So close to packing it all in :(

[Tara27]

Im really really really struggling today. I worked from 7 til 3 resisting the urge to snack the whole time, then i met the boyf in the park for a sunbathe and he had a big juicy orange and apple. I literally reached out for a bite til shock hit me that i can't even have fresh, yummy, healthy fruit!! Then i remembered im boyfriend-less tonight as he's got a lads nite out, so normally i would go drinking/dancing with the girls but NO, can't do that now, so then i would maybe have a take away with a couple of friends, oh NO, can't do that either. What about just a bottle of wine infront of the tv on my own? NOPE, nor that! Im just really HATING the effect its having on my usually busy, fun filled social life! To make matters worse, just as i was about to break down in the park, my friend text to say the party she'd organised (weeks ago) is now Cocktail themed. Grrrr. And as im writing this in the bath, i can smell delicious salmon and jacket spuds in the oven. I can actually hear myself talking myself out of this diet... 'Its ok Tara, you know what its like to be deprived now, just eat healthy and exercise more and you'll lose the weight in your own time, forget this diet!' PLEASE tell me you've all been there... I feel like crying im so bored of life on this bloody diet!!

 

[swhite]

I'm so glad I'm not alone
I'm in my bedroom crying coz I've bin at work all day in a supermarket and now my family r having a Chinese and it's killing me not eating
I'm like u in trying to talk my way out of it and just have some Chinese
But if I do I'll end up bk to my normal self and before I know it I'm 30 stone

X

 

[Starlight]

Why can you not go out with friends? You could still go out dancing without the drinking, isnt it better to go out and do something without alcohol than sit in and feel miserable. Have your friends round and drink water etc socialising doesnt have to involve alcohol. I know what Id rather do

 

[richman14]

No the feeling very hard on social side but u can do all this long term when u learn to maintain

 

[Tara27]

I knoooow But when i was on weight watchers i went for a night out and stayed on diet cokes with a single vodka between each and i just got so sick of it, everyone was in high spirits and getting tiddly and i was getting more and more annoyed, couldn't enjoy myself and wanted to leave early. And trust me, im usually the last to leave! Probably why its so difficult now. But only being able to drink WATER now... Well, that's another matter. Its not even necessarily drink, its the Foooood!! I wanna go out for dinner! I wanna have a take away! I wanna go to the shop and by a sandwich! I want a bite of my boyfriends APPLE!! And now I've just read some bloke post saying if wouldn't do CD again as he tried to maintain but put it all back on and has realised its more natural to do a calorie controlled diet. So confused!!

 

[Starlight]

Oh yeah the old 'the faster you lose the faster you gain' argument Its utter rubbish. If he piled it back on then thats down to the fact he went back to eating far too much when he stopped CD. Its absolutely nothing to do with the diet. ALL diets do what they promise if you stick to them, they get the weight off you. They make no promises that the loss will be permanent thats down to us to do.

If you look at WW/SW or CC youll see just as many people there posting that theyre back again having piled it all back on

Dont let one persons self inflicted failure influence you x

 

[Emmaline]

Hi Tara, That's such a shame that you feel you have hemmed yourself in to a miserable lifestyle and I wouldn't want to do that sort of diet either, tbh.
I know there are lots who do it very successfully but I always think that somewhere along the way you will have to maintain a healthy lifestyle with proper food so why not start how you mean to go on!
Hope you manage to have a pleasant evening ..even without the booze!!...

 

[Yolande]

I have read soooo many posts from people who have maintained their weight and i even know a girl who has so that is not a good enough reason that is your head convincing you to give up,the only way you can pick up weight is to over eat and that goes with ANY diet and if calourie counting were that easy and natural we would not be here on this forum doing such a difficult diet for being over weight. The hardest part for me has been the lack of social life but i want to be slim and healthy more. End of the day tho you have to get your head in it. Best of luck hun.

 

[Rach_25]

I feel your pain hun, I'm on day 25 now and I am in such a bad mood tonight, I'm going out with my friends, I feel so disgusting, my hair is horrible, I can't find anything decent to wear and I'm not allowed anything to drink except water...This is the second time I will have been out since I started and the first time was on a Thursday so was relatively quiet except even the bar man gave me a look like "your drinking water"...It's Saturday night EVERYONE will be out and I'm actually dreading it so so much, I already had a mishap with food yesterday and I don't want to fail but even after losing 1st 1lb I can't be upbeat and happy - I don't notice any changes in the way I look - Ugh i'm just having one of them days! :cry:

 

[PrincessSpark1e]

Im just really HATING the effect its having on my usually busy, fun filled social life!

I think you need to consider what effect being over weight has on your life as a whole. You are choosing to not go out because you can only drink water, it's your choice. You are choosing to be on this diet as the quickest way to lose weight, it's your choice.

I think you need to step back and remember why you are doing this, especially when it gets tough! Hope you feel better soon

 

[wintye]

I couldn't have said it better Princessspark1e.

Please don't be upset about this. It shouldn't put you in that position but neither should you being overweight.

Only you can look at this in a positive way. You do have options/choices. Maybe the 810 plan or higher?

