Want to be a size 12/14....and lose a good few stone along the way!

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hellsbells1

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Hey everyone! I am 30 years old, and have been 19-20 stone for the last five years. I am a dress size 24-26. I have been overweight my entire adult life, starting from a mom who was amazing but didnt really like to cook so lots of chippy dinners, and if she did cook it was processed and in a frying pan or deep fat fryer....by the time i got to my teens i was overweight, but happy, popular and had no problems...so i ate more junk, crisps, chocolate, cheese, mcdonalds, chippy so on and so on...

fast forward to now and im very very unhappy being this size. I work for a tour operator and for the past 4 years have moved around spanish islands so my diet has improved a bit, much less takeaway but still have access to yummy pizzas, my palate has become more sophisticated in some ways (brie, chorizo etc) but no more healthy!

I dont really overeat anymore just eat all the wrong things!

I have a VERY sociable job and drink lots of wine, cider regularly and that does not help at all



I have a pool and a beach and beautiful weather on my doorstep so exercise should be easy but im so out of the habit and work very long hours i just dont take advantage of it, hopefully thats sonna change soon

I honestly feel if i dont manage to loose weight now i never will..so ive got to really try and do this...Im a pretty girl but havent had a boyfriend in a while as i think they are put off by my size and im so angry at myself for wasting the last 15 years of my life being overweight....i really hope sharing on here will help...

dont own scales so will weigh myself in the morning and post on here tomorrow along with my food diary each day

I want to make small changes that will last, and be healthy, I am not into super low calories, with my job i just cant, and in case you think my food diary is bad, i will give you an example of a typical day now just so you can see hopefully its improving slowly but surely...

breakfast: nothing OR chocolate croissant OR scrambled eggs, bacon and hashbrowns
Lunch: White baguette with bacon or white bread cheese toastie

Dinner: anything! from creamy pasta and garlic bread, steak or chicken and chips, paella, literally could be anything...plus ice cream, jelly sweets OR chocolate

Normally, either a bottle of wine, couple of ciders or a few vodka and diet cokes in the evening...

Late night snacks: anything from crisps, to ryvita and brie, to a whole pizza...:-(

hope you read and comment, will really mean a lot

x
 
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P.S should probably mention I suffer from pos...am very very bloated a lot of time, irrespective of what I eat or drink :-(
 
Hello, welcome :D

Congrats on deciding to make a start; these things are sometimes hard to face up to when you have been pushing them into the background for a long time; I can relate to that. Don't look back & beat yourself up; you did the best you could with the circumstances you had; now things are different and you are ready for a change. Very best of luck; I'll look forward to your success!
 
Thanks very much, your right, ive just ignored it for so long, but not really as everyday I have a moment that im upset about my size...so here goes! thanks for the welcome!
 
well done hells bells on feeling motivated to make a change in your life, its so difficult, this part of the minimins site is so lovely , stuffed full of really friendly people which will be here to support you on your journey. I think a size 12/14 is a nice size to aim for, I started 5 weeks ago at 22 st 5 and am now 20 st 11 so am making progress and my dream is to be a size 14! I have suspected PCOS but haven't had it confirmed yet as I have had other health issues that I had to have looked into first but I have all the symptoms and gp thinks its pretty much certain that I have it sadly!

You sound like you are wanting to tackle it in a sensible way through healthy eating and exercise, for me I am viewing my plan as a lifestyle change rather than a diet as it helps me to do so, also whilst I have changed all the food I eat on the whole to healthier alternatives I do still allow planned treats like meals out etc as this helps to reward my progress and keep me on track. I often have a small treat food each day again for the same reason to keep me feeling as if I am not going without. I always lived on binge type foods, all crap stuff, chocolate, cakes, crisps etc no fruit, no veg to speak of basically no healthy stuff hardly at all and now I am eating breakfast, lunch and tea and snacks and have just changed the food and actually shock horror I have found I am enjoying it, just find stuff you like eating like for me raspberries have become a great snack yet before I would never munch on fruit, its all about finding what works for you but just remember to allow yourself treats as we are only human and we should be able to have some of the fun things in life every week as well, makes life worth living!

Em xx
 
Hi Emma, is great to talk to someone in a similar situation, and someone who isnt planning on doing this by meal replacement or very low calorie diets, you've done so well already, i will be keeping up with your progress as inspiration! Rasberries are a great idea! whats a typical days food for you now? and what sort of treats do you have?

Well I am just home from work, worked 9-8 today so didnt get a chance to do the first weigh in, i'll get time tomorrow, but i didnt use it as an excuse for one last pig out day, yet lol!

Breakfast was an apple and a litre of water, lunch was 2 small squares of pizza, a large salad of cucumber, onion, sweetcorn and pepper, with a low fat lemon yoghurt.

Had a snack of a subway cookie which a colleague brought over from the UK! this was hard to say no too!

For dinner, had to eat at the hotel i work in otherwise it would have been too late too cook, so had a very small portion (cut the portion in half) of lasange and a small garlic bread roll.

Am off to watch a show at one of the hotels now, so plan on having a couple of diet cokes and trying to avoid anything later on!

