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| Likes to post SarahSez's Profile Albums SarahSez's Photo Gallery Join Date: 25th June, 2009 Location: Norfolk
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Rep Power: 253 ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Diet: Rosemary Conley Height: 5' 3" Start Date: 15/01/07 Start Weight: 239lb Current Weight: 135lb Goal Weight: 137lb Goal Date: Achieved 30th March 2010 BMI Information: Start BMI: 42.3 Current BMI: 23.9 Goal BMI: 24.3 Statistics: Total Weight Loss: 104lb Weight to Lose: -2lb % Lost 43.51% | I'm not going to repeat what everyone else has already said but the end result is worth all your effort. And remember; NOTHING tastes as good as being slim feels Good luck |
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| Bouncing back Silence's Profile Albums Silence's Photo Gallery Join Date: 15th July, 2008 Location: Yorkshire
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Rep Power: 421 ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Diet: WW Discover Plan Start Date: 26/04/2010 | One other thing to do is to take a looksee at what other people have achieved. There's a screensaver on here with before and after pictures of people who have succeeded. It's well worth a look because it's so inspirational!
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| Member Cyena's Profile Albums Cyena's Photo Gallery Join Date: 3rd July, 2009 Location: Ohio
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Rep Power: 0 ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Diet: Low fat/low carb | Thanks so much for the encouraging words. They did help in many ways. I keep telling myself that the journey is the best.. Its where you get your strength and you see yourself grow. You see changes happening everyday...even if they are so small. And it is a life change. And I know I dont want to go back to where I was before. Cause even after a month...the changes have been awesome. I just need to shut up that little voice in there that taunts me about my previous failures. Its so nice to see friendly people like you all here who understand and willing to give helpful words of encouragements. |
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| Every ounce is bounce Bad Jar's Profile Albums Bad Jar's Photo Gallery Join Date: 3rd July, 2009 Location: Chelmsford, Essex, UK
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Rep Power: 33 ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Diet: Neris & India's Idiot-Proof Diet Height: 5' 6" Start Date: 15/03/2010 Start Weight: 228lb Current Weight: 226lb Goal Weight: 172lb Goal Date: 06/07/10 BMI Information: Start BMI: 36.8 Current BMI: 36.5 Goal BMI: 27.8 Statistics: Total Weight Loss: 2lb Weight to Lose: 54lb % Lost 0.88% | You can always give that little voice - that little demon - a name? when it taunts you, tell it you have the power to control what you do, not it. another thing is to right down what is says (to get it out of your head!) and lock the comments in a box which you then put out of sight. When you're happy with your weight, re-read the comments, laugh at your demon and the fact you've beaten it, then have a little bonfire in the back garden! Being safe and responsible of course!
__________________ Good Jam, Bad Jar ![]() ![]() Mini goals: Get to 16st Get to 15st 7lb Get to 15st Get to 14st 7lb Get to 14st Get to 13st 7lb Get to 13st Should I be aiming for 10st 3lb? I want to be curvy, not skeletal! Start weight: 16.4/228.2 1st WI = 16.3/227 2nd WI = 16.2/226.6 3rd WI = 4th WI = 5th WI = 6th WI = 7th WI = 8th WI = 9th WI = 10th WI = |
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| Member Cyena's Profile Albums Cyena's Photo Gallery Join Date: 3rd July, 2009 Location: Ohio
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Rep Power: 0 ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Diet: Low fat/low carb | I love that idea...lol I think I will call that little voice Vlad (dracula), he likes to suck every bit of motivation out of me. Great!!! Now all I can think about is steak with garlic butter sauce...lol I dont think that is the right kind of steak or garlic that will kill him off. Thanks so much for the help. Its something Im going to try. |
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| Bouncing back Silence's Profile Albums Silence's Photo Gallery Join Date: 15th July, 2008 Location: Yorkshire
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Rep Power: 421 ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Diet: WW Discover Plan Start Date: 26/04/2010 | Another thing you could try, which I do when I'm having a tough time, is write a "credit list". At the end of the day make a list of all the good and strong things you've done today and give yourself credit for them, congratulate yourself. (See this thread (Crediting yourself) for more details.) it will drive Vlad crazy!!!
