Emotional Eaters-Please help me x

[magicjellybeans]

Hi guys, im a known emotional eater You would think knowing what i do wrong would make it easy to stop but it doesnt. In 2008/2009 i joined minimins and through lipotrim i lost a wopping 5 stone. I felt and looked the best i ever had. In nov 2009 i gave birth to my second child and gained almost two stone. I joined sw and was working hard to lose it again, it was coming off slowly but i was pleased. In march 2011 my brother was shot whilst on duty in afghanistan. two weeks later my uncle died unexpectedly at the young age of 40 and two weeks after that my mother in law died from illness. These events took a massive toll on me and my family and in the subsequent months that followed i ate myself into oblivion.

in July 2012 my very supportive partner of ten years proposed to me The ultimate goal i needed to lose all this weight i had gained. however in December, 5 days before christmas my partner crashed his brand new car. Thankfully he was ok but the financial fall out has left us in a terrible state. The car has been in and out of the garage (we cant afford to get rid/or be without it as he needs it for work) and we totally depleted our wedding fund having to postpone the date to 2015.

Just when we think we have possibly had our fill of bad luck the engine failure (that we have paid nearly £2000 to correct) is back again and we had to be towed to the garage last night. i feel like screaming!! Arghhhhhh!!!!!!!! We've used all our wedding fund, postponed the date and its still not working and whats more we're probably gonna end up taking the "specialist" garage to court!!

This time ive started my weightloss again for the last time and i refuse to ruin myself with my emotional issues. Losing weight isnt hard when you do it right and i know how to do it right but i seem to get pulled down by all my emotional stresses and get stuck in a destructive rut!!

Im sorry for spilling my life story and i know to some these problems are small fry. I try daily to remind myself that there are people worse off who are terminally ill or have lost a child and try to thank my lucky stars that me, my partner and my children are safe and well but sometimes i just get dragged down with it all. I suppose what im asking is, are there any other emotional eaters on here and if so how do you stop yourself? I need to do it this time. please help me xx

 

[takemedrunkimhome]

Hello,

I hope you are feeling better from when you posted the above?

As far as an answer to how to control emotional eating I am afraid I don't have one I have always been an emotional eater and continue to be. But the further along your weight loss journey you go your self esteem increases and so your will power increases also so you are able to stop your self more and look at the bigger picture.

What weight loss plan are you following?

 

[Kay_kayleigh]

I am a real emotional eater too. It's the first thing I turn to when I'm happy, sad, angry, anything!

Its so ingrained I don't know how I'm going to break the habit but I'm just going to keep trying. Don't discount what you've been through, everyone has their own problems and everyone deals with them differently. What's hard is to confront the emotions and not drown them out by eating. I have had to start cbt, referred through my gp, to sort out my borderline binge eating disorder and associated self esteem issues. If you're really struggling maybe think about speaking to your doctor for a referral also?

 

[Princess_Ruthy]

I think emotional eating is a trap we can all fall in from time to time. Strangely enough if i'm depressed/worried etc I tend not to eat. Luckily that doesn't happen to often. I've had periods of that though and not eating can be just as bad. Perhaps finding something else to focus on is a good idea? I hobby? Writing your feelings down etc?