Done about 20 minutes of walking and had an active afternoon in the sun (30 degrees!), but thats nothing new for me and seems to do nothing to aid any weightloss :-(

Sigh, its hard, but if I do it like this, small portions, nothing banned, and lots more veg, salad and fruit i might just make some progress one small step at a time.

Will report back tomorrow with my official starting weight! Hope you've all had a great day!
 
show was great, turned into 2 vodka and diet cokes instead of just diet coke, a strawberry milkshake and a packet of hula hoops, if thats me done for the day trust me this has been a good day food and drink wise...i do something social (which in a way is great) nearly every night but makes alchohol and food consumption so much harder to control at night...but before i got this job i would sit at home every night eating eating eating and not really having a social life or any physical activity of any kind so im happier this way, much, but need to let it be a positive thing rather than just an excuse to just eat and drink more! I know i have farnkfurters in the fridge and its taking every ounce of willpower not to make one with a bread roll and ketchup, but got to start as i mean to go on, even if i havent done my starting weight yet!
 
it is hard when everyone you socialise with expects you to eat/drink certain things, especially when alcohol is involved and your guard is down; have you got anyone who would support you in these circumstances? Or anyone who might want to make similar changes to you, and you could work together? I have found it easier to cope at work because I have a friend who is following the same plan as me, and it's a bit of solidarity when the topic comes up in conversation, I dont feel "scrutinised".
 
Hi Fizzybee, i know my room mate would certainly support me and happily tell me off when i get carried away, she already tells me off for eating too much cheese all the time LOL! Unfortunately most of the lovely people i am friends with here are size 10's and under, which just makes me more ashamed every day, they are all lovely people but its horrible to still be "the fat one" of the group...oh well, hopefully in time thats going to change! Thanks for the advice. I may let her know im trying to do this (it sounds ridiculous I know but I am embaressed to acknowledge my weight or the fact that I want to lose any, to anyone!! I come across as very confident as I feel as soon as I do this, i'll be pitied, although im sure thats not the case) I know she'd happily help if I asked, although she works even later than me....hot dogs still uneaten though :D x
 
Good work with the 'dogs! I know what you mean about admitting that you want to lose weight; I was the same, I didn't even admit it to myself, and I know now that it was because I was afraid I couldn't do it, and that I would be judged. It turns out I could do it better than I thought, and mostly everyone has been supportive and not making a big deal of it, which has really helped me - I know what you mean about the "pity" thing, but I think mostly people are impressed by what you achieve.

PS Do not feel ashamed; everyone has their challenges to face, weight is a tough one but we are all here for the same reason and tackling it is a reason to be proud! Taking action has made me feel better about my ability to control things; fingers crossed for you x
 
Thanks Fizzybee, I know your right and they would support, im just gonna keep in between us for now...then i can wow them LOL! Thanks for chatting and keeping my mind off the hotdogs, going to bed now and have never been a sleep eater at least so i think they are safe for the time being!! Goodnight! x
 
Hi Hellbells

I'm a similar weight / size to you and am doing the same food wise in that I'm going for the healthy options and eating as healthily as I can - a whole new change of lifestyle for me. I can imagine that it is really difficult for you in your job but if you are going to be drinking at night would it be possible to drink vodka & diet coke as this will be better for you calorie wise and if on a few you could miss out on the vodka then that may help late night food resistance that bit easier ;)

As Fizzybee said you can't look back and beat yourself up, you can only go forward from today and give it your best shot and do your best to change your future, that's the way I'm looking at it.

Onwards & downwards......
 
Hi Hells bells, oh I could relate to what you said on here about being the "fat one", I have always been viewed as the "fat and funny one" now I don't mind the funny bit but the fat bit I want to change! ;) Yeah I am not into the very low calorie diets myself and whilst I know they work for some people for me they have always made things worse as I was diagnosed with a binge eating disorder and I also have starvation tendencies on top of the binges so such a restricted diet feeds into my eating disorder mind! I have been told again and again by my eating disorder therapist to eat regularly , more about moderation, no fad type diets so I have finally decided to get going 5 weeks ago with my new plan, basically its like a whole change in lifestyle, I have gone from starving myself everyday and then a massive binge in the evening to having breakfast, lunch, evening meal every day and snacks plus its on the whole pretty healthy food. I did a very low calorie diet in the past and apart from being starving and wanting to chew my arm off , I noticed that it made me lose my sense of fun to be honest, I became bitter and twisted due to not having food and started to resent anyone around me eating anything which is so silly so now I eat healthily plus have treats and I lose the weight successfully plus still maintain my sense of fun and can enjoy nice times out with friends and family and not feel guilty.

I give myself usually one meal out each week or every two weeks with my friends, we often go to an Italian place or some sort of diner and I have whatever I want and don't feel guilty in the slightest, its my reward, I have to say the amount I can eat has gone down in size. I have one rule for my meals out and its "no diet food", no "healthy options" because I am doing that almost all the time so on my one night out I want a pizza and chips or a veggie burger and chips or something, the healthiest way to lose weight long term is to not deny yourself things, if you deny yourself things especially if you are someone like myself who used to binge its going to end in failure, this way I enjoy my treat nights but the rest of the time I'm 100% on track.

