Most trying week so far.

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  1. scooper

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    Last Wednesday we all agreed in group that this was one the hardest time for us yet. We are a mixed group of twelve with some about to start week 10, myself and others about to start week 9, and the rest in week 8. Three of the women have admitted having something to eat, with one of them actually having a curry the night before. Another had a steak dinner when they were away. One woman is going away and said she was going to eat. While there is another woman going away saying she's going to eat because all inclusive hotel.
    The group talked as a whole about how difficult it seems to be on the straight and narrow and that all we could think about was having something nice to eat. Not anything bad, just a nice salad or something healthy for most of us. It just seems so strange that all of the sudden we all are feeling hungry or wanting to eat. I know it's probably emotional hunger,but it's still disheartening to know that other's are eating freely while the rest of us are sniffing people's food just for that bit of gratification derived from it.

    Why now though? I feel like there's an great burden on my shoulders that I can't drop.I bought some new clothes yesterday and was so frustrated when the size twenty white linen pants from Asda were still a to tight over the stomach while the other two same sized pants I bought fit just fine.

    I have had a couple of bad weeks with weight loss, but overall 33lbs in 8 weeks is a great. I am determined to SS until July when we go to the States for a three week holiday. I still have 78lbs to lose. I just would love to have one meal though. I just can't bring myself to put anything to my mouth and I found it upsetting that other's in my group could just do it.

    I keep looking at other people's blogs and pictures and I just find myself comparing my weight loss to theirs and feeling inadequate. I know everyone has their own journey. Has anyone else experienced anything like this?:wave_cry:
     
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  3. In search of me

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    [​IMG] Aww big hugs scooper. I'm only on week 3 so unsure but want wanted to send a hang in there - you are SOOOO close & have come soo far! Also remember that your body needs you to reintroduce food slowly - its not used to it!!





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  4. sonkie

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    Just think though if you stay on ssing you will still be losing weight, they will be disappointed when they stay the same or more likely put on....just think how smug you will feel for sticking with it throughout. They will be jealous of your will power.

    Be strong, I know only too well how hard it is when you hear of others eating but you will complete your journey quicker than the others.

    Good luck !
     
  5. katie_oxo

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    Stick with it Scooper, the more you eat the less quickly you're going to lose your weight and reach your goal.

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    OH MY GOD!!! I'm a week in front of you but i have been feeling like this for nearly a week now and i have been wondering exactly the same....why now?????
    As for comparing your weight loss, i do this as well but you have actually made me feel better about it because it looks like we had roughly same amount of weight to loose and we have lost about same allowing for my extra week!
    I'm now in a 20 too and i can't wait to buy clothes in the 'teens!!!
    It has really picked up my mood to read your post. I hope it helps you to know someone else in such a similiar position.
    Thank you so much

    Christina x
     
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    I understand and sympathise so much.

    I'm on CD and I have great times and very trying times - we all do, I think. Lack of food, lack of 'regular, ordinary' meals, seems to make me very depressed. And this depression often gets the better of me.

    I worry about the concept of others being 'jealous', because no matter which VLCD or diet plan you follow this is YOUR journey as an individual. To regard your fellow-slimmers as competitors can be dangerous, and can be counter-productive. We should be supporting each other, not competing.

    Only being able to sniff food! Ah, yes. I've done that for YEARS on various weight loss plans. At Easter or Christmas or family celebrations and anniversaries everyone else seems free to tuck into wonderful full meals and desserts and goodies and yes, you DO feel deprived.

    But you want to lose weight, you have made a commitment to YOURSELF that you will lose weight, so you try your best not to cheat. There will be blips along the way, but in the end, if you keep your eye on the prize, you'll get there.

    I wish you, and all dieters here, so, so much luck, and the strength to keep going.
     
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    I think when you hear that others are 'cheating' it does send you a bit bonkers! I read on a thread elsewhere that many people were considering going onto WW or SW after foundation and it really threw me! Started to really think about it and for a moment I'd convinced myself that it was the answer!! (It so isn't the answer for me :D)

    As I'm about start week 8 I'm definitely feeling the mid foundation itch too. Those first few weeks are so full of practical stuff and then you hit this point and it just starts to feel very different. Isn't it weird that the weight loss is not the be all and end all? I mean, noticing my weight loss, getting lots of lovely compliments, throwing most of my wardrobe away and getting into smaller sized jeans is all *fantastic*, but when those wobbles hit all of that seems to fade quite a bit!

