Feeling guilty...what do I say?

Discussion in 'Slimming World Off Topic' started by lauratrev, 31 October 2011 Social URL.

  1. lauratrev

    lauratrev Silver Member

    Posts:
    539
    Likes Received:
    2
    Start Weight:
    21st0.5lb
    Current Weight:
    14st9lb
    Goal Weight:
    12st7lb
    Lost(%):
    6st5.5lb(30.39%)
    Diet:
    Slimming World
    Hi all,

    Im feeling a bit guilty and i dont know how to put it politely to my C.

    Shes asked me to fill in a SW questionnaire and i agreed thinking it was a general q and a piece of paper but it was 10 pages long and want to know the ins and outs of my weight loss journey, now i couldnt fill it in electronically so had to email it to tell her she couldnt have it in time to take to her meeting.

    My c replied to me to take it in at next WI as she wants to go to the local newspapers and magazine i really dont want to, if i was aware of this in the first place i would never of agreed i dont want to shout it to the world what i weighed before/ dress sizes etc especially when theres people out there i dont want to read my story.

    Just feel guilty as my C is brilliant and helped me make it this far and i know its probably a way for her to get more members.

    What do i say? x
     
  2. Avatar

    MiniMins.com Matched Content

  3. fillymum

    fillymum synful soul

    Posts:
    8,316
    Likes Received:
    161
    Start Weight:
    107kg
    Current Weight:
    85kg
    Goal Weight:
    79kg
    Lost(%):
    22kg(20.56%)
    Diet:
    Slimming World
    I am sure if you explain it to her exactly as you have explained to us , she will understand and not want to cause you any embarrassment or discomfort.

    It is far better to face her with the truth than an excuse.
     
  4. lauratrev

    lauratrev Silver Member

    Posts:
    539
    Likes Received:
    2
    Start Weight:
    21st0.5lb
    Current Weight:
    14st9lb
    Goal Weight:
    12st7lb
    Lost(%):
    6st5.5lb(30.39%)
    Diet:
    Slimming World
    Thanks fillymum!

    Its just that feeling of when you think of what your gonna say and then you say it and its comes out all wrong so at least i sound like im not going to offend her.

    i think its guilt as i know it would be a way of inviting members to join and any money coming in during these times is ideal.
     
  5. stillscrapping

    stillscrapping Full Member

    Posts:
    123
    Likes Received:
    3
    Start Weight:
    16st5lb
    Current Weight:
    14st9lb
    Goal Weight:
    13st8lb
    Lost(%):
    1st10lb(10.48%)
    Diet:
    Atkins Diet
    Maybe you could write down what you wanted to say first and then get it straight in your head before letting your mouth take over. I know it helps me when I am afraid of putting my foot in it or hurting someone's feelings. :)
     
  6. Shirleen

    Shirleen Gold Member

    Posts:
    5,605
    Likes Received:
    64
    Start Weight:
    21st12.5lb
    Current Weight:
    21st4lb
    Goal Weight:
    12st0lb
    Lost(%):
    0st8.5lb(2.77%)
    Diet:
    Slimming World
    I agree with Fillymum, just tell her as you have told us, she should have made it clear what she wanted!
     
  7. Starlight

    Starlight Gold Member

    Posts:
    37,910
    Likes Received:
    1,128
    Diet:
    Weight Watchers
    Id just be honest with her, to be honest I think her tactics are both sneaky and rude. She should never in a million years have asked you to fill that in without being upfront about it. To say to bring it in so she can pass it on is incredibly rude, at the very least she should be asking you do you want to do it? Was she going to go ahead and do it without telling you?
     
  8. JemmaBe

    JemmaBe Silver Member

    Posts:
    572
    Likes Received:
    6
    Diet:
    Slimming World
    NOTHING to feel guilty about.
    It's your money you've paid, and most importantly your journey. Your not a piece of marketing, it's actually your life.
    Never forget you are the customer as well..
     
  9. Lonestitcher

    Lonestitcher Silver Member

    Posts:
    900
    Likes Received:
    92
    My consultant gave me one of these too. I took it home, read it and decided that I wasn't ready for the rest of the world to know my story. I just took the blank questionnaire back to my consultant and explained to him that since I still have quite a way to go to target, I wouldn't be comfortable for everyone in my group to know my weight, since I was still on my journey.

    Being honest, I've been here since September 2009 and STILL haven't entered any stats... and I don't know any of you in the outside world!!!
     
  10. bilsat

    bilsat Really likes to cook

    Posts:
    3,158
    Likes Received:
    65
    Start Weight:
    18st11.5lb
    Current Weight:
    11st9.5lb
    Goal Weight:
    11st11.5lb
    Lost(%):
    7st2lb(37.95%)
    Badges:
    Maintainer
    Diet:
    Slimmers World
    If I was given that questionnaire I wouldn't mind filling it in, remember that if only one more person joins and looses weight then it may save their life!
    I got the message after having two strokes,and now I can reduce all the tablets I used to have and on Wednesday I expect to come off all of them, my blood pressure was very high before I started SW and now is low, I feel healthier, fitter and I believe I can have an extended life from my previous life!
    I didn't have to tell other people my weight as it was obvious I was overweight.....
    Pete
     
    jaylou likes this.
  11. kerryathome

    kerryathome Silver Member

    Posts:
    1,476
    Likes Received:
    11
    Start Weight:
    13st11lb
    Current Weight:
    10st10lb
    Goal Weight:
    10st10lb
    Lost(%):
    3st1lb(22.28%)
    Badges:
    Maintainer
    Diet:
    Slimming World
    its your journey hun and you can only share it when you're good and ready, I understand that it would be a good marketing tool for her but you are not a marketing tool.

