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  1. fatpossum

    fatpossum Silver Member

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    Is it just me chaps or has it all got a bit boring on here?

    It seems as though there are fewer posts and fewer people about. The topics are getting a bit repetitive and we're all disappearing up our own rear ends! :eek: Not to mention the fact that there is a general sense of gloom about the place.

    ....... Constant talk of lapse and relapse and giving up etc etc etc and not much else.

    Now, before someone jumps down my neck I KNOW that the forum is about providing support to those of us who are struggling but there is more to support than just listening to eachother whinge and wallow - where is the challenge?

    We're supposed to be about battling a life long addiction, making radical changes to our inner and outer selves, learning who we really are.

    Where are the interesting stories and insights? - not just details of what we managed to sneak or how much we put on just because we didn't stick to packs for a few days or while on holiday.

    We should be working towards the point where we can manage ourselves around food and whats more we should be expecting this of ourselves and eachother not just providing sympathy when one or us 'falls off the wagon' and .......... wait for it .......... 'piles on the pounds'. Isn't that little more than enabling behaviour?

    And where is the fun and the humour?!

    Any ideas as to how we can get a bit of energy circulating?
     
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  3. sonkie

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    Well what would you suggest hehe
    I am game
     
  4. wannabeminime

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    I agree its quiet this evening.
     
  5. In search of me

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    umm interesting viewpoint! I dont think its boring but I struggle (& discussed this on blog yesterday & today with my group) because I havent cheated and am definately in the minority but at times feel this is not celebrated by others who have strayed! I do feel having stuck to the programme that I have benefitted greatly from it & tend to post about this on my blog which a few read & comment on (which is encouraging!) but you cant read all blogs all the time!
    The diet is hardcore & there is no doubt about that and I think because of that people (exp after foundation) are bound to struggle with the monotony of the diet.
    Yes fp some people have strayed and come back; some have not but I guess we all have our own journey & some need more support than others at different stages. I for one could NOT have got this far without the support on here & am so thankful to people (yourself included) who have taken the time to post encouraging messages etc when needed!
    People are undoubtebly struggling but there are quite a few people who have been going a while & I guess its the nature of the beast! The weather doesent help cos, lets face it its meant to be summer!! Sunshine seems to have be transferred BIG time!! (not sure where but wish we could get it back!)...
    Anyway...sorry you feel its "boring", lacks insight etc - I cant say I agree to be honest & I have always found people to be supportive, honest and encouraging. Yes people cheat but they feel bad enough that they have without us all having a go as well! People make a choice and it is their choice to make & I for one have no intention of berating someone who has made a mistake but would prefer to help them back on track than having a go but maybe thats just me!
    Sorry waffly post but in short the challenge IS stiking to the diet & its tough going! Through the ups & downs, however dull that may seem! Anyway, thats my twopenneth!
     
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  6. Cerulean

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    I also have a theory that it's the down season for new joiners in that most LLCs take on new batches in January, then April after the new year influx have got through their 100 days then September (so that LLCs can go on holiday whilst their April joiners are just coming out of their 100 days but before the new joiners that need to get going before Christmas) so the mid summer is probably quite slow for the new blood coming through (Of course there are some counsellors kicking off groups all the time, but not quite enough)

    To be honest those of us that are coming up to 200 days are having a tough old time of it and I don't really have a lot to say other than 'am I done yet?' or any questions to ask. Also a lot of LLers are probably on holiday around about this time or spending the evenings off the internet enjoying the few moments of sun we seem to be getting this summer!

    Also due to the heavy nature of some of the stuff I am dealing with I am doing most of my writing on my blog as writing about it on here the posts get lost too easily and don't make an easily rereadable log of my thoughts and feelings.
     
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  7. KD

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    Blame it on the weather;)
     
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  8. Mrs Lard

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    Well, an interesting post, Fat Possum.

    I think that as we are dealing with addictive eating, there will be a lot of people struggling - that's the nature of dealing with addictions. And all addictions are...about something else so we've got to deal with the causes not just the symptoms somewhere.

    For the record, ISOM, I think the fact that you are still abstinent is nothing short of a miracle. You are tackling all sorts of demons, head on, and when you say"because I havent cheated and am definately in the minority but at times feel this is not celebrated by others who have strayed" I want to reassure you that this is NOT the case. Well, not here, anyway.

    I think it's that classic case of the brightest person in the class sometimes gets forgotten. Cerulean has also been super strong and the one time she strayed, as she concludes, she learnt a lot from it. ISOM - you have achieved perfection!!

    We all want to get to that happy stage where food is not dominating our lives - our thoughts, our fears, our actions - but also we want to feel that it is not so obvious for the world to see that we are not at peace with the drug of our choice! We all have got the same destination in mind; we're just getting there in different ways.

    Sorry, this post may not be much fun; this journey is a rollercoaster enough, to be honest, without feeling the need to don a Butlins red coat as I step into the minimins ring. In terms of inspiration, I think AJ's return from her cruise is pretty fab and a great boost for this week.

    To be honest, I am anything but bored and find minimins anything but...boring.

    Mrs Lxx
     
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  9. Curlygurl

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    Well I'm a newbie on here, and have spent lots of time reading, but haven't contributed yet, so maybe now is the time. I'm on week 4 of LL so still have a bit of a new girl 'buzz' about this. I'm loving the challenge. There have been moments when I thought 'is it really worth it?', but I look at the before and after photos and read some of the amazing blogs, and decide, yes, it is worth it. It's more than worth it. It's a golden opportunity and I'm not going to waste it. I can understand why other people lapse, and I might well be there myself. But it doesn't matter what other people do. you make the choice, you stick to your guns. There is no point being a martyr about it (Bit of a betrayal there of me lapsed catholic roots;))! So sod the weather and boo to the begrudgers. Keep smiling and keep in mind what it was that made you start this journey. For me it was the sight of the lovely funny Carole on Big Brother in her big baggy tee-shirts with her little pale legs and the realisation that unless I lost some weight now, that would be me. That I would go all the way through my adult life and I would never give myself the chance to feel properly lovely and proud of how I looked. I'll get me coat......
     
