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batlo8

Full Member
S: 17st4lb C: 15st8lb G: 11st0lb Loss: 1st10lb(9.92%)
#2
Oh no :( I'm so sorry hun. I know it's so hard, broke up with my fiance not so long ago. It is an awful time but you'll be ok in time sweetie xxx
 
S: 16st5lb C: 13st1lb G: 11st7lb BMI: 27.8 Loss: 3st4lb(20.09%)
#3
((((BIG HUGS ABBIE))))

Is it possible the problem can be solved?
You really have done so well, with the diet and the smoking, PLEASE don't go back now...
I too am an ex smoker so i know how hard the temptation is, but you will regret it in the long run... Although it doesn't have the same attraction, drink some water, have a bath, go to bed early... anything so you don't undo all your hard work x x x

I hope you can sort your relationship hun (if you want to that is) or find a way of moving forwards that is not going to have a negative effect x x x

We are all here for you x ♥ x ♥ x ♥ x
 
S: 14st8.0lb C: 14st8.0lb G: 10st8.0lb BMI: 32.9 Loss: 0st0lb(0%)
#4
Hope things work out for you xx
 

Jayne33

Fighting for My Health
S: 20st12.4lb C: 17st7.5lb G: 11st0lb BMI: 39.6 Loss: 3st4.9lb(16.04%)
#6
Sorry to hear that :( Some wise words there from Su. Take care of yourself hun xx
 

SandraB

Gold Member
S: 13st12lb C: 12st7lb G: 10st7lb BMI: 29.1 Loss: 1st5lb(9.79%)
#7
Oh sweetheart that's awful....I hope that you can work it out especially with a tiny baby.....

Neither eating, drinking or smoking are going to make things any better though, can you go and stay with a friend, your parents maybe? You shouldn't be on your own at the moment. X
 

Ella Belle

Silver Member
S: 13st1lb C: 11st3lb G: 9st0lb BMI: 26.9 Loss: 1st12lb(14.21%)
#8
xxx

Abbie, I'm so sorry. It's a horrible feeling but you're not on your own. Please, try as hard as you can not to smoke, I've made that mistake before after breakups and truthfully it just doesn't help a all..what will help is you feeling strong and you are strong, you have to be to do a diet like this and be a Mum to a little baby, so embrace that as much as you can. We're all here for you, :gen126:
 

Miss Mango

Little Miss Wii Fit!
S: 14st1lb C: 12st7lb G: 8st13lb BMI: 29.1 Loss: 1st8lb(11.17%)
#11
Aww my goodness, I'm so sorry to hear that hun. I don't usually come in this section but I saw the title of your thread and wanted to see what was wrong. Its always so sad and upsetting when a relationship breaks up, especially when there are little ones involved. I know its really hard and upsetting but please don't back track on ANY of your achievements hun, you will only regret it in the long run and its only something else to make you feel even worse.
Think of add the progress you've made and try to think of the baby and everything thats best for him - if you're feeling really down go and be around people who care about you, family or friends.
I'm sending you a big virtual hug and I'm wishing you all the luck with everything, I do hope that things turn out right for you in the end - its no ones business but your own about your fiancee but I do hope that things work out in the best way possible as soon as possible so that you can get yourself back on track.

Look after yourself hun. Lots of love xxxx
 

XxAbbiexX23

Dieting & Mummy To Ethan
S: 18st3lb C: 18st3lb G: 10st0lb BMI: 49.8 Loss: 0st0lb(0%)
#12
Thank you everyone, it was me that ended it because things have just been so rubbish lately, even after me seeking counselling to try and get help with things, I just realised things are never going to change and I had reached my limit with trying.
I felt it was taking too much of my time, feeling sad and arguing when my time should be solely on my son.

Things are weird at the moment but I guess they will be for a while. Just hope things don't completely blow up!
 

