Impact of weight loss in relationships

[curveappeal]

My partner loves curvy chicks... Doesn't like skinny girls. He met me 4 months post partum so I definitely fit the bill.

However I am happiest when I am fit and toned. Nowi have lost just under 3 Stone and have started exante tfr to get rid of the last 19 or so lbs. He is completely supportive and tells me I look amazing etc etc.. Even though I know the big boobed curvier me is what attracted him in the first place.

Same goes for him. When we met he had chunky legs and bottom.. (delish) he started training for a triathlon and lost loads and I preferred him the way he was but would never say it to him.. He prefers his toned physique. At the moment he's got a little junk is his trunk and is starting to train again.

How do you guys feel about your weight loss within relationships or previous relationships??

 

[Honey-J]

This is really interesting as I've thought about this last year. Me and my boyfriend meet last year. He also doesn't go for skinny women his defo a bum/boobs man and I have both and more lol my boyfriend doesn't not approve of me doing VLCDs at all. His always encouraged me to eat less and exercise more to shift the weight.

Recently his told me wear his noticed im losing weight and it's mainly my thighs and waist when he hugs me. Which makes me smile at lot inside. Then makes it clear every night I still have a fat ass lol. Which he wants me to keep but I want it gone asap.

 

[curveappeal]

This is really interesting as I've thought about this last year. Me and my boyfriend meet last year. He also doesn't go for skinny women his defo a bum/boobs man and I have both and more lol my boyfriend doesn't not approve of me doing VLCDs at all. His always encouraged me to eat less and exercise more to shift the weight.

Recently his told me wear his noticed im losing weight and it's mainly my thighs and waist when he hugs me. Which makes me smile at lot inside. Then makes it clear every night I still have a fat ass lol. Which he wants me to keep but I want it gone asap.

That's good that ya have his support..

 

[Noitulove]

Hi! I originally met my husband over the internet; we both played World of Warcraft! We fell in love before we met. When I first starting talking to him online I was 17 stone. I told him that I was very overweight and that I didn't want to meet him until I had lost the weight. Though he wouldn't have minded either way. I lost 7 stone in six months and finally met him at 10 stone (being impatient to finally meet him was a good motivator).

My husband has seen me at 14.5 stone, 9 stone and everything in between (and even a photograph of me when I was 17 stone). I'm very lucky as I guess he doesn't see the weight, he just sees me.

His opinion on it is that he thinks I'm beautiful however I look, he just wants me to be happy & healthy and I'm happiest when I'm around 9.5 stone. I'm still curvy at this weight, so it's win win!

Cannot wait to get back there!

 

[Noitulove]

curveappeal, I've just noticed that we have almost the same start and goal weights.

 

[curveappeal]

Hi! I originally met my husband over the internet; we both played World of Warcraft! We fell in love before we met. When I first starting talking to him online I was 17 stone. I told him that I was very overweight and that I didn't want to meet him until I had lost the weight. Though he wouldn't have minded either way. I lost 7 stone in six months and finally met him at 10 stone (being impatient to finally meet him was a good motivator).

My husband has seen me at 14.5 stone, 9 stone and everything in between (and even a photograph of me when I was 17 stone). I'm very lucky as I guess he doesn't see the weight, he just sees me.

His opinion on it is that he thinks I'm beautiful however I look, he just wants me to be happy & healthy and I'm happiest when I'm around 9.5 stone. I'm still curvy at this weight, so it's win win!

Cannot wait to get back there!

Awww lovely post!!!!

 

[curveappeal]

curveappeal, I've just noticed that we have almost the same start and goal weights.

Aww cool Haha... And how are you finding things???

 

[Noitulove]

It's going well, thank you! Obviously it's extremely boring and it does get me down sometimes, especially on the weekends and when my husband and four-year-old daughter are having something nice. ...but I just keep telling myself how happy I'll be at the end of it and it's only another five and a half weeks until a two-week re-feed and our holiday (I may come back to Lipotrim afterwards, depending on how well I do by then).

How about you?

