babylady50
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I'm writing this even tho I know the answer. I've been with my partner 3 1/2 yrs now after 16 yrs of being single. I love this man but I don't know if I should get out. Let me explain, he is a 57 yr old man that was marries years ago but never re married although did have a 11 yr relationship but never lived with her. He has been single on n off for 3 yrs after she unfortunate,y died , never really committing to anyone. So here I am with him, I have my house 50 mile away from him, I am allowed!!! To stay with him when he says, normally on days we are both working, his days off are with his mates. Those things are bad enough but when he has a drink he's verbally horrible at times.
7 yr ago I had a gastric band fitted and have lost nearly 7 stone, still trying, hence sw for last few stone. My figure isn't perfect, large amount skin on tummy( saving for tummy tuck) but I'm aware of my imperfections and dress well to cover them haha.
Due to various problems on his part ie smokes n drinks too much, raised blood pressure we haven't made love for 18 month now, but during an argument the other week he has told me that the reason we don't is that he thinks I'm fat , with a backside the side of a house , in fact too fat to's**g' . I know at 15 st I' m still overweight but I'm devastated, he said next day that he didn't mean it, that are only words but he said them and I can't get over it.
The man is no brad Pitt, in fact has a bigger tummy n boobs than me, but I love him what ever shape he is and encourage him to loose weight.
I just don't know what to do, I can't bear to let him see me in my underwear and we are due to go on hol in 10 weeks.
Any words of reason please, ??
7 yr ago I had a gastric band fitted and have lost nearly 7 stone, still trying, hence sw for last few stone. My figure isn't perfect, large amount skin on tummy( saving for tummy tuck) but I'm aware of my imperfections and dress well to cover them haha.
Due to various problems on his part ie smokes n drinks too much, raised blood pressure we haven't made love for 18 month now, but during an argument the other week he has told me that the reason we don't is that he thinks I'm fat , with a backside the side of a house , in fact too fat to's**g' . I know at 15 st I' m still overweight but I'm devastated, he said next day that he didn't mean it, that are only words but he said them and I can't get over it.
The man is no brad Pitt, in fact has a bigger tummy n boobs than me, but I love him what ever shape he is and encourage him to loose weight.
I just don't know what to do, I can't bear to let him see me in my underwear and we are due to go on hol in 10 weeks.
Any words of reason please, ??