Really struggling .......

[nicowz13]

It's day 7 and up till yesterday was a breeze but omg my head is playing games with me!

It's trying to rationalise that of course I can eat, why am I doing this stupid diet, just eat and go to the gym like normal people!

But I know all I would eat today would be everything I'm craving for, biscuits as many as I could possibly eat, which I know would prob be only a few coz I know they will for a second make me feel better but then instantly feel sick and ashamed
But then in feeling ashamed eat like it was last day on earth, how do I know this? I've done it before did manage 13 weeks 100% on cd few years ago so I know it can be done and yes nearly put it all back on again coz I went back to my old eating habits

So why in knowing how I wouldn't go to the gym and that this diet does work am I fighting in my head, I nearly caved last night but didn't but now I have all day to fight with my head!

I'm not hungry at all arghhhh wish I could turn my head off for a few days lol

Please everyone I need telling!!!!

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[Alex_1978]

Aww, I'm sorry to hear you're feeling like this, but I remember that feeling well. I had the same thoughts all the way through my first couple of weeks on Exante, but they were strongest on days one and two. It really is amazing how you can be so motivated and determined one minute, but then the mind games start and you start seriously doubting the choices that you felt so strongly about when you placed your order for the products.
I think I was so determined not to cheat, because I was afraid of what would happen if I did. What if I got away with it? Would that mean I'd start cheating daily? What if I didn't get away with it? What if I had a bad loss, or struggled to get back into ketosis? All those questions meant that I was too scared to deviate from the plan at all - not even to the point of having protein 'treats'. I've relaxed a little now, but still don't ever allow myself anything non-ketosis friendly, because I don't really want to know what the consequences are.


So, you wanted telling, so I'm telling you.
- Food is NOT an option - ketosis is hard to get into, so you are not going to sacrifice that.
- The main benefit of this diet is losing a LOT of weight in a short space of time - eating will slow this down and you won't get the same buzz when you get on the scales
- You can't afford to be spending £25 per week on Exante products, and not give it 100%
- You are in ketosis, so this probably isn't physical hunger. Tell yourself that this is just a psychological craving that will pass. Find something else to disract your mind in the meantime.
- Think how proud you'll be in a couple of days if you stay strong and let this particular phase pass, as opposed to how you'd feel if you caved in.
- Remember how you felt the last time you did CD - how much weight you lost and how strong and determined you were to stay 100%
- Tell yourself that the food will still be there at the end of the diet, you are just choosing not to have it right at this moment.
- Remember other times when you vowed to go to the gym/eat healthily, and didn't do as well as you would have liked.
- Tell yourself that this is a choice that you have made, nobody else is banning food, you have chosen to abstain because you know you can succeed on Exante and be the weight that you want and deserve to be!

Sorry if that sounds bossy/harsh, it's meant in a tongue-in-cheek 'tough love' way, but I know that sometimes tone of voice doesn't come accross very well in the written word!
Hope you manage to get through it - stay strong, and keep posting. Minis is a great distraction in itself!

x

 

[evil weevil]

Listen to Alex! You can do this. It takes a good couple of weeks for me to get established on a VLCD, I've been where you are and caved before but now I know the carb-demons will be waiting for me just as I think I'm getting into ketosis fully so I go LA LA LA LA LA and ignore them, wash them away with copious amounts of herbal tea and carry on. I'm now on day 24 and the demons are way behind me for now. Stay strong, they will go away and you'll feel better than ever for having carried on with the choice you have made to go on the diet.

 

[Susie58]

Alex has said it all. Take a look at my thread & hopefully it will help you resist. I cheated last week big time & have gained as a result. Is there anyone at home that can help you stay on track. Good luck & stay focused x

 

[Getslimquick]

I feel the same, rough today. Why am I doing it, its boring antisocial and I am so cold. The rewards take some time, 6 days is really nothing. I am on day 7 too Nick and its hard. Weekends are hard too, less distractions and the old habits of relaxing and socialising around food are hard to beat.


So what can I say? Only that being slim is the most amazing feeling and the delights of moving easily, feeling well, fitting in to airline seats, choosing clothes because I like them not because they fit, not apologising to to everyone for being me, not thinking that everyone is secretly thinking ' why is she so fat?' , feeling positive about my life and health for the first time for years, having normal blood pressure, normal cholesterol, normal blood sugar, nearly normal BMI - yes its worth today's struggle.

Tomorrow will be better, back to work. Lots of distractions and loose trousers.

So lets hang on in, eating undoes the last seven days of effort, there is no point.
Take the paracetamol, add an extra jumper, drink more b*** water and tomorrow we will both be fine.