I don't drink any alcohol myself but thats not for diet reasons but I'm on anti depressants and can't mix the two, food wise for me I have a normal breakfast like porridge / fruit & fibre etc etc then for lunch I have a jacket potato with things like Quorn chicken slices as I'm a veggie, then have a yogurt or fruit for dessert. My evening meal tends to be a mixture of potatoes, veg like green beans, carrots, cauliflower and then something like a veggie meat alternative or such like and for a dessert a sugar free jelly with light cream on top or a yogurt or fruit lolly or something and then snacks can be more fruit, cheese twists which I have 3 of from my supermarket they are gorg and only 125 kcals for 3 of them - yummy! or some cheese crackers. I have lots of veggie meat alternatives during any week as I love my Quorn products and they are pretty low in fat as well. I personally give myself a calorie allowance of 1500-1700 a day and I do keep track of everything as I have a tendency to forget that I have eaten things! ha ha I tend to drink loads of watery orange squash throughout the day as I'm not a fan of water on its own.

I think its all about finding a plan that works for you, to some mine wouldn't be right but it suits me and I feel full at the end of the day unlike before when I was literally ruddy starving!

Good luck hun, Em xx
 
Thanks so much Emma and Katie, great to talk about this with like minded people.

Well, yesterday was the starting weight weigh in...bit more than I expected...

20 stone 7lbs

The most I have ever been...

not sure how, as i now walk at least 20 minutes a day and have fairly active days?????

However I still eat and drink way too much of the wrong stuff so i guess the little activity is not making a difference?

Anyway, onwards and downwards ;-)

well i started this to be honest so the the last 2 days have been mixed.....

Yesterday
Breakfast (at work) Large portion of scrambled eggs on one slice of wholemeal toast (no butter) and a small portion of beans
Lunch (at work) Small fishcake (as at work probably very processed, white fish potato and seasoning from what i could gather!) with a salad of beetroot, carrot, pepper, cucumber and sweetcorn.
Dinner: made fajitas at home. chicken breast, mushrooms and onions fried in oil (why why why, cant get fry light easily out here) with the sauce and seasoning from an old el paso kit, and 2 wraps. a little grated mature cheese.

Then went on a night out and had a few diet cokes, a couple of gin and lemons and a cranberry juice.

Got home and had 2 slices of white bread toast with clover, a few low fat crisps and a curly wurly :-(

Today....

tired and a little hungover!

Breakfast: (at work) fried egg whites (i cut round the yolk as i dont like it) 2 rashers of bacon, a sausage, some potato pieces that looked a little like home fries? a small portion of beans. a chcoclate crossiant (old habits clearly die hard :-(
Lunch: chicken soup
Dinner: 3/4 of Dr Oetker 4 cheese pizza.

Lots of water, a couple or orange squashes. a packet of hula hoops.



So my first mini goal:

Lose 2lbs by next Saturday

No cider or wine
No ice cream
No pasta or creamy sauces. mayo or carbonara
instead of a large bag of crisps a few hula hoops
No full fat coke


Swim 3 times this week

it really helps to write it down. so wil keep doing that, good or bad
 
Good luck with the plan hun, the first weigh in is always the worst, I nearly died when mine said 22 st 5 lbs over 5 weeks ago at my first weigh in, its the heaviest I have ever been, at least my scales gave a reading, my parents ones kept on saying error due to a weight limit of 22 stone, the shame!! Em xx
 
Hi there, was reading this thread with interest. Lots of people would envy your lifestyle in the sun, I know I do :) You mentioned that your colleagues are size 10, and yet they presumably work and live in the same environment as you? I'm wondering if you've observed what they eat. Perhaps it's the same sort of food but just not that much of it.

Another thought, where you live is where holiday food is. I would think that a lot of thin people who are on holiday maybe have the pizza/booze/fried breakfasts/croissants thing maybe once every couple of months, ie it's "enjoyment food that we have once in a while and especially on holiday". But for you, this is available to you all the time.

Combine that with your long hours, the partying, tiredness, having to be "up" and sociable all the time, it must be really tough to keep it healthy. But that's what you're going to have to do. Your every day food can't be holiday food if you want to lose weight.

How about changing one thing a week? And then another thing, keeping the first week's changes, and build it up from there?

So your first thing might be "no pizza this week". The next week could be "no pizza plus no coissants". Would that work?
 
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Just wanted to say that I really admire how honest u have been both with yourself and on here. It's really not easy is it, I keep a food diary where I also put down how I am feeling about the slimming world plan and generally about myself. It'a not easy to do but it is so therapeutic isn't it and has made me finally have to think about how I feel about being overweight. I have a lot to lose and have only made a small dent in it so far but already feel so much better for it. I also totally get where your coming from about being the "fat one" I have always had a lot of friends and they have all always been so supportive but I have still always been the fat one and it is depressing.

Anyways I've rattled on enough I hope u find what is gunna work for u and I look forward to seeing how u are doing x

Btw your job sounds amazing!!!

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