BeeBeeSee
Gold Member
Hey guys,
as a new (re-) starter at the beginning of another journey down slim road I was wondering what gives you motivation. I found there are two sides to this, the long term goal and the every day little motivational pop up thoughts to help you get past that one bad craving.
Sometimes a long term goal can feel very far away when you have a lot to lose and are caught up in that moment of so desperately wanting to eat something you know you shouldn't, you might just stop caring for that one minute and end up beating yourself up for days over it. So what helps you on a day-to-day basis?
I always used to think as my long term goal as perhaps a holiday. Or that seminar I'm going to in August for a fortnight. But I realised they are actually just my short term goals. Because I don't want to cling to it as a set date and give myself permission to fall into bad habits after. It's a bit of a trap for me to focus solely on that one date for that reason. But these short term goals help me to get through the day. Or sometimes even just that minute of temptation. The thought of fitting into that particular skirt or those nice jeans, how it would feel wearing them. And visiting with my family (who live abroad) who I haven't seen in a long time and not worry about being even bigger than the last time I saw them. Those are the snap shots, mini fire works popping in my mind to give me little bursts of motivation and strength.
So I've been thinking what actually are my long term goals. And it comes down to this. My long term goal is to be a healthy weight, not being concerned of whether I can go on that particular activity with my friends coz I might make the kayak wobble and nearly sink (yep, that happened). I don't want to fret about events and wonder if I'm able to join in on everything. I want to be able to do everything because I choose it, not because it's the only thing I feel safe to do due to my size. I often get defensive or even slightly aggressive with people and I know deep down it's because I take things way to personally because I am uncomfortable in my own skin. So I would like to be a calmer person and just be who I genuinely would be if I wasn't constantly aware of my weight.
That's my long term goal. To just live and enjoy life and all its moments without hindrance.
So what are your goals? What are you looking forward to? And how do you think the weight loss is going to improve your life?
as a new (re-) starter at the beginning of another journey down slim road I was wondering what gives you motivation. I found there are two sides to this, the long term goal and the every day little motivational pop up thoughts to help you get past that one bad craving.
Sometimes a long term goal can feel very far away when you have a lot to lose and are caught up in that moment of so desperately wanting to eat something you know you shouldn't, you might just stop caring for that one minute and end up beating yourself up for days over it. So what helps you on a day-to-day basis?
I always used to think as my long term goal as perhaps a holiday. Or that seminar I'm going to in August for a fortnight. But I realised they are actually just my short term goals. Because I don't want to cling to it as a set date and give myself permission to fall into bad habits after. It's a bit of a trap for me to focus solely on that one date for that reason. But these short term goals help me to get through the day. Or sometimes even just that minute of temptation. The thought of fitting into that particular skirt or those nice jeans, how it would feel wearing them. And visiting with my family (who live abroad) who I haven't seen in a long time and not worry about being even bigger than the last time I saw them. Those are the snap shots, mini fire works popping in my mind to give me little bursts of motivation and strength.
So I've been thinking what actually are my long term goals. And it comes down to this. My long term goal is to be a healthy weight, not being concerned of whether I can go on that particular activity with my friends coz I might make the kayak wobble and nearly sink (yep, that happened). I don't want to fret about events and wonder if I'm able to join in on everything. I want to be able to do everything because I choose it, not because it's the only thing I feel safe to do due to my size. I often get defensive or even slightly aggressive with people and I know deep down it's because I take things way to personally because I am uncomfortable in my own skin. So I would like to be a calmer person and just be who I genuinely would be if I wasn't constantly aware of my weight.
That's my long term goal. To just live and enjoy life and all its moments without hindrance.
So what are your goals? What are you looking forward to? And how do you think the weight loss is going to improve your life?