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| Likes to post Iris's Profile Albums Iris's Photo Gallery Join Date: 26th May, 2009
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Rep Power: 60 ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Diet: Calorie counting (also known as relentless self-denial) Height: 5' 10" Start Date: off and on since January 2007 Start Weight: 230lb Current Weight: 121lb Goal Weight: 120lb BMI Information: Start BMI: 33 Current BMI: 17.4 Goal BMI: 17.2 Statistics: Total Weight Loss: 109lb Weight to Lose: 1lb % Lost 47.39% | I know exactly what you mean. It's like the shadow of past failure hangs over you, like a big rain cloud and you're just waiting for the downpour. I still wrestle with a little voice inside that says 'you're going to fail, you're going to tumble, you'll put it all back on again, fatty!' I think the only way to get that voice to shut up is to remind yourself that the difference this time is that you're not on a finite diet, you've actually changed your relationship with food for good, and you're never going back. You may have failed diets before, but if you remind yourself that this time isn't a diet - this time isn't finite, it's just a sensible way of eating you can maintain for life - then I think you start to mute that insecure voice inside a bit. You will get there - there's no hurry, is there? You're in control and it'll happen. Just make sure you're treating yourself well while it happens, being kind to your body and getting enough rest days from the exercise regime. The best of luck! |
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| Likes to post purpleimogen's Profile Albums purpleimogen's Photo Gallery Join Date: 17th May, 2009 Location: bury st edmunds
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Rep Power: 15 ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Diet: w8 Height: 5' 7" Start Date: 091011 Start Weight: 257lb Current Weight: 246lb Goal Weight: 200lb Goal Date: 220212 BMI Information: Start BMI: 40.2 Current BMI: 38.5 Goal BMI: 31.3 Statistics: Total Weight Loss: 11lb Weight to Lose: 46lb % Lost 4.28% | i really wish you all the best in your weight lose, i agree with what everybody has said i had a thought of my be you could set a small goal and my be stay at that level for a month so you could have a small break but maintain at that for a month and then you might not think oh god its good i have lost this bit still have so much to go. and then lose some more and then maintain for month and so on. i hope this helps as i find that even after 8 weeks im fed up and the road seems so long and the good points like lossing weight are not out weighing the fact i have so much more to go. I also just want to quickly add i have not been eating all my packs and and now found out that i will not lose as much if i dont so what ever diet you are on make sure you stick to the rules, sending big hug and one day we will all get there im sure x |
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| Big Boy ![]() Jim's Profile Albums Jim's Photo Gallery Join Date: 10th December, 2008 Location: Sutton Coldfield
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Rep Power: 1251 ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Diet: Atkins Maintenance Height: 6' 1" Start Date: May 2002 Start Weight: 350lb Current Weight: 183lb Goal Weight: 183lb BMI Information: Start BMI: 46.2 Current BMI: 24.1 Goal BMI: 24.1 Statistics: Total Weight Loss: 167lb Weight to Lose: 0lb % Lost 47.71% | Good posts there. I totally agree.
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| Member Cyena's Profile Albums Cyena's Photo Gallery Join Date: 3rd July, 2009 Location: Ohio
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Rep Power: 0 ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Diet: Low fat/low carb | Thanks so much for all the input. I sat down this last past weekend...made up some goals for myself. Wrote them down..and really tried to connect to the these goals...some are long ones...some are short...and doable. So now...I can say...hey, there is a vacation coming up in October...I want to get up there and dance my butt off like others. And you arent going to do it by sitting on it now. lol I also sat myself down today...and had a talk about why I started all this to begin with. Its not about scale, or about clothes...or even the mirror. Its about health...a long healthy life. And the freedom that health brings...by doing whatever you want...no more excuses. And I told "Vlad" to "Bite Me" ...lol |
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| Every ounce is bounce Bad Jar's Profile Albums Bad Jar's Photo Gallery Join Date: 3rd July, 2009 Location: Chelmsford, Essex, UK
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Rep Power: 33 ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Diet: Neris & India's Idiot-Proof Diet Height: 5' 6" Start Date: 15/03/2010 Start Weight: 228lb Current Weight: 226lb Goal Weight: 172lb Goal Date: 06/07/10 BMI Information: Start BMI: 36.8 Current BMI: 36.5 Goal BMI: 27.8 Statistics: Total Weight Loss: 2lb Weight to Lose: 54lb % Lost 0.88% | Hi, and Well done! I was thinking about your post the other day (in a non stalker-type way!) and had a thought. When you reach your next small goal, how about painting your nails a really funky colour? Then, when you feel low, you can look at your pretty nails and you've got a reminder you CAN do it! Uness you're a bloke of course, in which case do your toenails! ;o)
__________________ Good Jam, Bad Jar ![]() ![]() Mini goals: Get to 16st Get to 15st 7lb Get to 15st Get to 14st 7lb Get to 14st Get to 13st 7lb Get to 13st Should I be aiming for 10st 3lb? I want to be curvy, not skeletal! Start weight: 16.4/228.2 1st WI = 16.3/227 2nd WI = 16.2/226.6 3rd WI = 4th WI = 5th WI = 6th WI = 7th WI = 8th WI = 9th WI = 10th WI = |
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| Member Cyena's Profile Albums Cyena's Photo Gallery Join Date: 3rd July, 2009 Location: Ohio
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Rep Power: 0 ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Diet: Low fat/low carb | That is such a cute idea...lol I really like it. Thanks!!! |
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