GSQ

 

[nicowz13]

Aww thanks Alex for that kick up the backside and no I didn't take offence, must have taken u ages to write that lol
If someone had put what I put I'd say the same as you ain't it weird how you find it hard to take your own advice
Just having my 1st nanna shake oh how I love these nom nom nom

Not sure whether drinking a bit too much coke zero yesterday was at fault or not still in the big K tho
So I'm gonna stick with it, I want to be skinny lol
Thanks again x

 

[nicowz13]

Awwww thanks everyone sometimes you just need to be told don't be so stupid and stay away from the food lol

Every time I'm about to have a head game will look on here again to you all telling me off lol

I know it stupid and I know I would feel crap so gonna keep telling myself that and maybe the next few days will be easy like the first 5 days were, how ironic that I found the first few days a walk in the park and now I'm struggling

Anyway thanks again everyone xxxx

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[Lottagirlie]

I am really struggling too! Feel exactly the same today and i'm on day 13!


Tried to keep busy walking and been gardening... now on here for some inspiration!!!

Love reading all the posts they keep me feeling positive :thankyou: everyone!


Mind games....grrrrr!!!


Back to work tomorrow after two weeks off :fingerscrossed: i can stay on track.

 

[nicowz13]

I'm so annoyed !
Had a huge argument with my daughter she's 13 so u can imagine and stupidly ate !
I knew it was wrong but I still did it

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[Getslimquick]

I'm so annoyed !
Had a huge argument with my daughter she's 13 so u can imagine and stupidly ate !
I knew it was wrong but I still did it

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It's tough being human and this diet can make you more human than most. I have been feeling rough today, on a very short fuse and more grumpy than usual. It might be something to do with the physiological changes after one week of TS. I have not been hungry, just rumbling insides and general 'uck' and feeling cross .

Whatever it is I have not enjoyed my own company today and have been particularly irritated with every other member of humanity!!!

Don't beat yourself up, there is only one thing to do, let it go, don't look back and start again tomorrow.

Whatever is done is done, so fresh start Monday 16 April. Nicowz you are doing exceptionally well and tomorrow is another day, not yet messed up. Daughters are often a challenge, 13 or 30!

Take care. GSQ.

 

[nicowz13]

Thanks GSQ here's to day 1 instead of day 9 arghhhhh its my own stupid fault !
my scales are up 2 lb on what I ate yesterday but I know that's just food in an empty stomach so will be gone in a few days
Wish me luck hopefully ketosis won't be that far away

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[Lottagirlie]

Good luck back on the express! I too have caved in today and will be back on the track tomorrow....i will not let work stress me out!!!
Here's to tomorrow....
Xx

 

[Getslimquick]

good luck to you both, I hope you are feeling better today. I am, just a bit.

GSQ

 

[Alex_1978]

Thanks GSQ here's to day 1 instead of day 9 arghhhhh its my own stupid fault !
my scales are up 2 lb on what I ate yesterday but I know that's just food in an empty stomach so will be gone in a few days
Wish me luck hopefully ketosis won't be that far away

Right, I'm back for part two of my 'tough love' mission
No need to beat yourself up about this little slip up, what matters now is what you do next. I read something on the Slim and Save forum (I think) yesterday that really struck a chord with me:
Imagine you had a minor bump in your car, nothing major, just a few scratches, or a dent maybe. You wouldn't then think 'oh well, that's it...I'm going to keep on smashing this car into the wall until it's completely wrecked!'
And the same goes for the slip-ups we have on Exante...the damage is repairable, so dont look back. You can't change the past, only the future!

 

[mama pockets]

Alex your so inspirational .. thanks for the comment on her so we can have the same out look that s&s have no matter the plan we all here for the same reason...to get thin !!

 

[Getslimquick]

Alex your so inspirational .. thanks for the comment on her so we can have the same out look that s&s have no matter the plan we all here for the same reason...to get thin !!

I so agree, it's just not worth worrying about what has been, another day another three magic packets.

On the way to thin! No one said it was an easy road but even with side track days it really works.
Hang on in and just get slim.

GSQ

 

[nicowz13]

Right, I'm back for part two of my 'tough love' mission
No need to beat yourself up about this little slip up, what matters now is what you do next. I read something on the Slim and Save forum (I think) yesterday that really struck a chord with me:
Imagine you had a minor bump in your car, nothing major, just a few scratches, or a dent maybe. You wouldn't then think 'oh well, that's it...I'm going to keep on smashing this car into the wall until it's completely wrecked!'
And the same goes for the slip-ups we have on Exante...the damage is repairable, so dont look back. You can't change the past, only the future!

Well my day 1 again ended in me quitting before I began
and said to myself I will start 2 mrw
But Alex what you read on s&s has actually struck a chord, exactly its only a lil bump why write the car off ? so why am I gonna do it to my dreams and hopes of a thinner body.
Right thats it 2 mrw the 17th of April I will start day 1 again and follow through (oops sounds a lil wrong ) but you all know what I mean lol
Im off to see JLS on sunday and yes I will be taking my bars with me and Im sure JB (the sexy one with his head shaved in patterns) will see me in the 3rd row and want me death breath and all pmsl

Thank you all for all your great words of encouragement Im back on the Exante plan and Im not going to write my body off no more!

 

[shini]

Hey good Luck with starting fresh in morning! I had the same problem all last week! Did few days n cheated, the cheat started fri all the way til Sunday !! But today been so solid.. That I got into bed for 8.30 lol x soooo hang in their x

 

[Kezmetics70]

Keep going, you can do it K x