Do you sit with the family while they eat their meals if you are on VLCD? My boys are 2.5 and we have always made an effort to all sit at the table at least twice a day for meals, so they get good habits. At the moment i can't bear to sit and watch them all eating. I wonder if they notice i am not there and think it odd, or would it be odder if i sat at the table, but didn't eat anything?
Hi Splodge
I do understand why you would be wondering about this and what to do for the best. My two youngest are 3 and 9 years old and I do think it's important that I sit down with them to eat as much as possible.
HOWEVER.....my other viewpoint is that if you are finding it difficult at the moment, then you don't need to create extra pressure on yourself by sitting there and struggling. No-one is going to think you are not being a good parent for just taking a break from the routine at the moment.
Children, especially young children, are very adaptable and resilient to changes in routine usually. I'm sure that you not sitting there for a while is not going to have any negative effect and when you find you can sit there, that's fine too.
What I'm trying to say whilst typing a novel length post is
.....we as women and mothers, are not used to putting ourselves and our needs as a priority. When we do, we feel guilty sometimes. It goes with the territory.
You need to do what you need to do for you at the moment and being a bit selfish is really ok. I know loads of other members will agree with this as I've seen this viewpoint many times on here.
VLCD and losing weight is hard enough as it is and the challenges it throws up. I'm sure your children will be totally fine and more importantly.......the best thing they can have is a HAPPY mummy, regardless of how she gets there.
Lacey...xxx