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  10. chunkychicken

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    FP - I think that I find this forum anything but boring. It has been a lifeline to me in some tough times. I find your post quite offputting as I always thought that this was the one place you could come and open up fully to those around you who would understand a lapse or struggle more than your average joe.
    It now seems that my struggles and lapses are just "boring" to you ...

    we should be expecting this of ourselves and eachother not just providing sympathy when one or us 'falls off the wagon' and .......... wait for it .......... 'piles on the pounds'. Isn't that little more than enabling behaviour?

    I completely disagree with this in particular. You are asking people to judge others where they have no right to. I personally find that coming on to the forum when I am struggling and just writing down what I feel or has happened... (thought records) helps me to work through my issue, especially with the wealth of personal experience the other members can add. I now feel as though you dissaprove of this behaviour and that I cannot post freely unless it is "upbeat"

    Sorry if you would consider this "jumping down your throat" but I feel very strongly about your post and I wonder if you understand that the way you phrased it has actually made me really uncomfortable about posting anything new at all - in case you consider it "boring" or "just listening to each other whinge and wallow".

    I would be interested in your take on this.
    Laura
     
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  11. Lottyfern

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    We are all individuals and need different support some because they find they are struggling some have had a WI and are pleased at what they have lost so like to post to have people say well done,this gets them through to the next week. I love to read the posts on here how people are coping (good and bad) I don't start many posts but like to reply and I thought I was giving support but if that is boring then I will in future just come on here and keep quiet:wave_cry:
     
  12. LENNY4974

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    If people come onto MiniMins and are too afraid to post in case someone else finds it boring..then there won't be a MiniMins.

    I love reading about everyone's diet journeys good or bad and I hope that some don't mind my waffle either.
     
  13. joh117

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    I am sorry that my posts might bore some people but I am struggling with management. I have my good days and I have what in my head are bads days.

    I didnt break abstinence in foundation or developers and I find posting my lapses help me. I was a secret binger in the past and now I am open and honest about what I have had that I shouldnt and that is a big step for me trying to become a weight holder rather than returning to my old ways.

    I find all posts encouraging and there are some great words of wisdom on this sight and without it I would find my journey even harder.

    I would like to hope some people find my posts helpful and informative too

    Where is the summer??? I moved back from Oz a year ago and now I am starting to wonder why!!!! Only joking I love being home and near my family but it would be nice to have a little bit of summer

    Jo
     
  14. sazzy34

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    wow Jo , just wanted to say you look fab.
     
  15. toot-toot2

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    I'm fairly new to both posting and LL (week 3 WI tomorrow). I have to admit to feeling quite put off by FatPossum's 'boring' thread. I regularly read posts to keep me motivated and love getting encouragement after posting my WI results each week. This is one of the things that makes this site SO supportive and special; I didn't realise that there were people using the site to be entertained!
    I say thanks to everyone for your support and I'll be back on tonight to post a 'boring' note to let the people that are interested how my WI goes (I know that's most of you;))
    I'm all for supporting everyone no matter what their post, we're all here for the same reason and with the help of each other we'll get there.
     
  16. joh117

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    Thanks for that I am pleased with my weight loss and the way I look when I say I am struggling I am fighting my rebellious child who I wish would just take a long earnt holiday and leave me in peace to get on the Adult mode of thinking LOL

    I have permission to eat and it is ensuring I eat the right food.

    OK wont sabotage this thread and will sign off

    Jo
     
  17. Goombagirl

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    I read this thread with interest as the feeling that "I'm boring" is one of the core beliefs that doing LL has made me identify and deal with. All I can say to those who feel put off posting by FP's comments is take no notice. Minimins is a great resource for those of us doing this crazy diet so don't let anyone spoil it for you. We've got enough to cope with without being made to feel boring!! FP is entitled to her opinion but that's all it is and I'm sure (and hope) she didn't mean to undermine anyone. If anyone wants to go a bit deeper into issues about food addiction etc I suggest they look at one or more of the excellent blogs on offer - I can thoroughly recommend Mrs Lard's!

    Keep posting everybody!:D
     
  18. Helen

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    I am thrilled to bits this week as I have now lost over 6 stone, however I didn't post it on minis because I thought it might sound like bragging and possibly no-one would be interested in me as I don't post that often. I do always think that my posts will be boring.

    I am in a pretty positive place and maybe I should have posted to say so.

    I do post when I need support and when I have had issues with "falling off the wagon" though. Maybe there is something in the saying "no news is good news", maybe more of us should realise that people ARE interested in our successes too.

    Personally I am interested in everyones story - if its positive then its inspiring. If someone is having a problem then even if its not something I can help with the responses off other people are interesting as is the reaction of the person posting the problem and it all helps me when I have a similar problem!
     
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    Fantastic Helen!! Bet your dead chuffed, and yes, you should broadcast it. It's an inspiration to others.

    Fab work :clap:
     
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    Never underestimate how people on here love to hear about the big goals being hit - the positive reinforcement to people who are struggling is so helpful - it's great to know taht you are in the company of people who have made the programme work for them. I underplay my successes as I confess I think sometimes 'Oh here she goes again, another bloody post about how fab she's feeling'! Which in a way is our chatterbox downplaying our successes - undermining all the fabulous work that we have done!
     
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    Thanks for those lovely comments!
     
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