Miss Mango

Little Miss Wii Fit!
S: 14st1lb C: 12st7lb G: 8st13lb BMI: 29.1 Loss: 1st8lb(11.17%)
#13
So sorry to hear that hun. I think you've been really brave to end it, its a very difficult decision to make especially when you have your baby too. I'm wishing you all the very best and I'm hoping that your life will get back on track as soon as possible, please take care and just take one day at a time. I hope everything will turn out just how you want them to and well done for being so brave too, it sounds like you've done a lot of thinking about it and have come to the best conclusion at the moment.
Keep strong! Lots of love xxx
 
S: 16st5lb C: 13st1lb G: 11st7lb BMI: 27.8 Loss: 3st4lb(20.09%)
#14
Thank you everyone, it was me that ended it because things have just been so rubbish lately, even after me seeking counselling to try and get help with things, I just realised things are never going to change and I had reached my limit with trying.
I felt it was taking too much of my time, feeling sad and arguing when my time should be solely on my son.

Things are weird at the moment but I guess they will be for a while. Just hope things don't completely blow up!

I hope you are really really proud of yourself Abbie... What you have done is completely selfless, and you have acted in the best interests of your son.
Whatever the outcome, you are a wonderful person, (obviously) a fantastic Mum, and life will surely turn out better for you...
Love and hugs hun x x x
 

SSusee

Full Member
S: 15st10lb C: 13st8lb G: 10st0lb BMI: 32.6 Loss: 2st2lb(13.64%)
#15
Hi Abbie
What a positive person you must be. To take the stand as you did in the circumstances means you are in control of the situation. Women are very vulnerable in the first year after having a baby and sometimes feel they have to put up with things as they focus on the baby. You have controlled your situation and you are also in control of whether you smoke or leave your diet - continue to be positive and stay on the diet & don't have a cigarette. I say you are a brave and positive person. Stay that way.
 

batlo8

Full Member
S: 17st4lb C: 15st8lb G: 11st0lb Loss: 1st10lb(9.92%)
#16
Thank you everyone, it was me that ended it because things have just been so rubbish lately, even after me seeking counselling to try and get help with things, I just realised things are never going to change and I had reached my limit with trying.
I felt it was taking too much of my time, feeling sad and arguing when my time should be solely on my son.

Things are weird at the moment but I guess they will be for a while. Just hope things don't completely blow up!
It seems like you are really taking control of your life at the moment hun and although a break up is a horrible thing you must be so strong minded at the moment to have made so many life changes all at once.

To quit smoking, start a hardcore diet like this, become a mum and finish a relationship shows huge strength of character. You are obviously making all the necessary changes to your life and I am sure all this will lead to a much happier you in the long run :) xx
 
S: 16st5lb C: 13st1lb G: 11st7lb BMI: 27.8 Loss: 3st4lb(20.09%)
#17
Well said Lois! x x x
 

batlo8

Full Member
S: 17st4lb C: 15st8lb G: 11st0lb Loss: 1st10lb(9.92%)
#18
I thought so! lol! xx
 

XxAbbiexX23

Dieting & Mummy To Ethan
S: 18st3lb C: 18st3lb G: 10st0lb BMI: 49.8 Loss: 0st0lb(0%)
#19
Well I'll keep muddling through, thought my resolve on all 3 counts was going to weaken but I kept strong through all of them.
I feel horrible but what else can I do when he is unwilling to address the fact I'm so unhappy and have been for a while.
*sigh* Oh well, I'll keep sipping those shakes. He won't know what he's lost til it's gone and he see's a new me in a few months.
 

SandraB

Gold Member
S: 13st12lb C: 12st7lb G: 10st7lb BMI: 29.1 Loss: 1st5lb(9.79%)
#20
Abbie, you've just had a new baby and you're doing the hardest diet in the world, of course, you're going to feel unhappy! Was your relationship good before the baby? don't throw everything away if it was....have you spoken to your doctor? it occurs to me that you could actually be suffering from post-natal depression. I've never had children myself but I know from friends how difficult it is to bring up a baby as a single mother even though it seems to be a choice for many young women these days. Sorry if I've said too much and sound like your mother but we're all worried about you sweetheart x
 


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