If I'm too late in posting and you have eaten then try again tomorrow. Don't quit completely. Don't ever stop trying even if not on this diet.

I have felt like you and Swhite. It's so horrible to feel that way but you both know that you won't stick to just eating healthy and exercise. I felt like I would but never did.

I'll be honest, I started with LL and stayed on for 8 weeks and lost 2 stone. Felt like people could see the real me and quit. That was about 4 years ago and I'm now at my heaviest. I did gain all the weight and more because when I came off I stuffed my face constantly. It took a good month before the weight really piled on.

I've started CWP about 6 times now and am on day 2 this time so am ok at the moment but I know the day you're on is coming my way. I'll be re-reading what I'm typing to you now as I know I'll need to hear it.

Don't look on this as negative. This is the start of your life, everything else is the end. You deserve this and if you fall off the wagon then get back on straight away. This diet takes away all the options so it's so much easier.

Would you have chosen to eat that apple normally? I know I wouldn't have.

Whatever you decide, you can message me or post again and I'll help if you need it. I'm really sorry if I have offended. I really am trying to just help.

Good luck and really take care both of you. You will do this xxxxx

 

[swhite]

I couldn't have said it better Princessspark1e.

Please don't be upset about this. It shouldn't put you in that position but neither should you being overweight.

Only you can look at this in a positive way. You do have options/choices. Maybe the 810 plan or higher?

If I'm too late in posting and you have eaten then try again tomorrow. Don't quit completely. Don't ever stop trying even if not on this diet.

I have felt like you and Swhite. It's so horrible to feel that way but you both know that you won't stick to just eating healthy and exercise. I felt like I would but never did.

I'll be honest, I started with LL and stayed on for 8 weeks and lost 2 stone. Felt like people could see the real me and quit. That was about 4 years ago and I'm now at my heaviest. I did gain all the weight and more because when I came off I stuffed my face constantly. It took a good month before the weight really piled on.

I've started CWP about 6 times now and am on day 2 this time so am ok at the moment but I know the day you're on is coming my way. I'll be re-reading what I'm typing to you now as I know I'll need to hear it.

Don't look on this as negative. This is the start of your life, everything else is the end. You deserve this and if you fall off the wagon then get back on straight away. This diet takes away all the options so it's so much easier.

Would you have chosen to eat that apple normally? I know I wouldn't have.

Whatever you decide, you can message me or post again and I'll help if you need it. I'm really sorry if I have offended. I really am trying to just help.

Good luck and really take care both of you. You will do this xxxxx

Thanks for the reply what I needed to hear everything u said is true. I couldn't do this just by eating healthy.
I didn't cave in just had a good cry and had my soup.

X

 

[wintye]

Thanks for the reply what I needed to hear everything u said is true. I couldn't do this just by eating healthy.
I didn't cave in just had a good cry and had my soup.

X

Really really well done. It's so tough just to admit sometimes that we have to change our way of life and thoughts that it gets in the way of what we really want.

You should feel so proud of yourself. Tomorrow you'll feel amazing after realising how close you came but stuck with it.

If it's still tough, get an early night.

Keep going and I'm sure I'll be posting at some point and need propping up soon lol xxxxxxxx

 

[Tara27]

Thanks for all you help everyone, i sounded like a right spoilt brat! Because this IS my choice, and nobody is MAKING me do it, and i should appreciate there IS a diet out there that works quickly!
And i have underestimated my gorgeous friends... After my soup and a long hot bath went all went to the cinema and had a lovely time, all 4 of us sipping water together, and they were like 'ooh Tara, we feel SO healthy!' lol. Then they suggested going to the pub... We are now all at the bar ordering sparkling water!! I got all dressed up and i feel fab, and what better than NO hangover tomorrow! And i can drive everyone home later So glad i didn't grumble. Oh, and that apple i couldn't have off my boyfriend? He bought me the most gorgeous handbag afterwards and i nearly cried Xxx

 

[wintye]

Seriously well done. I know if I was feeling like that in the past then that would be the time that I would quit.

If you can get passed last night then you know now that you can do it. You'll feel so much better as you lose weight and going out, getting new clothes and going with your friends.

Ah bless your boyfriend, that's lovely. Think when you've lost weight all the clothes he could buy you

xxx

 

[Emmaline]

Thanks for all you help everyone, i sounded like a right spoilt brat! Because this IS my choice, and nobody is MAKING me do it, and i should appreciate there IS a diet out there that works quickly!
And i have underestimated my gorgeous friends... After my soup and a long hot bath went all went to the cinema and had a lovely time, all 4 of us sipping water together, and they were like 'ooh Tara, we feel SO healthy!' lol. Then they suggested going to the pub... We are now all at the bar ordering sparkling water!! I got all dressed up and i feel fab, and what better than NO hangover tomorrow! And i can drive everyone home later So glad i didn't grumble. Oh, and that apple i couldn't have off my boyfriend? He bought me the most gorgeous handbag afterwards and i nearly cried Xxx

Well done Tara! So glad you were able to go out and enjoy yourself after all..