Hi everyone, this is something that is on my mind a lot and just wondered about your thoughts of only children. Are only children "lonely" children like a lot of folk suggest, is it selfish to only have/want one child?
I have one child, was never particualry broody as such but one day we decided we did want a baby, we tried and very fortunately we succeeded. Whilst pg i didnt ever think i would only have one baby, that i was going to have more as it would be "nice" for him/her to have a sibling. Since my baby, who was brilliant and never had any "real" problems with, i have never felt the need for another baby. Yes i think the whole new baby stage is lovely and sometiimes think it would be nice to have the feelings of birth etc again but the baby stage passes and those babies become little people so it doesnt last forever.
A big thing for me is finances, i dont see how i could have another baby and afford to survive as the way things are just now it is a struggle. I would like to give one baby nice things rather than struggle with two. Some people tell me "you cut your cloth accordingly" and you would "make do" if money was the issue. WHilst its not the only issue for me, i dont think "making do" and struggle to pay the bills is sensible.
As i said i dont have the urge for another baby but at times when i see my brothers kids playing (they fight as well of course) i think maybe i am being selfish?
ONly child friends i have spoken to the majority said they loved it, only two say they hated it. I know this is a personal and individual thing but just wondered on everyones thoughts on it?
Has anyone decided to have only one child through choice? What was your reasons or are you an only child?
i have a brother and sister and we are very close - maybe this is why i think about it a lot more
thanks
I have one child, was never particualry broody as such but one day we decided we did want a baby, we tried and very fortunately we succeeded. Whilst pg i didnt ever think i would only have one baby, that i was going to have more as it would be "nice" for him/her to have a sibling. Since my baby, who was brilliant and never had any "real" problems with, i have never felt the need for another baby. Yes i think the whole new baby stage is lovely and sometiimes think it would be nice to have the feelings of birth etc again but the baby stage passes and those babies become little people so it doesnt last forever.
A big thing for me is finances, i dont see how i could have another baby and afford to survive as the way things are just now it is a struggle. I would like to give one baby nice things rather than struggle with two. Some people tell me "you cut your cloth accordingly" and you would "make do" if money was the issue. WHilst its not the only issue for me, i dont think "making do" and struggle to pay the bills is sensible.
As i said i dont have the urge for another baby but at times when i see my brothers kids playing (they fight as well of course) i think maybe i am being selfish?
ONly child friends i have spoken to the majority said they loved it, only two say they hated it. I know this is a personal and individual thing but just wondered on everyones thoughts on it?
Has anyone decided to have only one child through choice? What was your reasons or are you an only child?
i have a brother and sister and we are very close - maybe this is why i think about it a lot more
thanks