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  1. LV30

    LV30 Gold Member

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    I didn't know what to call this thread... dispair; desperation; hopelessness... really, i can't think of the words to describe how i'm feeling, and what i'm putting myself through.

    I have been totally cr*p on this plan. I have really good intentions but i can't seem to stick at it - at all. I know we've had Easter and a wonderful long weekend - but I think these are just excuses for me to go mad... Well i don't mean to go mad - it just happens.

    I've known for a long time i can't be trusted around food. I'm seriously thinking of maybe going to my GP to see what he can suggest because I can't go on like this. I try really hard and then I go and sabortage myself. I'm really finding it difficult.

    I'm so glad there's minimins so that I can come on here and say these things. I think i'm going mad and i feel totally out of control.

    I'm embarrased to go and weigh tomorrow because I know i've put on. But if i don't go I know that will be it. I will just eat and eat and eat, and I will be in a worse place. Again.

    I think i'm better doing something like the Cambridge diet, where I know that food is taken completely out of the equation. But i can't afford to do that at the moment AND i know it's not a long term solution. I do have to eat. Eventually.

    I've always known i have a problem around food, but now its dictacting my life - the way I feel and act and it's getting me down.

    Really sorry for the moan. I've just had it.

    Lx
     
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  3. livi

    livi Committed Loser

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    Hey Lynn! I'm going to weigh in tonight in exactly the same position as you. Try a food diary, meal planning before you go shopping and only buying what is on your meal plan. If it's not there you can't have it. Another good thing to do is have a buddy who you can facebook, text or call before you succumb. Just wish I could follow my own advice! Chin up! Positive attitude can lead to a flat stomach, allegedly ;)
     
  4. jaylou

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    I am the same hun. Start out after WI with the best of intentions, plan my meals, buy all good food and am full of inspiration.
    Then I have been known to drive to Tesco at 9pm to buy a bag of sweets - why???

    We seem to self sabotage and there's not much of an explanation. It is said that all good diets start in the head and it is so true.

    We can only do this ourselves. I know I shouldn't eat pizza or sweets or crisps and dips and I know I can call my friends up who will talk me out of it, I still do it though because I want to.

    We can also lose the weight and stick to plan if we want to. It's a matter of focus.

    Not sure if this has helped at all but I'm trying to say that you are not the only one, but for me, there's no one else who can help as it's all in my head!

    *hugs*
     
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    Hi LV,

    So sorry you're struggling, you'll not be the only one dreading going to weigh in tomorrow, see it as a chance to draw a line under it all and not a stick to beat yourself with.

    The advice to write a shopping list is a good one, try and write a list of the things you would normally succumb to and then find (probably on here) advice and recipes to replace the things you'll go mad on.

    Do you have support from family and friends? Are you just cooking for yourself or do you live with other people as well?

    The other week I had a gain and I went in a huff with myself and didn't stay to group. I wish I had cos thats what group is there for. Maybe speaking to your consultant might help she might have some tips or there may be another person in your group struggling too and you can be buddied up and help each other.

    Good luck xx
     
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    Hi LV30

    I don't have any real advice, but I don't like to read and run so big hugs to you.....sorry you feel so down.

    I totally agree with all the advice above, we all have moments like it....it's part of the journey.

    Definitely suggest going to class, even with a gain. Draw a line and carry on. You can do this, make a list of the foods you luurve/crave and then plan a week making sure you fit these foods in (as syns, hexa/b's) So you don't have to miss out. Even if you go over, stick with it in basic until you are ready to face it again.

    Don't let it beat you, we all support you on here. You can do it :)
     
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    me too had a gain of 1 lb stayed to group though but just got more and more annoyed as it went on and everyone was saying how bad they'd been but had still lost 3 and a half! So I promptly went home and had a pepperoni pizza and half a box of malteasers. Then had family visiting so all went to mothers for buffet tea, had good intentions & ate salad and meat, but then spied the garlic bread and polished off 2 slices, plus a bottle of lager, iced bun & a chocolate cake.
    Then because the family where here till Monday and we were having a day out Sunday, decided on Sat had nothing to lose so had 2 bags of crisps & a packet of buttons.
    Then On day out Sunday there wasn't any food I liked so I ended up having a packet of sherbert strawberries, and half a bar of chocolate & then 2 99 ice creams, by the time we got home I was starving & had chippie tea.
    Yesterday was meaning to get back on track but was helping my auntie move house, then at 6 o'clock last night realised I hadn't eaten so went to burger king :eek:
    I have also had numerous cans of coke.
    Anyway I'm back on track as from today even though it's too late for this weeks WI on Thursday, but this is just a blip now I'll get my head back where it should be a carry on.
    It really is all in the mind 7 wish I could be more help, but I've tried in the past & never had any success, but this time I just buckled down & did it I just knew it was the right time
     
  8. LV30

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    Thank you all. I know i can come on here and you know what I'm talking about. I do have support from family and friends (but they can't phyisically wrestle food out of my sweaty little hands - and anyway, i don't stuff my face in front of others - they don't see half of what goes on...).

    I was going to say that this is going to sound extreme - but i don't it is extreme - I think i need to see a counsellor about my feelings around food. I eat when i'm happy/sad/indifferent/bored/busy... i can eat constantly. So what the hell is wrong with me??

    I just text my consultant and she is lovely and encouraging. She said I can come and maybe not weigh (i wont have to pay) if I don't feel like it, but come to image therapy and have a chat and maybe try success express next week. I need to do something.

    I know I can talk a good diet... it's putting it into practice i'm having major problems with at the moment.

    I'm finding it so tough and I'm just making it harder for myself.

    Oh, and i'm pretty sure I'm suffering with bi-polar (self diagnosed on the interweb), and I'm not jesting when I'm saying this. But i feel so down... and them some days I feel on top of the world. I know I'm simplifying the way i feel, but something isn't quite right.

    Where's that counsellor?

    Lx
     
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    Get yourself to the doctor hunny that's why they're there, maybe they can either give you some medication to help you feel better and/or counselling.
    Good luck x
     
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    Good luck LV - i think i will always battle the food demons, but it sounds like you might need some counselling help - and i hope you get past your current issues.

    When i have had a bad week, or feel like 'whats the point' i make sure i plan all my meals to include food i love. I am a bit of a cheese beast, so i have red days so i get 2 lots of 42g of low low! i have cheese on anything - even know to have it on veggies!!!! I also love chicken, proper juicy beef steaks, minced beef, weetabix and hams - so i stock up and then it all seems a bit nicer than a limp salad with some extra rubbish light mayo on! That way i am tricking my brain into thinking i am being off plan - when i am not.

    Good luck with everything xxx
     
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    I agree with Leigh - I know it's nerve-wracking to go to the doctors and talk about stuff like this, but that's what they're there for. If you feel you need some help, there is no need to be ashamed. Your doctor will have heard it all before! *hugs*
     
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    I a firm believer in tricking your brain, I have 100mls of wine each night in my 'mid' week glass. I could have 100mls in my usual weekend glass but then I wouldn't be having a full glass:confused:

    I can't begin to understand how you feel but we are all here to help you lose the weight you want to.

    If you live alone just buy in SW friendly foods, if you're unsure what to buy take a look at the 'share your weekly shopping' thread for ideas. Also take a look at the food diaries for yummy meal ideas.

    Try & change the way you feel about food, at the moment you seem to be wanting to eat all in sight.

    Put all the syns in box out of sight & only go there once or twice a day.

    If you're hungry eat, but if you're not hungry but want to eat do something else, eg brush your teeth, paint your nails, have a bath etc
     
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