Help and Support Needed x

[CodeNameSkinnyMinnie]

2013 is my year! I've be been big since childhood. I was always the slightly overweight child, then I lost my only sibling when I was 9. Now, there are groups to support grieving kids but back then (nearly 30 years ago) they didn't exist. I did a lot of comfort eating.
Add to that parents who rewarded, comforted & quietened me with food & I'm left with a habit built over 3 decades which is so difficult to break.
I have never been anything other than big so I don't have those 'thin' pics to put on the fridge to inspire me. I have no idea what thin feels like.
But now I have a beautiful daughter and a wonderful husband who believe that I can do this despite previous failed attempts. I am ready to change for me.
It is time to stop blaming my genes. My upbringing. The fact my husband loves me 'as I am'. The fact I've always been overweight. That I'm lazy & I love my food! And I'm big boned!
All just excuses. 07/01/13 is my start date. I need all the help & support I can get.
2013 is my year.

 

[BingoBango]

I am a newbie too (just joined today) and I need support just like you. Hopefully we can support each other, because as we both know - this weightloss business can be tough!

 

[CodeNameSkinnyMinnie]

Thank you. I hope so too. Starting on 7th because we have family staying until then, also it'll be my first day back at work so into a routine. I can not wait! When do you start?

 

[BingoBango]

I started today. Ate so much over Xmas that I could hardly look at myself in the mirror (literally). What diet are you going to follow? I am going try a combination of WeightWatchers and JUDDD as an experiment.

 

[CodeNameSkinnyMinnie]

I'm going for a VLCD - torn between Exante and Slim &Save at the moment. Will order a months supply in the next couple of days so will make a decision shortly. Guess I'll try one for the first month and the other for the second, then I can see if I have a preference or keep swapping for variety. Good luck with yours now- I'm actually jealous I'm not starting. But with visitors and New Year, I don't want to set myself up to fail. Be good to hear how you get on!

 

[BingoBango]

I know what you mean. The festive season is always a terrible time for any dieter. Luckily my New Year is going to be very quiet so I hope there won't be too much temptation. I'll be rooting for you - 2013 is going to be a great year for us!

 

[CodeNameSkinnyMinnie]

Thank you. I'll be rooting for us too!

 

[REV23]

Welcome and good luck!!!

How much weight are you aiming to lose?

 

[CodeNameSkinnyMinnie]

Thank you. 6 1/2 stone :-( Seems so much but I'll take it 7lbs at a time.

 

[porkscratching]

Thank you. 6 1/2 stone :-( Seems so much but I'll take it 7lbs at a time.

Hi - just deal with it a pound at a time, it soon mounts up. When I get to goal I'll have lost over 6 stone and there are plenty of people on here that have done twice that and more.
It can be done, as well as the actual diet I think dealing with the emotional stuff is really important. Whether therapy, hypnosis, just reading some books - it's easier to make the changes when your focused. Good luck - you can do it.

 

[CodeNameSkinnyMinnie]

Thanks. Definitely agree one step at a time. I have had some counselling over the last 18 months or so to address the issues I have, and the reasons I turn to food. I think that is why I feel so much more positive than I ever have before about getting there. My goal, where before was like an impossible mountain, now sends quite achievable. Something in my attitude has changed

 

[porkscratching]

Thanks. Definitely agree one step at a time. I have had some counselling over the last 18 months or so to address the issues I have, and the reasons I turn to food. I think that is why I feel so much more positive than I ever have before about getting there. My goal, where before was like an impossible mountain, now sends quite achievable. Something in my attitude has changed

Once you get that shift in attitude you're quite literally unstoppable as losing the weight is more important than anything else. It's the best and most important start - once you stay in the zone you'll be fine.