    Just tell her you're not ready to share with the world your story and she should understand, can't imagine margaret miles-bramwell wanting to make someone feel uncomfortable about her weight loss.

    Be strong xx
     
  12. jaylou

    jaylou Gold Member

    Posts:
    10,819
    Likes Received:
    380
    I was also given one of these when I got to target a long time ago and I declined to fill it in.
    Yes, you are being used as promotion for SW and the consultants group, but is that really a bad thing? You are a success story and your consultant will be pleased she has a successful member, there are many of us who just "play at it" (me being one for the last few months!).

    I wouldn't be upset or offended by it, just explain that you don't want publicity.

    Ultimately she is in business and any success story will be good for business. Just tell her you are a private person and would rather your story not be made public.
     
  13. AnnaFaraday

    AnnaFaraday ..

    Posts:
    2,562
    Likes Received:
    46
    You really shouldn't feel guilty. Your personal information is just that - personal - and it is up to you to decide how much or how little you share with other people.

    Getting stories into the local press is the best form of "advertising" - it is free and reaches more people than conventional averts. That is why consultants are encouraged by SW HQ to get as many stories into local newspapers as possible.

    Can you compromise - tell your consultant that you don't mind some information going into the local press, but you want to control exactly what is said?
     
  14. Maximus

    Maximus Gold Member

    Posts:
    4,184
    Likes Received:
    68
    Start Weight:
    17st7lb
    Current Weight:
    10st10lb
    Goal Weight:
    10st5lb
    Lost(%):
    6st11lb(38.78%)
    Diet:
    Slimming World - The one that works!
    Bah Humbug!

    Nobody gave me one to fill in when I reached my target(s):cry:

    Maybe third time lucky if I reach my 3rd target?

    I'm delighted to share with the world;):eek:
     
  15. Leapfrog

    Leapfrog Champion actifryer

    Posts:
    1,856
    Likes Received:
    47
    Start Weight:
    84kg
    Current Weight:
    71.5kg
    Goal Weight:
    65kg
    Lost(%):
    12.5kg(14.9%)
    Diet:
    Slimming World
    Show off :D
     
  16. lauratrev

    lauratrev Silver Member

    Posts:
    539
    Likes Received:
    2
    Start Weight:
    21st0.5lb
    Current Weight:
    14st9lb
    Goal Weight:
    12st7lb
    Lost(%):
    6st5.5lb(30.39%)
    Diet:
    Slimming World
    Thanks for all your advice and views :). I managed to tell my consultant i wasnt comfortable completing the questionnaire as i really didnt want it in the paper. My C replied she doesnt want it for the paper but for a meeting at the weekend???

    Ive left it for now im not going to do it as im not 100% convinced where its going, whose going to see it and what they plan on doing with it.

    When and if im ready when im at target i may think about writing to SW direct and attempt to get my story in the mag but I doubt I will just not comfortable sharing my personal journey.

    X
     
  17. kerryathome

    kerryathome Silver Member

    Posts:
    1,476
    Likes Received:
    11
    Start Weight:
    13st11lb
    Current Weight:
    10st10lb
    Goal Weight:
    10st10lb
    Lost(%):
    3st1lb(22.28%)
    Badges:
    Maintainer
    Diet:
    Slimming World
    well done for talking to her, and well done for being brave and sticking to your guns.

    one day the time may come that you are ready to share but thats your decision alone.

    xx
     
  18. Avatar

    MiniMins.com Advert

  19. Shirleen

    Shirleen Gold Member

    Posts:
    5,605
    Likes Received:
    64
    Start Weight:
    21st12.5lb
    Current Weight:
    21st4lb
    Goal Weight:
    12st0lb
    Lost(%):
    0st8.5lb(2.77%)
    Diet:
    Slimming World
    Hmm she doesnt sound too trustworthy I think you're right! Well done for standing up for yourself xxx
     
  20. Maddysmum

    Maddysmum Gold Member

    Posts:
    3,238
    Likes Received:
    12
    Start Weight:
    13st10lb
    Current Weight:
    12st2.5lb
    Goal Weight:
    10st1lb
    Lost(%):
    1st7.5lb(11.2%)
    Diet:
    Slimming World
    Why would she need a particular form filling in if only for a meeting??? She may take it to her meeting, but her boss my have had other ideas so well done for standing up for yourself.
     
Popular Forums
  1. MiniMins.com is a weight loss support community helping each other on their weight loss journey. We have a multitude of forums, from Slimming World and Exante, to Success Stories. Click the logo at the top right to return to the forum home page at any time.
Loading...