    I think it's just pure determination that is keeping me going. I've spent the last few days really fantasising about specific food - and I've not done this at all in the first 6 weeks. It does feel a bit scary but not enough to make me cave in. I am determined I will not give in!
     
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    I'm on week 6 and cheated"myself" only last week. I lost any way but not really as much as I wanted to. Got back on track this week really struggle some days but then when I see my clothes getting too big it really is an incentive to keep going keep it up not long now think of those size 10 jeans:D
     
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    Hi Scooper, hope you are getting along fine, and avoiding the food. Be strong, we all know how hard it can be mentally, but you have to keep thinking you will be at goal before those that eat......and boy wont that make you feel good.

    Keep up your excellent work.
     
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    Thanks everyone. I just guess I was having one of those "grumpy" days. I definitely haven't touched normal food and I am determined not too. I know that I am stronger than those weak moments of just wondering why I can't have a small bite. If I can stop smoking I can do this.
     
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    Well done Scooper, you've got the right attitude and you sound really strong and focussed. Your bmi must be a great inspiration to you - going from the 40's to the 30's ..... you'll soon be in the 20's :)

    Stay strong

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    Scooper, I am in week 8 and feeling just the same. However, the support on here is phenomenal, not only that but you have shown you have the strength by just sniffing!! (which is exactly what I have done!!)

    You want the end result much more than you want the food, dont you? I know I do.

    We can put up with a few down days, its not forever and wont we feel great at the end of this journey when we reach the size/bmi or whatever we are aiming for.

    Hang in there, chick. We are all rooting for each other!! Jump onto Minis if you need help, you'll find it here! I know I did!!
     
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    Well done for staying strong!

    You will find that the ladies who have eaten will find it increasingly difficult to stick to the plan, their losses will slow and some (not all) will give up. I speak from experience here.

    Stay strong, you've already shown how amazing your will power is, don't let anyone or anything stop you!

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    This forum always gives me the strength and inspiration to keep going. I really am glad that I am not alone on this journey and other people truly understand what I am feeling. It's like the old saying about walking a mile in someone else's shoes. I believe that we have all walked in each others. What gives me strength isI just know I'm not going to spend a week in Vegas and the Grand Canyon wearing my granny panties and elasticated trousers in 120 degree August heat! I am desparate to have another child through IVF too and if it's meant to be, it's up to me.
    Now we are off for a walk somewhere around the Peak District so they can have a lovely picnic and I can eat my Fruit bar. Lovely way to spend Easter :).
     
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    Have a lovely day scooper x
     
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    Hi Scooper!

    HUGE WELL DONE to you for overcoming the temptations. You will reap the rewards! Having cheated a while ago and struggled to get back on the wagon ever since, I can honestly say I wish I had had your strength and never taken that first bite!

    You have inspired me to start SSing again as of NOW! I was gonna have an Easter roast today and then start tomorrow but I now realise that it is about my personal journey, and I have to stop kidding myself that one more day wont hurt, and get on with it!!

    xx
     
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    Well done Wannabslim, that's a big step to take today of all days. Have a good day and remember that we're all here for you :)

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    Yes! Exactly! A lovely way to spend a Holiday that usually involves eating far too much food.

    To 'normal weight' people the thought of elasticated trousers probably means, ah, comfort. No tight waistband.

    To us 'elasticated waist' generally means FAT! Having said that, they are comfy...

    I have two stones to lose. Once I had eleven and a half stones to lose. My BMI is now 27. I won't be having any chocolate eggs today, and no doubt when night falls I will struggle with my usual bedtime hunger. I get hungry a lot, to be honest, but like the rest of us I do my best to fight it.

    You're doing so well, and deserve to feel great, yet as you said when the wobbles come we forget the joy. Losing weight doesn't solve every life problem - it just means that we have one less MAJOR drain on our emotional and physical resources. Often we overeat as a response to the sorrows - and joys - of life. When our coping mechanism is taken away we can get very stressed. But we're learning, and growing, and getting better.

    HAPPY EASTER EVERYONE!
     
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    YAY to you, too, wannabeslim!

    I wish you strength and determination, today and every day.
     
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    We had a change of plans and went to Clumber Park instead with the in-laws. What a great day it was. I was so happy to be out in the sunshine and I only felt one pang of envy as they had their picnic and I had my lovely bar and water. The walk around was great(please add more toilets along the trails!) and I had a long think and talk about my weight with Mother In Law and I'm all sorted with a stop date of July 21 until I get back from the Holiday.
    I've reread this thread and had a smile on my face the whole time. I'm glad that it's gave someone else the push to get going again and I know I certainly have the to go on for another 15 weeks.
     
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