WTF is wrong with me?!

[binibikini]

6 days and I'm off the wagon again. If im honest I know it’s because SS is too restrictive and when I go out (which is atleast 3-4 times a week) I sometimes switched to SS+ and of course since I have it in my head that the US CD is very different from the UK CD, what’s the point of following the ‘plus’ part anyway, I give myself permission to eat – and that turns into a binge and that follows the next day. I am so SICK of myself.

 

[Blondee x]

Awww sweetie, don't be so hard on yourself. This diet is nearly impossible if your head isn't fully in the game do you think maybe doing a higher plan so you can eat when you are out would be easier? I find that my social life gets cut right back when I'm SS'ing. It's so much easier that way, even if it sucks staying in! x

 

[Mrs Z]

I give myself permission to eat – and that turns into a binge and that follows the next day.

Me too - it's not just you. :wave_cry:

Mine is normally followed by....."well I might as well have x and y as I have ruined it all now". :cry:

 

[coconut]

I'd recommend going up a few plans as well.
Even if it's only for a few weeks. It would get rid of the guilt which is probably making things worse.

Don't stress over it. It can be better to do a higher plan and lose consistently than do SS and not stick to it. You'll lose more in the long run on the higher plan.

If you decide to stick to SS then everytime you want to eat, drink a glass of water, brush your teeth and do 20 sit ups first.
Then you probably wont want to eat.
And you'll have great abs after a while!

 

[binibikini]

Nothing worth having comes easy - gosh i love this.

I cant do anything with food cos i have a really unhealthy relationship with it (compulsive overeating) so have to cut it out completely.

i feel so flippin depressed

 

[Mrs Z]

I cant do anything with food cos i have a really unhealthy relationship with it (compulsive overeating) so have to cut it out completely.

It is really hard. If we were alcoholics the choices would be taken away completely. If we were smokers it would be taken away totally again - but dieting is hard because it's not taken away, we are just meant to be able to control it.

You can't tell a smoker who is quitting to only have one a day or an alcoholic to only have a couple of drinks yet we have to have "just a tiny bit" and be expected to stop.

It is really hard but you are doing so well. :hug99:

 

[binibikini]

Thank you everyone... Mrs Z you're so right. It's delibitating to be around food all day and it's supposed to be 'normal' to eat - except: my behaviour towards it is not normal.
Right now I'm looking at my own profile and it seems my goals are mocking me.
I won't even cross the first one out because I havent done it right.
I should just get back on it, cancel my social commitments for the first week.
Now if only I could take the week off work too - work is my worst trigger with people having bagels and lunch all around me.

 

[binibikini]

Mine is normally followed by....."well I might as well have x and y as I have ruined it all now". :cry:

I am exactly the same! And that turns into BINGEFEST!!!

 

[Mrs Z]

I am exactly the same! And that turns into BINGEFEST!!!

x 2

 

[Blondee x]

Nothing worth having comes easy - gosh i love this.

I cant do anything with food cos i have a really unhealthy relationship with it (compulsive overeating) so have to cut it out completely.

i feel so flippin depressed

Thanks hun, I love that quote too. So easy to forget that but it's totally true. I'm the same with food, find it much easier just to cut it out completely but that makes me worry for the future sometimes, as I know food will always be an issue for me. I binge and will do that every time when I have a planned weekend off, I can't just be sensible so I'm going to try and keep 100% until I've finished now. We'll see if that happens! If you want any support at any time feel free to PM me hun, I know it's difficult x

 

[Angela83]

How about doing the 4 packs on a SS+ day, I know its more expensive that way though.

and love this for any time anyone wants to eat & whatever the plan!-

"If you decide to stick to SS then everytime you want to eat, drink a glass of water, brush your teeth and do 20 sit ups first.
Then you probably wont want to eat.
And you'll have great abs after a while! "

 

[getting there!]

crikey i'd have done a few hundred sit ups today, and not sure i'd have any enamel left on my teeth hahaha (yep tough day!!!)

 

[Mia]

Hi Binibikini, just pm'd you. I know exactly how you feel, at least you can get to day 6 - I cant get past day 1 - so I second that - WTF!!!!!!!!!

 

[Blingbabe]

Hi binibikini

I have 4 packs a day (as suggested by Angela83) - I did once try 3 and it seemed to affect my mood and quality of life.
I'm sorry to hear that you have had a blip and hope that you can get back to a diet regime that best suits you. Good Luck, don't be harsh upon yourself. x

 

[Toots]

I'm the same :cry::cry::cry:I find that for me nothing works until I get that "eureka" moment and everything just clicks again

Good luck

xxx

 

[Witchypoo]

I know with me, if my head isn't ready do commit to a diet (any diet) it's pointless for me to even try. The best I can manage then is to eat healthily and cut out the junk. But I can binge on healthy food as easily as on junk food!
Once I get my head in the right place then everything just falls into place.

I'd try a slightly higher plan till you find one you can live with. But maybe cut out some of your socializing for the first couple of weeks. It's not much fun watching your friends drinking & eating when your holding a glass of water. But it's worth it in the end.

Good luck hun.:hug99:

 

[Yvonne1989]

I could have written this thread myself. My losses are going downhil, everyday I tell myself "this is it, Im gonna do 100%" then I have a nibble which turns into "there's always tomorrow to restart....might as well eat more" Arrrrgh I hate it

 

[alipally]

Hi there Binibikini,
There is one reason for all of this and it's your head... it's just not in the right place for this right now... Can you afford to go see a therapist? One that specialises in Cognitive behaviour therapy?

It's quick fix that works, it's not a deep years long, work through our problems approach, so it's perfect if you want results NOW!
A good CBT therapist will get you on track quickly, and give you the tools to cope in social situations.

As you are in NY this might be the best place to start:

The American Institute for Cognitive Therapy - Home

 

[binibikini]

Thanks for this Alipally - I'm already in therapy but my shrink's into behavioural. I'll read up a bit more on CBT, thanks.

I agree it's the mind.

Hope those of us who're struggling will 'click' again!

xx

 

[libbylou]

Hi I am the wrong one to give advice, I am struggling to get back on the diet. I lost 2st early this year then fell off the CD wagon, this last three months I am struggling to get back on managed three days - then four, one day here and there.
The thing that keeps me trying, is I know once you are in the zone it does work, if you can manage to stick with it the food cravings leave you and your mind goes into different thought patterns.
I don't know if my mind remembers the last time I did CD because the day I decide this is it I am CDing again the urge to eat anything and everything becomes overwhelming, I even eat things I don't like.
It makes me feel such a failure that I cannot control my eating. Like others I am an all or nothing person.
So here goes tomorrow I shall restart, my philosophy is if I keep getting back on the wagon I may just stay on it long enough to reach my goal. One thing for sure if I do not keep trying it will only get worse.
So if you do not succeed the first time try! and try!! and try!!! again!!!
Good Luck