Jesca
Full Member
I just wanted to vent about this really, I don't find my consultant inspiring at all, in fact she has gained several stone of weight in the 5 years I've been going to her class and she clearly has no idea how to answer when we ask questions.
In the last year I've only been the class a few times as I find it's easier for me if I don't go and my weight loss has been going just the same as when I was attending class (not losing much but not gaining either), I've only stayed with her class as her classes are the least popular in my town and it's quick to get weighed and leave.
Last week I went in to weigh, I was feeling very tired, had greasy hair and no make-up, I remarked to her that I was very tired and needed to just get home and sleep as I wasn't feeling up to staying but I'd try the following week (which I did mean). She then asked if I could stay for a minute for a chat, I said ok thinking she was going to have a word with me for never staying.
Instead she says good evening to the class and draws attention to me as apparently I'm the biggest loser, a title I hardly feel I deserve since I've lost 2.5 stone in 2 years and still weigh nearly 21 stone, so not really a rapid or 'look at the difference' loss (not at my weight anyway).
She has known me for 5 years and knows I always hate this sort of thing, I'm fine in IMAGE therapy as no more attention is drawn to me than anyone else and also if I'm staying, I'll have made sure I look alright with make-up and decent hair/clothes.
She made a real spectacle of me in front of three of my friends and a room full of almost complete strangers, I was trying to get away asap without being rude but she wouldn't let up, asking me to tell 'my story' and asking if people had questions, I was internally screaming and hating every single second, I think everyone else could tell so they didn't ask any questions. Then she wanted a bl00dy photo! It was at that point I said categorically no, made my excuses as politely as I could and left.
The extra embarrassment was the flamin' sash thing didn't even fit around me! I'm not someone who's easily embarrassed but I felt thoroughly humiliated by this, so much so that I'm changing groups permanently and won't ever be returning to her group.
I know some might see this as an overreaction but imagine how you'd feel with a whole group staring at you when you feel like hell and leave feeling upset and thoroughly made a fool of. I think all consultants should do this only with your permission, it's only a nice surprise when you like surprises like this!!
In the last year I've only been the class a few times as I find it's easier for me if I don't go and my weight loss has been going just the same as when I was attending class (not losing much but not gaining either), I've only stayed with her class as her classes are the least popular in my town and it's quick to get weighed and leave.
Last week I went in to weigh, I was feeling very tired, had greasy hair and no make-up, I remarked to her that I was very tired and needed to just get home and sleep as I wasn't feeling up to staying but I'd try the following week (which I did mean). She then asked if I could stay for a minute for a chat, I said ok thinking she was going to have a word with me for never staying.
Instead she says good evening to the class and draws attention to me as apparently I'm the biggest loser, a title I hardly feel I deserve since I've lost 2.5 stone in 2 years and still weigh nearly 21 stone, so not really a rapid or 'look at the difference' loss (not at my weight anyway).
She has known me for 5 years and knows I always hate this sort of thing, I'm fine in IMAGE therapy as no more attention is drawn to me than anyone else and also if I'm staying, I'll have made sure I look alright with make-up and decent hair/clothes.
She made a real spectacle of me in front of three of my friends and a room full of almost complete strangers, I was trying to get away asap without being rude but she wouldn't let up, asking me to tell 'my story' and asking if people had questions, I was internally screaming and hating every single second, I think everyone else could tell so they didn't ask any questions. Then she wanted a bl00dy photo! It was at that point I said categorically no, made my excuses as politely as I could and left.
The extra embarrassment was the flamin' sash thing didn't even fit around me! I'm not someone who's easily embarrassed but I felt thoroughly humiliated by this, so much so that I'm changing groups permanently and won't ever be returning to her group.
I know some might see this as an overreaction but imagine how you'd feel with a whole group staring at you when you feel like hell and leave feeling upset and thoroughly made a fool of. I think all consultants should do this only with your permission, it's only a nice surprise when you like surprises like this!!