 

[curveappeal]

It's going well, thank you! Obviously it's extremely boring and it does get me down sometimes, especially on the weekends and when my husband and four-year-old daughter are having something nice. ...but I just keep telling myself how happy I'll be at the end of it and it's only another five and a half weeks until a two-week re-feed and our holiday (I may come back to Lipotrim afterwards, depending on how well I do by then).

How about you?

I'm not doing too shabby, popped over to the Exante forum as Ive started that yesterday.. On the last stretch so getting it out of the way..

Have you got a diary?

 

[Noitulove]

Aww, well good luck with it! Yeah, you're nearly there.

No, I don't have a diary. My life's a bit repetitive at the moment, so I think it would be a little boring. I have two daughters, a four-year-old and a six-month-old, so it's literally just walking to and from nursery, feeding them both and grabbing my shakes when I can. I don't have a lot of time to think about the diet. I just grab a couple of minutes here and there to post on here. Just about to leave now to go and pick my big girl up.

 

[livedadream]

curveappeal to be fair you helped me alot with my boyfriend the poor man didnt know what to be doing with me when i started tfr hahaa
i feel more confident he says that im the same girl he fell in love with but that now theres just a less of me and that i seem happier in general, he did joke that he was worried id trade him so he started running with me,
basically without going TMI between us running together now and the corset you advised me to get things are simply perfection. ;-)

 

[curveappeal]

curveappeal to be fair you helped me alot with my boyfriend the poor man didnt know what to be doing with me when i started tfr hahaa
i feel more confident he says that im the same girl he fell in love with but that now theres just a less of me and that i seem happier in general, he did joke that he was worried id trade him so he started running with me,
basically without going TMI between us running together now and the corset you advised me to get things are simply perfection. ;-)

Awwwww wow that's an amazing message to read...!!!! Awwww I'm delighted for you!!!!! That's just epic....!!!!!! Yay!!!!!!

Ps you go girl ha

 

[janeg]

I feel very lucky, my boyfriend doesn't mind if I am heavy or slim and I have been both throughout our 15 years together, when I was moaning the other week about my weight and that my clothes don't fit he suggested I just go and buy bigger clothes and I had to say that wasn't the point! He knows how unhappy I am at the moment and just wants me to be comfortable in my own skin. He said he is happy if I am happy bless. He is 100% supportive and won't cook in the house if I am home although I worry about him there's not a pick on him and as I used to do most of the cooking I don't think he is eating enough and if he loses weight there will be nothing of him!

 

[curveappeal]

I feel very lucky, my boyfriend doesn't mind if I am heavy or slim and I have been both throughout our 15 years together, when I was moaning the other week about my weight and that my clothes don't fit he suggested I just go and buy bigger clothes and I had to say that wasn't the point! He knows how unhappy I am at the moment and just wants me to be comfortable in my own skin. He said he is happy if I am happy bless. He is 100% supportive and won't cook in the house if I am home although I worry about him there's not a pick on him and as I used to do most of the cooking I don't think he is eating enough and if he loses weight there will be nothing of him!

That's great to see such support xx

 

[MissBlueEyes]

I have found that when I lose weight (having got to target a couple of times) that the man in my life got very insecure. Now I'm hoping that my current partner will be ok when I lose weight as I was a size10-12 when we first met and I have ballooned since.

 

[Crazyfoxlady]

My partner doesn't seem to notice if I am slimmer or chunkier. He is supporting through this as he knows it's what I really want. To be honest I might have given up if it wasn't for him. When I tell him I am hungry (am not, just feel empty) he will ask if have had my shake and tells me to go get a drink of water. Am so lucky, both with his ability to not notice/mention I have put 5 stone on and him not saying how crazy I must be to be back on lipotrim!

 

[livedadream]

reading back over this stuff as im back on maintencce after my 30th in june and a bad break up in august. So strange reading back about my amazing boyfriend and how supportive etc. it turns out my new lifestyle didnt suit him all that much. we kept up the running for a while but his shifts at work just made it impossible and we kinda drifted apart i guess.